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Q. Harmony at home: Prudie, let’s see if you can settle an ongoing debate between my husband and me. Let’s a say someone (“Lisa”) is grumpy/cranky/in a bad mood. Is it up to Lisa to reflect and change her attitude (a hard thing to do when cranky!) or is it up to the nongrumpy person (“Frank”) to give some space and not give Lisa a hard time while grumpy? Let’s also assume Lisa is not instigating or attacking Frank but is just not in the mood for conversation and activities.

A: It would be a hard thing indeed if every time someone experienced a negative emotion it became his or her responsibility to immediately turn it into joy and acceptance. Let’s also assume that Lisa is not coming home every day under a cloud of silent fury, merely that she experiences the occasional frustration that comes with the condition of being alive. She should be allowed to take a little time and space to deal with her bad mood, not forced into instant cheerfulness. If that’s hard for Frank to deal with, let Frank take a walk or read a good book.

 

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2016/01/dear_prudence_how_should_an_atheist_express_sympathy_without_sending_prayers.2.html



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As always, there should be some compromise.

If grumpy spouse needs some time to decompress after a bad day, happy spouse shouldn't be trying to force them to "cheer up".

At the same time, grumpy spouse has to realize that this can't be a constant situation, and can't last all night.

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I agree. If you are chronically grumpy, that doesn't give you license to go about peeing on other people's parades. You have a duty to temper your mood for the sake of others. On the other hand, the Happy Peppy Puppy Smile Police are highly annoying and everyone doesnt' have to barf up cheer and rainbows everywhere they go either!

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

I agree. If you are chronically grumpy, that doesn't give you license to go about peeing on other people's parades. You have a duty to temper your mood for the sake of others. On the other hand, the Happy Peppy Puppy Smile Police are highly annoying and everyone doesnt' have to barf up cheer and rainbows everywhere they go either!


 I demand rainbow barf!



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We all have the occasional grumpy mood.

I agree with Husker.



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