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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: House Overwhelmed with Christmas Decorations

Lindley · Guru

I think my husband may have wrote this letter. I love Christmas decorations.

Ohfour · Hooker

Yep, this is me. And since i broke my foot, i cant take it all down. So i hired someone. Shes coming today...

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Mom didn't really go crazy with Christmas decorations, BUT every room had a "theme:" the yellow room had bunnies, the blue room was bears, etc.

It got kind of overwhelming at times.

flan

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

It's what? An 8 week imposition?

You have 44 weeks of the year without it.

Deal.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

lilyofcourse wrote:
It's what? An 8 week imposition?

You have 44 weeks of the year without it.

Deal.

WHY? Why can't they compromise?

flan

FNW · Guru

I can't imagine being married to a man who rained on my Christmas parade. Actually I can. It was the worst. He had a fit when I wanted a tree one year because he didn't want to spend $30.00 at Home Depot for a fresh cut. Said we couldn't afford it. Then went out and bought a new laser printer, back when laser printers were new technology and cost around $1000.00. RB

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

LW should compromise. He has as much right to celebrate his way as she does hers. It's called being a grown up. Pretty simple, IMHO.

FNW, your ex was a jerk.

Ohfour · Hooker

My husband sees how much joy decorating for Christmas brings me. He would never want to squash that. LW is an ass...

-- Edited by Ohfour on Saturday 6th of February 2016 12:04:10 PM

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Well, we actually don't know HOW the house looks. If it could qualify for an episode of "Hoarders," then scale back a bit.

flan

-- Edited by flan327 on Saturday 6th of February 2016 12:14:03 PM

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Ohfour wrote:
Yep, this is me. And since i broke my foot, i cant take it all down. So i hired someone. Shes coming today...

LOL, I thought of you when I read the letter!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I think the compromise should be a couple of off limits rooms. The bedroom and bathroom don't need to be done. But asking to skip EVERYTHING every other year is a bit much.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
I think the compromise should be a couple of off limits rooms. The bedroom and bathroom don't need to be done. But asking to skip EVERYTHING every other year is a bit much.

He never said skip "everything"--he said tree and stockings on the mantle is what he wanted, not nothing.

huskerbb · Guru

just Czech wrote:
LW should compromise. He has as much right to celebrate his way as she does hers. It's called being a grown up. Pretty simple, IMHO.

FNW, your ex was a jerk.

He is willing to compromise--it's his wife who is not.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

He's tired of it. They can compromise in some way. Some people have their Christmas stuff up for months.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
I think the compromise should be a couple of off limits rooms. The bedroom and bathroom don't need to be done. But asking to skip EVERYTHING every other year is a bit much.
He never said skip "everything"--he said tree and stockings on the mantle is what he wanted, not nothing.

No, he actually didn't say what he wanted - he said what he used to have growing up. We have no idea what he presented as "my way" to his wife.

But, it just seems dumb. If it makes her happy, it's only for a month each year. Ask for a couple of rooms to be decoration free so he can have those, and get over it.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

She doensnt have to take over the WHOLE house with crap. They can compromise. She could put all her crap up from Dec 1 to Jan 1 and then take it down or something like that. Or, only decorate certain rooms or whatever. It's his house too and he has a right to say what he does or doesn't like. It doesn't sound like a control freak who only wants things his way. But, sounds like he is willing to at least talk and come up with some compromise.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
I think the compromise should be a couple of off limits rooms. The bedroom and bathroom don't need to be done. But asking to skip EVERYTHING every other year is a bit much.
He never said skip "everything"--he said tree and stockings on the mantle is what he wanted, not nothing.
No, he actually didn't say what he wanted - he said what he used to have growing up. We have no idea what he presented as "my way" to his wife.

But, it just seems dumb. If it makes her happy, it's only for a month each year. Ask for a couple of rooms to be decoration free so he can have those, and get over it.

We can assume since he brought that up he would be happy with that and it is highly likely that is what he presented as his compromise--which is more than reasonable.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I didn't realize some printed bath towells were so suffocating.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I'm wondering just how much it really is.

Towels and soap in the bathroom? Isn't there always towels and soap in the bathroom?

Two trees? He doesn't say how big either of them are. One could an 8 foot massive behemoth of a tree, and the other could be a 2 foot tabletop tree.

Knick-knacks? Is there stuff on every surface or does a table have some candless?

Door knobs? Is it a door hanger or a leather band of bells?

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
I'm wondering just how much it really is.

Towels and soap in the bathroom? Isn't there always towels and soap in the bathroom?

Two trees? He doesn't say how big either of them are. One could an 8 foot massive behemoth of a tree, and the other could be a 2 foot tabletop tree.

Knick-knacks? Is there stuff on every surface or does a table have some candless?

Door knobs? Is it a door hanger or a leather band of bells?

If it wasn't above and beyond every experience he ever had either growing up or with neighbors and friends--it wouldn't be an issue.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

You don't know that.

I know people who never decorate.

I know people who call 1 tree too much.

I know people who turn their house into Santa's workshop and say it isn't enough.

What is too much for one, may be just right for another.

Still, the towels and soap in the bathroom comment makes me think he is exaggerating.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
You don't know that.

I know people who never decorate.

I know people who call 1 tree too much.

I know people who turn their house into Santa's workshop and say it isn't enough.

What is too much for one, may be just right for another.

Still, the towels and soap in the bathroom comment makes me think he is exaggerating.

Me, too. What difference does it make if the towels have Christmas decorations on them or are plain or if the soap smells like cranberries? If he's really complaining about that when it makes his wife happy, he is a scrooge.

Lindley · Guru

I put decorative towels in the guest bathroom and Christmas hand soap& lotion from pier 1 imports (love it) in both bathroom and kitchen.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I'm wondering if he would flip out if there were other seasonal soaps and towels.

Nothing is more annoying than those dang bunny soaps.

Or flag soaps.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Heart shaped soaps at Valentine's must send him over the edge.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

He says not even a doorknob is safe from decorations. So, it's probably annoying when you are opening closet doors or other doors and have some cutesy chinese crap hanging off it. So, why does that make HIM unreasonable. It's his house too. Doesn't he get a say?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
He says not even a doorknob is safe from decorations. So, it's probably annoying when you are opening closet doors or other doors and have some cutesy chinese crap hanging off it. So, why does that make HIM unreasonable. It's his house too. Doesn't he get a say?

It's a very short time out of the year. As long as he's not the one having to put it out or put it away - it's really not a big deal.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
He says not even a doorknob is safe from decorations. So, it's probably annoying when you are opening closet doors or other doors and have some cutesy chinese crap hanging off it. So, why does that make HIM unreasonable. It's his house too. Doesn't he get a say?
It's a very short time out of the year. As long as he's not the one having to put it out or put it away - it's really not a big deal.

You don't know that. I know people who have decorations up for Months and months. She very likely could start putting them out in Oct and not taking them down to till Feb. You are making the assumption based on what you do. It doesn't say one way or the other.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
He says not even a doorknob is safe from decorations. So, it's probably annoying when you are opening closet doors or other doors and have some cutesy chinese crap hanging off it. So, why does that make HIM unreasonable. It's his house too. Doesn't he get a say?
It's a very short time out of the year. As long as he's not the one having to put it out or put it away - it's really not a big deal.
You don't know that. I know people who have decorations up for Months and months. She very likely could start putting them out in Oct and not taking them down to till Feb. You are making the assumption based on what you do. It doesn't say one way or the other.

And you don't know that it's not simply for 2 weeks.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
He says not even a doorknob is safe from decorations. So, it's probably annoying when you are opening closet doors or other doors and have some cutesy chinese crap hanging off it. So, why does that make HIM unreasonable. It's his house too. Doesn't he get a say?
It's a very short time out of the year. As long as he's not the one having to put it out or put it away - it's really not a big deal.
You don't know that. I know people who have decorations up for Months and months. She very likely could start putting them out in Oct and not taking them down to till Feb. You are making the assumption based on what you do. It doesn't say one way or the other.
And you don't know that it's not simply for 2 weeks.

I didn't say I did. YOu are the one claiming it's only for a "very short time" when you don't know that to be the case. But, even still, HE doesn't like it. Doesnt' he have any say in his own home?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
He says not even a doorknob is safe from decorations. So, it's probably annoying when you are opening closet doors or other doors and have some cutesy chinese crap hanging off it. So, why does that make HIM unreasonable. It's his house too. Doesn't he get a say?
It's a very short time out of the year. As long as he's not the one having to put it out or put it away - it's really not a big deal.
You don't know that. I know people who have decorations up for Months and months. She very likely could start putting them out in Oct and not taking them down to till Feb. You are making the assumption based on what you do. It doesn't say one way or the other.
And you don't know that it's not simply for 2 weeks.
I didn't say I did. YOu are the one claiming it's only for a "very short time" when you don't know that to be the case. But, even still, HE doesn't like it. Doesnt' he have any say in his own home?

Because the NORMAL assumption would be that it would be during the holiday season, which is a month - 6 weeks at most. You are the one having to make ridiculous assumptions that she keeps the decorations up for MONTHS and MONTHS in order to argue a point.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

OK? I said we don't KNOW. Which means you don't know that it is a "very short time" either.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
OK? I said we don't KNOW. Which means you don't know that it is a "very short time" either.

I think one month out of 12 is a short time. That's the normal time for Christmas decorations. For you to argue - you have to make it about NOT normal, when we don't know.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
OK? I said we don't KNOW. Which means you don't know that it is a "very short time" either.
I think one month out of 12 is a short time. That's the normal time for Christmas decorations. For you to argue - you have to make it about NOT normal, when we don't know.

One month? Where does it say that?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
OK? I said we don't KNOW. Which means you don't know that it is a "very short time" either.
I think one month out of 12 is a short time. That's the normal time for Christmas decorations. For you to argue - you have to make it about NOT normal, when we don't know.
One month? Where does it say that?

That is the NORMAL time for Christmas decorations, Gaga. Since it doesn't say how long, that is the normal time frame to allot. In order to make your point, you have to allot a NOT normal time frame. Or are you going to argue that one month is not the normal time frame since it seems your posts are just about arguing with anything and everything today?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Putting crap on EVERY knob doesnt' seem all that "normal" to me.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Putting crap on EVERY knob doesnt' seem all that "normal" to me.

It doesn't say EVERY knob.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

My points are just as valid as yours. You keep assuming this is a "normal" amount of decorating over a "normal" time frame. Well, you don't know that to be the case one way or the other and neither do I. So, i guess i can 'argue' about one way or the other as that is kind of the point of a "discussion".

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
Heart shaped soaps at Valentine's must send him over the edge.

Well, that's just nutty.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

"Not even a doorknob is safe from decoration"

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
"Not even a doorknob is safe from decoration"

"a" does not mean "all". She probably puts one of those bell jinglers on the front door. Big deal. Between that and the poinsetta soap, it's shocking he doesn't break out in hives. evileye

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

This is THEIR marriage & if his wife loves him...she should at least listen to him. Maybe this is his "dirty cup left in the sink." He has a right to his feelings.

flan

p.s. And Christmas comes even without a tree.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Not sure what it says about me that I use my Christmas, Halloween, Valentines, and Fourth of July hand towels year round.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Not sure what it says about me that I use my Christmas, Halloween, Valentines, and Fourth of July hand towels year round.

If you're like me, it means that you bought them on sale after the holiday!

flan

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

flan327 wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Not sure what it says about me that I use my Christmas, Halloween, Valentines, and Fourth of July hand towels year round.
If you're like me, it means that you bought them on sale after the holiday!
flan

Exactly. Never pay full price. And I just use them. They're hand towels.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

flan327 wrote:
This is THEIR marriage & if his wife loves him...she should at least listen to him. Maybe this is his "dirty cup left in the sink." He has a right to his feelings.

flan

p.s. And Christmas comes even without a tree.

And that goes the other way, too. If decorating the house for Christmas makes her happy and he loves his wife, he should just deal with it.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:
This is THEIR marriage & if his wife loves him...she should at least listen to him. Maybe this is his "dirty cup left in the sink." He has a right to his feelings.

flan

p.s. And Christmas comes even without a tree.
And that goes the other way, too. If decorating the house for Christmas makes her happy and he loves his wife, he should just deal with it.

Again, we don't KNOW how the house is decorated.

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

flan327 wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:
This is THEIR marriage & if his wife loves him...she should at least listen to him. Maybe this is his "dirty cup left in the sink." He has a right to his feelings.

flan

p.s. And Christmas comes even without a tree.
And that goes the other way, too. If decorating the house for Christmas makes her happy and he loves his wife, he should just deal with it.
Again, we don't KNOW how the house is decorated.
flan

That matters not at all when you start using the "if it makes them happy and they love them" mentality.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Door knob decor.

This

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Vs.

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-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Monday 8th of February 2016 09:47:06 AM