Q: Hate job but feel guilty about leaving: I’m 30, and have been working off and on for the same employer since high school. I’ve been with them full time for eight years. My father worked for the same (small) company for 30-plus years as a high level manager, and was unceremoniously let go by the owner’s son (who came on board recently to take over for his own father). He replaced my dad with a college friend of his. This company meant everything to my dad and to have him treated so poorly and then “put out to pasture” has sent us both into a bit of a depression. I like the people I work with and the work I do, but I hate the company and the new owner for how my father has been treated. I want to quit and look for a new job, but leaving would put a burden on the people I work directly with. I know the new owner wouldn’t replace me, so it makes their lives harder, which I don’t want, but I don’t want to work for this guy anymore.
A: Look for a new job, then quit. You don’t want to stay tethered to this company for the rest of your life, which is perfectly understandable, but it’s a lot easier to find a job when you have a job than when you don’t.
Seriously? They canned your dad and you feel "guilty" to move on? Funny, but employers don't ever feel the same "guilt" towards their employees. This is business, you do what is best for YOU and YOUR FAMILY. You owe nothing to them except and honest day's work. They owee nothing to you except to pay you the agreed upon wage and benefits. That's it.
When she leaves and they don't replace her, her coworkers will either pick up the slack or they won't.
Best if they don't.
Well, there is NOBODY who is irreplacable. I have worked where the CEO has gone down and guess what, the place goes on. Even if it doesn't it isn't your problem. But, employers are good at playing the "loyalty" card. But, very few have any qualms about kicking anyone's arse to the curb. You don't "owe" them a damn thing except the time you are contracted for and vice versa.
The company doesn't care if she stays or goes. In some companies employee loyalty means nothing anymore. If she likes the people she works with she can stay in touch with them.
I stayed too long at a job over a misplaced sense of loyalty.
I should have moved on about 2 years before I did.
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I stayed too long at a job over a misplaced sense of loyalty.
I should have moved on about 2 years before I did.
Yes. Who does that serve? No one. If it is time to leave, then leave. You aren't doing anyone any favors. It is just delaying the inevitable. I mean, yes, if you can give a decent amount of notice, then do so. But, sometimes it doesn't work out that way.
Well, I was under the impression I would be getting my own store.
That's why I stayed.
They lied.
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Well if she stays she may see more of her co workers being put out to pasture as well. The new CEO has proven his lack of commitment to the employees and so she should move on. The company is not longer her father spent 30 years working for,
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