In this case, it is proper to use Mr. and Mrs. Dean Wooley. Spell out the husband’s first name. If you decide to include the husband's middle name, it should be spelled out, not abbreviated as an initial.
Single Female
In the case of a single female guest, it is proper to use Ms. if she is over age 16 or 18. If she is younger, than Miss is the acceptable choice.
Hyphenated Last Name
In the case of a wife who has chosen to hyphenate her last name, then she should be addressed using Ms. (Mrs. is also acceptable) + her first name + maiden name + married name: Mr. David Crosby and Ms. Lynn Carter-Crosby.
Unmarried Couple Living Together
The word "and" was once used to represent a marriage, a union. This rule no longer applies. In the case of a couple who is living together, address the male first, followed by the female: Mr. Luke Davis and Ms. Mary Carter.
Divorced Female Who Kept Her Married Name
After a divorce, a woman might keep her married name. In this instance, it is okay to use Mrs. or Ms. to address the guest and use her first name (spelled out). It is often best to find out what she prefers to go by.
Same Sex Couple
In this case, it is totally acceptable to put either guest first. If you can’t decide, address them in alphabetical order.
Widow
Traditionally, a widow retains her husband's name until she remarries. Some widows prefer to use their own first name as well. In this case, it is best to ask what she prefers. Mrs. John Dunlop or Mrs. Jane Dunlop would be acceptable.
Divorced Female Who Uses Her Maiden Name
After a divorce, a woman often stops using her husband's last name. Addressing her by either Ms. or Mrs. is acceptable.
Married Couple, Both Doctors
In the case of married doctors and the wife has taken her husband's last name, it is proper to use: The Doctors. Another acceptable option: Drs. Barbara and John Kline.
Wife is a Doctor
If her husband is not a "doctor," address invitations to Dr. Linda Smith and Mr. Mark Smith. Her name comes first because her professional title "outranks" his social title.
Married Doctors With Different Last Names
If both guests are doctors, but she has chosen to keep her last name, it is appropriate to address her first and with both full names: Doctor Maura Lydel and Doctor John Morris.
Wife is a Commissioned Officer
If her husband is not a "Captain," address invitations to Captain Sara Trace and Mr. Jake Trace. Her name comes first because her professional title "outranks" his social title.
Husband is a Retired Commissioned Officer
In this case, it is important to recognize the husband's position or ranking: Colonel and Mrs. Kurt Shaw.
Husband is a Non-Commissioned Officer or Enlisted Man
Husband is a Judge
In this case it is appropriate to recognize a title, such as a judge: The Honorable Judd Walter and Mrs. Walter.
Wife is the Judge
If her husband is not a judge, address invitations to the Honorable Ann Lewis and Mr. John Lewis. Her name comes first because her professional title "outranks" his social title.
-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Wednesday 27th of January 2016 02:41:53 PM
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In this case, it is proper to use Mr. and Mrs. Dean Wooley. Spell out the husband’s first name. If you decide to include the husband's middle name, it should be spelled out, not abbreviated as an initial.
That wouldn't fly here.
A woman keeps her own name. She doesn't become an extension of her husband.
I a perfectly happy being an extension. But DH has some friends' whose wives kept their name. For the sake of brevity, I usually address it, "The Smith-Jones Family", with Smith being the wife's name.
I am going to be addressing 100 formal invitations in about a week. I needed to brush up on the etiquette.
I've been doing right. The only change to the list is the same sex couple.
The only thing I can't find is how to address to a family.
Do you do
Mr. David Smith and family
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I a perfectly happy being an extension. But DH has some friends' whose wives kept their name. For the sake of brevity, I usually address it, "The Smith-Jones Family", with Smith being the wife's name.
It didn't bother me either. Was proud to take his name. I wasn't an extention. I was his wife.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Yeah. I don't understand why people have a problem with taking a husband's name.
Unless it was a very good reason.
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It's funny, because DH's ex-wife went so far as to legally change her name BACK to her maiden name years after she and DH were married, while they were married and together. It was very hurtful to DH. So when he met me and decided he wanted to marry me, he worried that I would not want to take his name because of the similarities between his last name and my first. No way in heck I was keeping my maiden name.
I a perfectly happy being an extension. But DH has some friends' whose wives kept their name. For the sake of brevity, I usually address it, "The Smith-Jones Family", with Smith being the wife's name.
But, But then you are implying inviting the entire family! Boy do I see a Dear Prudence letter in your future.
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It's funny, because DH's ex-wife went so far as to legally change her name BACK to her maiden name years after she and DH were married, while they were married and together. It was very hurtful to DH. So when he met me and decided he wanted to marry me, he worried that I would not want to take his name because of the similarities between his last name and my first. No way in heck I was keeping my maiden name.
So your name is Jackie Jackson?
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It's pretty surprised that the OP didn't cover how to address married couples where the wife has kept her birth name. Every invitation we have ever received has screwed it up in one way or another.
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In this case, it is proper to use Mr. and Mrs. Dean Wooley. Spell out the husband’s first name. If you decide to include the husband's middle name, it should be spelled out, not abbreviated as an initial.
That wouldn't fly here.
A woman keeps her own name. She doesn't become an extension of her husband.
It's pretty surprised that the OP didn't cover how to address married couples where the wife has kept her birth name. Every invitation we have ever received has screwed it up in one way or another.
I think it kind of did.
Under the Unmarried Couple Living Together.
I mean yeah you're married, but wouldn't it be the same protocol?
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Well, unless she has a higher professional title, etiquette says the male is always first.
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You know, I'm not got to help you turn this into a fight.
If that's how YOU feel, fine.
-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Wednesday 27th of January 2016 10:50:40 PM
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Well, unless she has a higher professional title, etiquette says the male is always first.
The Emily Post article I read said that is not the case - for the third time. It's alphabetical.
Well, I will try to remember if it comes up.
I know that's what it says for same sex couple.
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