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My BIL is getting married this summer and they chose a lodge in a fancy yet rustic location out west.  The reception is going to be in a converted barn.  My SIL thinks its ok to wear flip flops.  Please back me up that this is not the case.  

Also, BIL and his future bride just made a very expensive registry which is super annoying.  They both are well off, in their 30's own their own property and this is her second marriage.  You'd think they'd go a little low key.  Thoughts on registries?



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I hate flip flops, but you see a lot of young women wear them with dresses.

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Flip flops? To a wedding?
You've got to be kidding! No. No flip flops.

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No to the flip flops.

I hate registries. Please do not tell me what I have to buy you, thank you very much.

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Totally depends on your definition of flip flops. The cheap vinyl ones from Old Navy? No.

More expensive that are really just open back sandals? Depends on the formality of the occasion.



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N to the O for the flip flops. And disregard the registry. Get them cushy bath robes and done. ;)

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I vote no on the flip flops regardless of style. I also vote no on the registry. I am of the opinion that registries are for couples just starting out to help them set up a household. Tech and I are not registering, and if anyone asks, we are going to let them know that we prefer to not receive gifts. We just want our peeps to come and celebrate with us.

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Nice sandals sure. Flip flops no way. I use a registry as a guideline. Maybe get a gift card to one of the stores they are registered at in an amount you want to give.

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I may not be proper but I will purchase something off a registry for young couples who are just starting out and it is their first marriage but couples who have already a home and already have household items I will give them something more personal gifts. My brother and his 2nd wife didn't have a registry and so I gave them a throw blanket with their married name embroidered on it.

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Nice sandals, no flip flops. Those may be okay at a beach wedding, although it's usually barefoot.

Registries, meh. They are old fashioned, and not necessarily in a bad way.

Personally, I had a registry when I got married at 18. When I got married at 40, nope. The present of their presence was sufficient. Although receiving a silver tray with my DH's grandparents silver wedding anniversary engraved on it was a bit odd. Particularly when it came from MIL, and the grandparents were the parents of DH's father, from whom MIL was divorced.

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Flip flops are not acceptable wedding attire.
It is acceptable to go off registry when purchasing a gift.

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Ohfour wrote:

Totally depends on your definition of flip flops. The cheap vinyl ones from Old Navy? No.

More expensive that are really just open back sandals? Depends on the formality of the occasion.

 Yeah this.



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The registry thing? Ignore. Doesn't mean you can't get them a nice gift. I know one couple that put $900 coffee maker + on their registry, No one gave it to them. I was "forced" to have a registry. Eh so I registered for new everyday dishes and china, wine glasses and drink glasses and new bath towels. Some people were very creative and gave GC's to a lighting place since we had just built a house. That was awesome.

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At every wedding reception I have ever been to, there isn't a woman with shoes on about 20 minutes into it.

And I've seen flip flops provided at receptions.



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At every wedding reception I have ever been to, there isn't a woman with shoes on about 20 minutes into it.

And I've seen flip flops provided at receptions.

 I'll never understand why women buy shoes that hurt their feet that bad.



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Bonny22Pye wrote:
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At every wedding reception I have ever been to, there isn't a woman with shoes on about 20 minutes into it.

And I've seen flip flops provided at receptions.

 I'll never understand why women buy shoes that hurt their feet that bad.

 It isn't always about hurting feet.

Sometimes the floor is too slick.

 



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Tangerine wrote:

Flip flops are not acceptable wedding attire.
It is acceptable to go off registry when purchasing a gift.

 Agree to a T.



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lilyofcourse wrote:
Bonny22Pye wrote:
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At every wedding reception I have ever been to, there isn't a woman with shoes on about 20 minutes into it.

And I've seen flip flops provided at receptions.

 I'll never understand why women buy shoes that hurt their feet that bad.

 It isn't always about hurting feet.

Sometimes the floor is too slick.

 

 At DDs wedding, we provided flip flops for those that were wearing heels. Then again, her reception was 6 hours long...



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There were plenty of ladies in stocking feet or barefoot at my wedding, including me.
I don't see anything wrong with that.
No one showed up in flip flops though.

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I would never wear flip flops to a wedding . I have taken off my heels after hours (hours, not 20 min) of dancing and being on my feet all day in the wedding party.

I can get pretty judgey about registries. So if I don't like it I pick out something else that I think they will like.

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lilyofcourse wrote:

At every wedding reception I have ever been to, there isn't a woman with shoes on about 20 minutes into it.

And I've seen flip flops provided at receptions.

Why wear shoes to the wedding at all? 



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Have you seen these?

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Those would be cute for the beach or the pool.

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Or anytime.

People go barefoot a lot around here.

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Or anytime.

People go barefoot a lot around here.

I hope your tetanus shot is up to date. 



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Have you seen these?

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 I have a beautiful set that I inherited from my grandmother. She got them when she lived in Taiwan. 

I wear them poolside sometimes. 



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Flip flops? Absolutely juvenile. Don't even THINK of wearing them to a wedding, no matter how "rustic" it might be. Sandals, flats, yes. FFs? NO!

Registry? Use it as a GUIDE to their tastes. In their 30's? Don't look to your guests to feather your nest - you should have been doing that for the last 10-15 years.

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weltschmerz wrote:
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Or anytime.

People go barefoot a lot around here.

I hope your tetanus shot is up to date. 

 Yep, and whenever I see someone going barefoot a lot I don't want them walking in my house without putting flip flops on.  And keep your filthy bare feet off my ottoman! smile



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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

Those would be cute for the beach or the pool.

 Yes, a BEACH wedding, if it's casual.

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What do the Bride and Groom want? If they are casual people, maybe they dont' care. However, you should wear what you feel comfortable in and if isn't flip flops then dont' wear them.

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Ok - I would not wear flip flops to a wedding, but even more, I would not wear flip flops to a barn.


Buy what you want - a registry is for suggestions if you need them, that is all.

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flan327 wrote:
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Those would be cute for the beach or the pool.

 Yes, a BEACH wedding, if it's casual.

flan

 Those pretty beaded not sandal things would be beautiful for a beach wedding.  DN wants to get married on the beach.  She wants exactly five people at her wedding besides her and Saparkly.



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Have you seen these?

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Now I won't be able to un-see them! 



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Cheerios4606 wrote:

N to the O for the flip flops. And disregard the registry. Get them cushy bath robes and done. ;)

 I always go with Neiman Marcus signature bath sheets smile



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TrudyML wrote:
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Have you seen these?

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Now I won't be able to un-see them! 

 I might suggest these for DN for a beach wedding.



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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
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Have you seen these?

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Now I won't be able to un-see them! 

 I might suggest these for DN for a beach wedding.

 I've seen these lots of times. They're gorgeous.

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Lexxy wrote:
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N to the O for the flip flops. And disregard the registry. Get them cushy bath robes and done. ;)

 I always go with Neiman Marcus signature bath sheets smile

Can't wait! 



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TrudyML wrote:
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N to the O for the flip flops. And disregard the registry. Get them cushy bath robes and done. ;)

 I always go with Neiman Marcus signature bath sheets smile

Can't wait! 

 Do you want them monogramed?



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Sure! Whatever you think!

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flan327 wrote:
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Have you seen these?

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Now I won't be able to un-see them! 

 I might suggest these for DN for a beach wedding.

 I've seen these lots of times. They're gorgeous.

flan

 They'd be gorgeous for a beach wedding with less than ten people.  My SIL's ex husband, the father of her son, got remarried in FL.  They had a beach wedding and everyone went barefoot.  Even the bride.  Only the kids were in the wedding.  His son and her two girls.  The girls wore cute matching sundresses and the dad and son wore khaki shorts with button down shirts in the same color as the sundresses.  It was really a nice wedding.



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A similar version of those were popular in the 70's. The ones in the picture are much prettier.

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Knarly feet in that last picture.

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They look like normal feet to me.

You'd have a spasm if you saw mine.

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I think they look tacky. Especially with that "rope" around the toe. Yuck. Don't... wear that to your wedding.

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