TOTALLY GEEKED!

FNW · Guru

RE: Neighbor is horrible cook and keeps trying to feed me

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

FNW wrote:
I don't think my throwing away a dish or two of unpalatable food is going to affect world hunger, but I understand the mentality, particularly from those who lived through the depression or Holodomor, even though that had nothing to do with wasting food but rather genocide.

The point is the "value of food", not necessarily the waste of food. The food in the article was a gift and had value to the individual who gave the gift.

I think most of us missed that point. I include myself.

Most individuals, in general, do not waste food.

FNW · Guru

Which is why I wouldn't refuse the gift, but I might re-gift later.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

weltschmerz wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
FNW wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
When my neighbour up north would give me moose meat, I'd accept it graciously, then feed it to the raccoons. they loved it.
Yep! My parents have done that with the casseroles. They set it out by the stream and the wildlife lap it up.
Yes. Someone is always hungry and someone will always eat it. I never throw food out.
I grew up with horror stories of famine. You don't waste food.
The "starving kids in (insert third world country)" line.
Me too.
I refused to do that with my kids.

Not exactly. My parents went through the Holodomor. A lot of my family members DID starve to death.

Ah. I see. Didn't know that.

Still, I never felt right guilting a kid into eating.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I don't approve of wasting food.

FNW · Guru

I didn't either, but got over it 15 some years ago when I dropped over 30 pounds. I changed my mindset from "I must eat this or else it will go bad I'll have to throw it out" to "If I can't stop eating this I will throw it out." It became a way to keep me from over eating. Now I have stronger willpower, and extra mouths in the house to give it to.

huskerbb · Guru

flan327 wrote:
And what happens when the neighbor invites them for dinner & serves goat?

flan

Um, say no.

huskerbb · Guru

flan327 wrote:
I just can't get over the waste of food.

Act like an adult, FFS.

flan

So...

you care more about a casserole that goes uneaten than about other people. Nice.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

FNW wrote:
I didn't either, but got over it 15 some years ago when I dropped over 30 pounds. I changed my mindset from "I must eat this or else it will go bad I'll have to throw it out" to "If I can't stop eating this I will throw it out." It became a way to keep me from over eating. Now I have stronger willpower, and extra mouths in the house to give it to.

Yeah, I've gotten pretty good at cooking just what I need.

When we have left overs, it's a cereal bowl of something.

Tonight's soup has enough leftover for mine and Caitlyn's lunch tomorrow.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I just can't get over the waste of food.

Act like an adult, FFS.

flan
So...

you care more about a casserole that goes uneaten than about other people. Nice.

And you think the neighbors are NEVER going to find out about the lie? About the fact that the food, that they buy & take the time to prepare, gets THROWN AWAY?

I value honesty, and there is a way to be tactful yet truthful.

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well, we have lost our sense of manners and gratitude. And, we seem to take offense if someone gives us a gift and isn't EXACTLY to our liking and specifications. But, it is a shame to throw out the food all the time too. If this was once a while, like once a month or less, then i would just say to graciously thank her and toss it. However, this does sound like it is much more regular. So, i would gently tell her that I appreciate the time and neighborly generosity, but that you will not be able to accept more food.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well, we have lost our sense of manners and gratitude. And, we seem to take offense if someone gives us a gift and isn't EXACTLY to our liking and specifications. But, it is a shame to throw out the food all the time too. If this was once a while, like once a month or less, then i would just say to graciously thank her and toss it. However, this does sound like it is much more regular. So, i would gently tell her that I appreciate the time and neighborly generosity, but that you will not be able to accept more food.

This is NOT Jamaica.

How many people eat GOAT on a regular basis?

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Did the neighbor bring over goat?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

It's downright laughable what some call honesty.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
It's downright laughable what some call honesty.

People often use "I am just being honest" as the excuse to run roughshod over the feelings and sensibilites of others.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Did the neighbor bring over goat?

You're right, I'm wrong.

That was FNW's second post on the thread.

flan

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

lilyofcourse wrote:
It's downright laughable what some call honesty.

Being passive/aggressive is actually NOT ignoring someone.

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

flan327 wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Did the neighbor bring over goat?
You're right, I'm wrong.
That was FNW's second post on the thread.
flan

I am discussing the Original post by the LW.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
It's downright laughable what some call honesty.

You do not have to be mean to people in the name of honesty. Seriously.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well, "honesty" isn't Absolute Truth. It may "honestly" be YOUR opinion and how you feel but it isn't Absolute Truth. It is simply your opinion and how you feel. I may HONESTLY hate your haircut and may think it looks terrible but that is my subjective opinion. So, yeah, i suppose I can "honestly" tell someone, hey you look like Hell! There are times to be "honest" and times to shut about things that simply are not your business. And, there are also ways to express your "honest opinioin" in a gentle way without being nasty as well.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
It's downright laughable what some call honesty.
You do not have to be mean to people in the name of honesty. Seriously.

I'm sorry if some people can't be tactful AND honest. Seriously.

It's not rocket science.

flan

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well, "honesty" isn't Absolute Truth. It may "honestly" be YOUR opinion and how you feel but it isn't Absolute Truth. It is simply your opinion and how you feel. I may HONESTLY hate your haircut and may think it looks terrible but that is my subjective opinion. So, yeah, i suppose I can "honestly" tell someone, hey you look like Hell! There are times to be "honest" and times to shut about things that simply are not your business. And, there are also ways to express your "honest opinioin" in a gentle way without being nasty as well.

I've already said that twice now.

And a haircut is not wasting food.

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

flan327 wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
It's downright laughable what some call honesty.
You do not have to be mean to people in the name of honesty. Seriously.
I'm sorry if some people can't be tactful AND honest. Seriously.
It's not rocket science.
flan

How do you HONESTLY tell someone you don't like any of their food and/or they are a bad cook without hurting their feelings?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
It's downright laughable what some call honesty.
You do not have to be mean to people in the name of honesty. Seriously.

Oh I know, I was being general.

The things people "won't lie about" compared other dishonest things done.

"Can't stand liars" but have virtually zero intigrety.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Honestly, if someone occassionally brought me their goodies I would accept graciously. But if the gesture was constant I would say something. I have to say I used to have a friend who would clean out her daughter's closet and was constantly giving me bags and bags of old clothes. at first I accepted them and thanked her and found that half the stuff was so stained or ripped I would trash it or the amount of clothing was overwhelming and DD didn't need it that I would donate it. Then I started feeling as if I was her way out of having to haul it all to the donation center. I ended up just thanking her for the thought but that DD was all set for clothes.

huskerbb · Guru

flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I just can't get over the waste of food.

Act like an adult, FFS.

flan
So...

you care more about a casserole that goes uneaten than about other people. Nice.
And you think the neighbors are NEVER going to find out about the lie? About the fact that the food, that they buy & take the time to prepare, gets THROWN AWAY?
I value honesty, and there is a way to be tactful yet truthful.
flan

Not really in this case there is not. what you call tact is mean spirited.

I also notice yiu don't give any examples.

TrudyML · Guru

I turned away Hamburger Helper one night. That is a salt lick.

huskerbb · Guru

TrudyML wrote:
I turned away Hamburger Helper one night. That is a salt lick.

Aww. I like hamburger helper. cry

FNW · Guru

I like hamburger helper, too, but it doesn't like me. Actually it does, it sticks to my belly, hips, etc., and doesn't want to leave.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

I haven't eaten HH in probably 15+ years. I liked the cheeseburger kind. We always used ground venison in it though.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Honestly, if someone occassionally brought me their goodies I would accept graciously. But if the gesture was constant I would say something. I have to say I used to have a friend who would clean out her daughter's closet and was constantly giving me bags and bags of old clothes. at first I accepted them and thanked her and found that half the stuff was so stained or ripped I would trash it or the amount of clothing was overwhelming and DD didn't need it that I would donate it. Then I started feeling as if I was her way out of having to haul it all to the donation center. I ended up just thanking her for the thought but that DD was all set for clothes.

That's very well said. An occasional gesture, yes. But constantly is too much then say something.

huskerbb · Guru

I agree. Frequency would make some difference. Once a week, meh, just let it go.

Three or four times a week--make it stop.

I still think you could just say something like "I dine out so often I can't possibly eat all those meals and they are going to waste."

FNW · Guru

I wonder what Hillary would do...

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I just can't get over the waste of food.

Act like an adult, FFS.

flan
So...

you care more about a casserole that goes uneaten than about other people. Nice.
And you think the neighbors are NEVER going to find out about the lie? About the fact that the food, that they buy & take the time to prepare, gets THROWN AWAY?
I value honesty, and there is a way to be tactful yet truthful.
flan
Not really in this case there is not. what you call tact is mean spirited.

I also notice yiu don't give any examples.

"I'm a picky eater. I appreciate your kind gesture, but don't want your food to go to waste."

flan

TrudyML · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
I turned away Hamburger Helper one night. That is a salt lick.
Aww. I like hamburger helper.

Sorry! Should have boxed it up and mailed it to you! :)

huskerbb · Guru

flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I just can't get over the waste of food.

Act like an adult, FFS.

flan
So...

you care more about a casserole that goes uneaten than about other people. Nice.
And you think the neighbors are NEVER going to find out about the lie? About the fact that the food, that they buy & take the time to prepare, gets THROWN AWAY?
I value honesty, and there is a way to be tactful yet truthful.
flan
Not really in this case there is not. what you call tact is mean spirited.

I also notice yiu don't give any examples.
"I'm a picky eater. I appreciate your kind gesture, but don't want your food to go to waste."
flan

But that isn't true, either. She doesn't say she is generally picky, she just says she doesn't like her neighbors cooking. It's still a lie.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

FNW wrote:
I wonder what Hillary would do...

Her body guards paid for by USA taxpayers would tackle the person and cuff them. And then Hillary would scream"what kind of a woman are you? cooking? You are being oppressed!"

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

FNW wrote:
I wonder what Hillary would do...

Please, Hillary wouldn't touch something cooked by a peasant.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

If someone brings me something I don't like I accept it gracefully and then toss it.