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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Prudie: Pregnant after Dating 2 Months

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Irresponsibility causes a baby to die.

Idiots.

And I know it's not popular and I'll get flamed again, but I'm used to it, I think the father should have to sign off of abortion as well.

I know men who would raise a child on their own.

They'd be beyond pissed to find out their baby had been ripped apart.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

The fact that we think fathers don't matter anymore is very disturbing.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

A baby is a gift no matter how unexpected it is.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

What seems like a disaster in the moment could be your life's greatest blessing.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

And this blessing could have easily been avoided until later.

ed11563 · Guru

She got pregnant after dating him for a week.

Methinks the lady wants a baby. Deep down inside, she planned this.

Like a woman who tells her companion that she's got her period and can't get pregnant today ... when her last period started two weeks ago, so she's most likely spotting during ovulation.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

ed11563 wrote:
She got pregnant after dating him for a week.
Methinks the lady wants a baby. Deep down inside, she planned this.
Like a woman who tells her companion that she's got her period and can't get pregnant today ... when her last period started two weeks ago, so she's most likely spotting during ovulation.

She needs to own up to her responsibility. And, he does too.

Divine Geek · Guru

ed11563 wrote:
She got pregnant after dating him for a week.
Methinks the lady wants a baby. Deep down inside, she planned this.
Like a woman who tells her companion that she's got her period and can't get pregnant today ... when her last period started two weeks ago, so she's most likely spotting during ovulation.

Some girls are just that stupid. They think it won't happen to them. Like the people who don't wear their seat belts, or drive drunk. They think stuff happens to other people, not them.

she needs to talk to the boyfriend. Yes, it is ultimately her decision what she does, but she should still talk to him. If you do not feel you can have this level of conversation with a guy, you shouldn't be having sex with him.

chef · Guru

I thought I couldn't get pregnant and will have a 2 year old in a week from today. Abortion never crossed my mind.

I have to wonder if her bf would be ok with an abortion. He may not want kids yet but this is still his kid and since the sex was consensual, he should have some say.

ed11563 · Guru

chef wrote:
I thought I couldn't get pregnant and will have a 2 year old in a week from today. Abortion never crossed my mind.

I have to wonder if her bf would be ok with an abortion. He may not want kids yet but this is still his kid and since the sex was consensual, he should have some say.

I wonder how she would react if he said something like, "Good! Let's get married and raise this baby together."

Divine Geek · Guru

ed11563 wrote:
chef wrote:
I thought I couldn't get pregnant and will have a 2 year old in a week from today. Abortion never crossed my mind.

I have to wonder if her bf would be ok with an abortion. He may not want kids yet but this is still his kid and since the sex was consensual, he should have some say.
I wonder how she would react if he said something like, "Good! Let's get married and raise this baby together."

If her answer wouldn't be "yes!" Then, again, she needs to not be having sex - especially carelessly protected sex - with him.

weltschmerz · Guru

Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
chef wrote:
I thought I couldn't get pregnant and will have a 2 year old in a week from today. Abortion never crossed my mind.

I have to wonder if her bf would be ok with an abortion. He may not want kids yet but this is still his kid and since the sex was consensual, he should have some say.
I wonder how she would react if he said something like, "Good! Let's get married and raise this baby together."
If her answer wouldn't be "yes!" Then, again, she needs to not be having sex - especially carelessly protected sex - with him.

Wait...what? I should only be having sex with people I intend to marry?

Divine Geek · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
chef wrote:
I thought I couldn't get pregnant and will have a 2 year old in a week from today. Abortion never crossed my mind.

I have to wonder if her bf would be ok with an abortion. He may not want kids yet but this is still his kid and since the sex was consensual, he should have some say.
I wonder how she would react if he said something like, "Good! Let's get married and raise this baby together."
If her answer wouldn't be "yes!" Then, again, she needs to not be having sex - especially carelessly protected sex - with him.
Wait...what? I should only be having sex with people I intend to marry?

No, you should only be having careless sex with someone you are prepared to have a baby with - and potentially marry.

I have sex with men I have no intention of marrying or having a baby with. But I take precautions to prevent that from happening. this LW needs to be more careful or be prepared for the consequences

weltschmerz · Guru

Divine Geek wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
chef wrote:
I thought I couldn't get pregnant and will have a 2 year old in a week from today. Abortion never crossed my mind.

I have to wonder if her bf would be ok with an abortion. He may not want kids yet but this is still his kid and since the sex was consensual, he should have some say.
I wonder how she would react if he said something like, "Good! Let's get married and raise this baby together."
If her answer wouldn't be "yes!" Then, again, she needs to not be having sex - especially carelessly protected sex - with him.
Wait...what? I should only be having sex with people I intend to marry?
No, you should only be having careless sex with someone you are prepared to have a baby with - and potentially marry.
I have sex with men I have no intention of marrying or having a baby with. But I take precautions to prevent that from happening. this LW needs to be more careful or be prepared for the consequences

Wasn't this yours?

If her answer wouldn't be "yes!" Then, again, she needs to not be having sex - especially carelessly protected sex - with him.

You said she needs to not be having sex with him...then added the rest for good measure.

weltschmerz · Guru

If I say "People shouldn't drink milk.....especially unpasteurized milk", does that mean I approve of milk-drinking?
It does not.

Divine Geek · Guru

I apologize my statement did not come out right the first time. I truly don't care if she (or anyone) has sex with whomever. BUT if you are not prepared to have a baby with the person, you need to be more careful.

weltschmerz · Guru

Divine Geek wrote:
I apologize my statement did not come out right the first time. I truly don't care if she (or anyone) has sex with whomever. BUT if you are not prepared to have a baby with the person, you need to be more careful.

S'Ok.

We're in agreement, then.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

A person shouldn't be having sex unless you are already married to each other.

But in this instant gratification world we are living in, that ain't gonna happen very often.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Divine Geek wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
chef wrote:
I thought I couldn't get pregnant and will have a 2 year old in a week from today. Abortion never crossed my mind.

I have to wonder if her bf would be ok with an abortion. He may not want kids yet but this is still his kid and since the sex was consensual, he should have some say.
I wonder how she would react if he said something like, "Good! Let's get married and raise this baby together."
If her answer wouldn't be "yes!" Then, again, she needs to not be having sex - especially carelessly protected sex - with him.
Wait...what? I should only be having sex with people I intend to marry?
No, you should only be having careless sex with someone you are prepared to have a baby with - and potentially marry.
I have sex with men I have no intention of marrying or having a baby with. But I take precautions to prevent that from happening. this LW needs to be more careful or be prepared for the consequences

You Ho!

weltschmerz · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
A person shouldn't be having sex unless you are already married to each other.

But in this instant gratification world we are living in, that ain't gonna happen very often.

So people who don't get married should never, ever have sex?

LOL!

Divine Geek · Guru

I prefer hussy. wink

ed11563 · Guru

Condoms break, spermicide doesn't.

And careless women skip pills. cry

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
A person shouldn't be having sex unless you are already married to each other.

But in this instant gratification world we are living in, that ain't gonna happen very often.

So people who don't get married should never, ever have sex?
LOL!

Who cares what you do? Just accept responsibility like a grown up.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

That's the big thing.

Pregnancy is 100% preventable.

ed11563 · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
That's the big thing.

Pregnancy is 100% preventable.

Which is why I think she did it on purpose.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
A person shouldn't be having sex unless you are already married to each other.

But in this instant gratification world we are living in, that ain't gonna happen very often.

So people who don't get married should never, ever have sex?
LOL!
Who cares what you do? Just accept responsibility like a grown up.

And I don't care what Lily does.

That being said, she has no right to dictate that people shouldn't be having sex unless they're married to each other.

That's just crazy talk.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Oh, ok. You can accuse her of "crazy talk'? She didn't say anything about YOU. But, I guess you can attack her.

Ohfour · Hooker

Shes not trying to dictate anything. Shes saying what she believes...what a lot of people believe. Its not as foreign as you think. You seem to be surprised that people wait until marriage...

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Btw who was stopped from having sex because of Lilly?

weltschmerz · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Oh, ok. You can accuse her of "crazy talk'? She didn't say anything about YOU. But, I guess you can attack her.

I happen to be a person.

"A person shouldn't be having sex unless you are already married to each other."

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

My post was a general comment.

If someone takes it personally, that's on them.

If you took the whole post and not just the first sentence, you would see I said it isn't going to happen.

And I'm not dictating or judging.

It's my opinion formed from my own life experiences and not following my own advice.

weltschmerz · Guru

Now, if she had said....
"I didn't believe I should have sex before marriage and that's why I waited until my wedding night", that would be different.
But she didn't. And didn't.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

She gave you her opinion. You dont have to agree. But it isnt " crazy talk"

Ohfour · Hooker

I agree with her. Sex should be saved for marriage. You can do what you want, but that doesn't mean I think its ok.

weltschmerz · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
I agree with her. Sex should be saved for marriage. You can do what you want, but that doesn't mean I think its ok.

And you can do what YOU want, but I don't think it's OK.

Ohfour · Hooker

I don't know anyone that doesn't respect a couple for waiting...on the other hand...

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

This couple got pregnant after about a week of dating.

That's crazy to me.

Yes. I understand one night stands happen.

But this pregnancy could have been avoided.

If you don't want to be pregnant, you do EVERYTHING in your power to not get pregnant.

Janies Friend · Newbie

It's one thing to believe that sex should happen only within a marriage and another to live that ideal. And it isn't new or a factor of people today. In the 1700's in colonial America about 1/3 of women were pregnant when they walked down the aisle and in parts of Britain during the same era, the number was up to 50%.

Janies Friend · Newbie

I don't have an opinion one way or the other about waiting until after marriage. I didn't and neither did either of my sisters although it certainly was the expectation of our parents. All of us are still married, > 40 years later.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

This girl is an idiot. Regardless of your stance on having sex or not, she had UNPROTECTED sex with a guy the first week she dated him. Even if she was taking her pills correctly, has anyone ever heard of STDs?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

If you are a grown arse woman you know where babies come from. So being a moron isn't an excuse. And, this is YOUR child, hello.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lawyerlady wrote:
This girl is an idiot. Regardless of your stance on having sex or not, she had UNPROTECTED sex with a guy the first week she dated him. Even if she was taking her pills correctly, has anyone ever heard of STDs?

This is what stuck out for me. They started sleeping together the first week. She didn't know his past. Anyone can lie about their past. She could get any number of diseases.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

lilyofcourse wrote:
A person shouldn't be having sex unless you are already married to each other.

But in this instant gratification world we are living in, that ain't gonna happen very often.

So premarital sex has ONLY existed for what...20 or 30 years?!

flan

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

lilyofcourse wrote:
That's the big thing.

Pregnancy is 100% preventable.

EXCEPT for the FACT that birth control is NOT 100% effective.

flan

Ohfour · Hooker

flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
That's the big thing.

Pregnancy is 100% preventable.

EXCEPT for the FACT that birth control is NOT 100% effective.
flan

She screwed a guy she had known for a week. Shes a total slut. Pregnancy whatever...she should worry more about AIDS.

Divine Geek · Guru

flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
That's the big thing.

Pregnancy is 100% preventable.

EXCEPT for the FACT that birth control is NOT 100% effective.
flan

While true, the LW admitted she was not using her birth control correctly.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
That's the big thing.

Pregnancy is 100% preventable.

EXCEPT for the FACT that birth control is NOT 100% effective.
flan

It's pretty damn close to it when used correctly.

weltschmerz · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
That's the big thing.

Pregnancy is 100% preventable.

EXCEPT for the FACT that birth control is NOT 100% effective.
flan
She screwed a guy she had known for a week. Shes a total slut. Pregnancy whatever...she should worry more about AIDS.

So, you've never "screwed" anyone?

Were a virgin on your wedding night?

weltschmerz · Guru

How come nobody is calling the guy a slut?