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weltschmerz


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They're just boobies, people!!
They're not dangerous and won't put an eye out!
What's the big deal?

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Except it's not just her boobs, she's nekkid as a j-bird.

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FNW wrote:

I don't live in California, I am licensed in California.

Drones, looking out your window, two very different things.

She didn't target anyone, until she continued to do it, knowing she could be seen.

 No, it really isn't.  It's the same principle.  What should a reasonable person have to do?  A privacy fence is pretty reasonable.  

 

she isn't targeting anyone.  they CHOOSE to look.  Why are they not responsible for their actions?  



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I would be tempted to take a different tactic on this one. If she doesn't feel the need to change her behavior to stop people from gawking, then I wouldn't feel the need to suggest to my male family members that they have to refrain from viewing nature at its best.

Dip anyone?

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I would be tempted to take a different tactic on this one. If she doesn't feel the need to change her behavior to stop people from gawking, then I wouldn't feel the need to suggest to my male family members that they have to refrain from viewing nature at its best.

Dip anyone?

 Well, she doesn't care about that.  It's mom/wife who doesn't like it.

 

sometimes there is just no fair solution.  They each have a right to enjoy their own property.



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I guess this is where common courtesy comes into play. On both sides.

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When we first moved in here, the neighbor to our left, a local school teacher, liked to wear a very, very tiny banana hammock in his backyard.

Now this guy was in his late 70s and a good bit on the rotund side.

So there were times he looked like he was totally naked.

He didn't care one bit.

But then one morning, I get up really early and I am washing my hands and getting breakfast going and I glance out the window.

Our neighbor behind us, about 22 or so, was on his back deck doing yoga.

Naked as a new born baby.

He was just a year older than me at the time, I was single, so of course I opened the window and complemented him on his form.

We were questioning our choice in neighborhoods for a while.

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HAHAHAHA Lily! Too funny.

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If I had my own pool, I'd be swimming naked in it.

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It can go both ways. Can't she complain about voyeurism then?

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If I had my own pool, I'd be swimming naked in it.

 Just don't swim in it the day after you start your cleanse!   biggrin



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Whenitrains wrote:

It can go both ways. Can't she complain about voyeurism then?

 Hey neighbor!  Stop  your pervy kids from jacking off out the window or i will call the police!!biggrin



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Would a reasonable compromise be topless?

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weltschmerz wrote:

They're just boobies, people!!
They're not dangerous and won't put an eye out!
What's the big deal?

 Well, that depends on how close they are!  It's possible.  wink



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Whenitrains wrote:

It can go both ways. Can't she complain about voyeurism then?

 Oh good point! Can she?



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I really don't understand the hang up in this country with nudity. My toddler knows that men and women have different parts and he's only 2. It's just a body. We all have one. Good grief.

Nudist woman should be left alone. Neighbor should talk to her kids about privacy.

Personally, if what my neighbor is doing doesn't affect me one bit, I don't care. And, well, my neighbor swimming naked wouldn't be a concern of mine. Now, if my neighbor were building/operating a meth lab, that I would care about because meth is very unstable during the cooking process and I don't want my house getting damaged if their illegal activity causes their house to go boom. Nor do I want the meth fumes infesting my house.

This reminds me of the hubbub surrounding breastfeeding. Breasts popping out of a bikini? No big deal. Breasts being exposed because the woman is breastfeeding? Scandal!

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This is a fun thread, LOL.  Carry on.  biggrin



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Honeys_Mom wrote:

This is a fun thread, LOL.  Carry on.  biggrin

Roger that!

(Hmmm...with all the cellphones with cameras out there...would I put myself out there, in the buff, for all the world to see?)confuse

Probably not.

I wouldn't want it to go "viral".biggrin 



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I wouldn't feel comfortable swimming nude knowing that I was being watched. The lady in the letter is a former exotic dancer, so she probably doesn't mind people seeing her nude.

The only other thing I have to say is that swimming naked is one of the best feelings. We have to wait until dark because our fence is not tall enough for me to be sure no one can see in our yard.

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Remember when Princess Kate got caught in pictures naked? Scandalous. I walk around the house all the time naked and DH hates it. We have six foot privacy fences though. And honestly, if someone is working that hard to see this body? They're desperate.

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I guess this is where common courtesy comes into play. On both sides.
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"Common courtesy" in this case, to me, would be "Don't gawk at your neighbor doing something natural in her own back yard". I believe the naked swimmer family took care of "common courtesy" when they put up fences and landscaping to make the pool area as private as possible.

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I've swum nude a few times. The best part to me is no clingy clothing sticking all over when you get out of the water.

I'm with Lawyerlady. If I had my own pool, I'd be swimming naked as well. I'd do my best to make it private the same as the Letter Writer did, but still: "My pool. My rules".

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am not sure how the " reasonable man " rule/standard would apply if it's necessary to be two storeys up to see over the fence--there are normally ordinances regulating the height of privacy fences in most developments so if the swimmers have built one then they've done their part to provide for their own privacy

the entire rear part of our property is privacy fenced--8 1/2 feet tall along the sides and 9 feet tall in the very back--we don't have any window coverings on the back of the house at all--we walk around in the buff most of the time ( especially in the summer ) and we like it private--there isn't a two storey home within a half-mile of us--guess if some jackass wants to get a ladder and a telescope or climb up on their rooftop, they'd be able to see over the fence but short of shooting them, you can't stop everyone from being inconsiderate--we just don't worry about it

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I guess if they really wanted to dick with it, they could have some system where they text the neighbors when they are using the pool. Mom can then keep the kids downstairs. It might just give dad a warning on a good time to take a "nap" in the upstairs bedroom, though.

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Or do their nakkedness when the kids are in school or the family is not home?

Personally, I would not want to expose myself to others, particularly children, but I understand there are those who don't give a flying frig about it. But then again, I wouldn't sleep in the same room with any of my boyfriends if there were children visiting. Children came before my personal comfort.

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Or do their nakkedness when the kids are in school or the family is not home?

Personally, I would not want to expose myself to others, particularly children, but I understand there are those who don't give a flying frig about it. But then again, I wouldn't sleep in the same room with any of my boyfriends if there were children visiting. Children came before my personal comfort.

 ????  That's absurd.  They shouldn't have to adapt their schedule to fit the peeping toms.  

 

They are likely, you know, at work when the kids are in school.  The times they want to use the pool are nights and weekends.



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