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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby:Parents Make Wedding Threats

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

I like the advise.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Yes, I do as well. I actually think she should elope.

But this makes me curious - "However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates."

Why are family members commenting negatively to "general and inoffensive status updates"?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?

Obviously LW has a different view of of what is offensive or general than her relatives. I don't understand how she is still on the parent's health plan if she is no longer in college and not living in their home. Pretty sure there are laws being broken.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?
Obviously LW has a different view of of what is offensive or general than her relatives. I don't understand how she is still on the parent's health plan if she is no longer in college and not living in their home. Pretty sure there are laws being broken.

Obamacare says that kids can stay on their parent's insurance until they are 26 whether they are in school or not.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Yes, I do as well. I actually think she should elope.

But this makes me curious - "However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates."

Why are family members commenting negatively to "general and inoffensive status updates"?

Well, they aren't "inoffensive" updates if people are commenting negatively. And, the fact that hse has to bring up how she doesn't like her parents' religious or political view makes me think this is more than an "Oh, i booked the caterer today" type comments. Not that it matters, she can say whatever she wants on social media, but so can others respond.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?
Obviously LW has a different view of of what is offensive or general than her relatives. I don't understand how she is still on the parent's health plan if she is no longer in college and not living in their home. Pretty sure there are laws being broken.
Obamacare says that kids can stay on their parent's insurance until they are 26 whether they are in school or not.

OMG are you sh*tting??

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?
Obviously LW has a different view of of what is offensive or general than her relatives. I don't understand how she is still on the parent's health plan if she is no longer in college and not living in their home. Pretty sure there are laws being broken.
Obamacare says that kids can stay on their parent's insurance until they are 26 whether they are in school or not.
OMG are you sh*tting??

Nope. DD works full time and her job does not offer affordable insurance. She is on our insurance because as long as her sister is on it, it costs us nothing to have her on as well. She knows this will only last until she is 26.

huskerbb · Guru

Um, if you don't want them to hold those things over your head--then pay for that crap, yourself.

The wedding is easy--don't have a big wedding.

The other stuff--figure out your own life and pay for them like a big girl.

huskerbb · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?
Obviously LW has a different view of of what is offensive or general than her relatives. I don't understand how she is still on the parent's health plan if she is no longer in college and not living in their home. Pretty sure there are laws being broken.
Obamacare says that kids can stay on their parent's insurance until they are 26 whether they are in school or not.
OMG are you sh*tting??

???? Where have you been? That's absolutely a "thing"--and has been for several years.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

The LW sounds like a bit of a victim. Mom INSISTS on a big , formal wedding, blah, blah. That may be. Well, if there is time, then deformalize the wedding. Cut it back on the spending, etc. You can have a simple church wedding with cake and punch in the church basement. Or, a simple wedding without 100 bridesmaids and a nice luncheon. It doens't have to be Bridezilla goes to Hollywood.

huskerbb · Guru

Also--more stupid facebook drama.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

huskerbb wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?
Obviously LW has a different view of of what is offensive or general than her relatives. I don't understand how she is still on the parent's health plan if she is no longer in college and not living in their home. Pretty sure there are laws being broken.
Obamacare says that kids can stay on their parent's insurance until they are 26 whether they are in school or not.
OMG are you sh*tting??
???? Where have you been? That's absolutely a "thing"--and has been for several years.

I thought the "kid" had to at least be a legal dependent of the parent EG college student.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Don't like it, pay for your own crap.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Good grief, whine, whine, whine.

If you want to be independent, then be independent. Cut the cord girlie.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

just Czech wrote:
Good grief, whine, whine, whine.

If you want to be independent, then be independent. Cut the cord girlie.

This is a DYSFUNCTIONAL relationship. I wonder if she's an only child.

flan

huskerbb · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"I do not agree with my parents' religious or political views and they know that. However, my mother insists on connecting with me on social media and regularly sends me texts criticizing me for responding to family members' negative comments about my very general and inoffensive status updates.:

What in the world does this mean?
Obviously LW has a different view of of what is offensive or general than her relatives. I don't understand how she is still on the parent's health plan if she is no longer in college and not living in their home. Pretty sure there are laws being broken.
Obamacare says that kids can stay on their parent's insurance until they are 26 whether they are in school or not.
OMG are you sh*tting??
???? Where have you been? That's absolutely a "thing"--and has been for several years.
I thought the "kid" had to at least be a legal dependent of the parent EG college student.

Nope. Not anymore.

Lindley · Guru

She sounds very immature. Also just because she thinks something is inoffensive doesn't mean it isn't to someone else. I don't post political stuff on my board because I don't want the storm coming at me from both my cousins.

huskerbb · Guru

Lindley wrote:
She sounds very immature. Also just because she thinks something is inoffensive doesn't mean it isn't to someone else. I don't post political stuff on my board because I don't want the storm coming at me from both my cousins.

I post political crap all the time--and I comment on the political crap other people put on. 90% of the time when they post something controversial, they can't defend their position, at all. They just shared some BS that showed up on their wall.

FNW · Guru

Can a married child remain on their parents' insurance, I wonder?

Really, it doesn't sound as though she's prepared to leave and cleave, two essential elements of a marriage.

huskerbb · Guru

FNW wrote:
Can a married child remain on their parents' insurance, I wonder?

Really, it doesn't sound as though she's prepared to leave and cleave, two essential elements of a marriage.

No, I'm pretty sure once they are married they can't be.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

I hate Facebook.

(Just in case anyone here forgot...)

flan

FNW · Guru

FB can be the root of all evil. But it can also be useful.

Lindley · Guru

FNW wrote:
FB can be the root of all evil. But it can also be useful.

It can be abused like anything else. I put those I don't care to read about on ignore.

Rally · Newbie

FNW wrote:
Can a married child remain on their parents' insurance, I wonder?

Really, it doesn't sound as though she's prepared to leave and cleave, two essential elements of a marriage.

Yes, children can remain on their parent's insurance until they are 26 even if they are married.

ETA: They, however, can not add their spouses or children to the parent's plan.

-- Edited by Rally on Sunday 10th of January 2016 09:56:38 PM

Cheerios4606 · Guru

I kind of sympathize with the letter writer. It seems mom and dad were very generous and offered to pay for wedding, so daughter (? didnt say if it was a he or she) took them up on it. I mean who wouldnt!? Even the cheapest of weddings are expensive nowadays!

Only LATER is it becoming apparent that there are strings attached to them paying for the wedding. My hubby's mother was like this and it was frustrating because he always hated getting gifts cuz it would only be much later that you find out the details of the strings attached. She has been gone for 17 years and he STILL doesn't like getting gifts cuz of the remnant icky feelings behind it.

But imagine her at this stage where things have already been planned and perhaps even deposits put down, and NOW she finds she has to agree to mommy and daddy's antics in order to not have to start the wedding planning over from scratch? No. Nuh uh.

I would suggest to her to put mom on a restrictive access on facebook so that she sees minimal posts, tell mom that she is not going to be bullied into doing or saying anything anywhere, and that mom should either pay for the wedding/cell/insurance/whatever or not, but to make up her mind so that she can plan accordingly.

And then do it.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

She should also unfriend the relatives she argues with.

TrudyML · Guru

FNW wrote:
Can a married child remain on their parents' insurance, I wonder?

Really, it doesn't sound as though she's prepared to leave and cleave, two essential elements of a marriage.

Yes but I advise to cut the cord.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

This girl needs to grow up and grow up fast.