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I regret every single thing that happened that day': Man, 36, recounts what it was like to accidentally shoot and kill his sister when he was just 10 years old 

  • When Sean Smith was ten he accidentally shot dead his sister, eight
  • He killed her with his parents' revolver while they were at home in Florida
  • Sean, now 36, has spoken out about the horror of that night 
  • Mum Lee also describes the pain of losing a child in such traumatic circumstances
  • Sean fell into a 'dark place' in his teens but the birth of his son 'saved him'  

By ALEXANDRA GENOVA FOR DAILYMAIL.COM

PUBLISHED: 19:08 EST, 8 February 2016 | UPDATED: 04:22 EST, 9 February 2016

 

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The night of June 5, 1989 will haunt Sean Smith forever.

He was ten-years-old at the time and home alone with younger sister Erin, 8.

 

They had gone into their parents' bedroom in search of a video game but instead, Sean found a  38-caliber revolver in his father's dresser.

The young boy began playing with the gun and - unaware that it was loaded - pulled the trigger, fatally shooting his sister in the chest.

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When he was ten years old, Sean Smith, 36, accidentally shot and killed his eight-year-old sister at their Florida home with their parents revolver that he found in his father's drawer 
 
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When he was ten years old, Sean Smith, 36, accidentally shot and killed his eight-year-old sister at their Florida home with their parents revolver that he found in his father's drawer 

A recording of Sean's panicked phone call to 911 following the incident was played out to news stations across the country
He is heard saying: 'I didn't know my dad's gun was loaded and I shot her...she's dead' Pictured: The siblings when they were children
 

A recording of Sean's panicked phone call to 911 following the incident was played out to news stations across the country. He is heard saying: 'I didn't know my dad's gun was loaded and I shot her...she's dead' Pictured: The siblings when they were children

What followed was a frantic call to 911, a recording of which was played in news stations across the country.

In the harrowing clip, a frightened young Sean can be heard saying: 'I didn't know my dad's gun was loaded and I shot her...she's dead.

The 911 operator says: 'She's dead?'

And a terrified Sean replies: 'Yes. Please get my mom and dad. Oh my God…'

Within two weeks of Erin's shooting, five Florida children were accidentally shot with their parents' guns.

If Sean could speak to his sister today he would tell her he was sorry and that he regrets 'every single thing that happened that day'. Pcitured: A tattoo on Sean's arm in memory of his sister 
 
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If Sean could speak to his sister today he would tell her he was sorry and that he regrets 'every single thing that happened that day'. Pcitured: A tattoo on Sean's arm in memory of his sister 

These tragedies lead the state legislature to pass a gun safety bill punishing anyone who leaves a firearm within reach of a child. 

Sean is now 36 and has told the story of what happened on that fateful night.

Speaking to Storycorp he said: 'I remember taking the gun out.

'My sister was off to the side of the room.

'I distinctly remember her saying: "You should put it back"— and she ran across as my finger hit the trigger. It went off and, in a flash, she was down.'

Mum Lee (centre) told Storycorp that she also struggled with coming to terms with it. She said that when people asked her about her children she would say they were '41, 36 and eternally 8'
 
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Mum Lee (centre) told Storycorp that she also struggled with coming to terms with it. She said that when people asked her about her children she would say they were '41, 36 and eternally 8'

He says his ears were still ringing from the shot as he cradled his sister in his lap, while he held his hand over the wound. 

Sean said that he had tried CPR - but it was no use. 

In the interview with Storycorp, Sean's mum Lee also reveals what it felt like for her to absorb the awful shock of losing a child in such tragic circumstances.

Lee tells Sean that the day Erin died was a 'blur' and what made it more difficult to process was that she couldn't be mad at anyone.

She said: 'We had nobody to get mad at, because how can you get mad at a 10-year-old little boy?'

Sean had tried to work through the immense guilt he felt with his father but, he said, this did not help as the loss of a sister only one year apart in age was just too painful to compute.

Mum Lee told Storycorp that she also struggled with coming to terms with it.

She said that when people asked her about her children she would say they were '41, 36 and eternally 8'.

But the full impact of what he had done hit Sean in his teens.

He told how he dropped out of high school and abused drugs. 



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"I was on a dark track,' he said. 'But then my son Dylan was born and I didn't want to go back to that life anymore. So my son pretty much saved my life.'
But his mum is worried that Sean is still not okay and said: 'I'm worried that this is going to haunt you forever.
If Sean could speak to his sister today he would tell her he was sorry and that he regrets 'every single thing that happened that day'.


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This is the result when some idiot leaves a loaded gun in the reach of children. It destroys not just one life but the lives of the family and devestates the child who inadvertanly pulled the trigger.

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He was 10. I was hunting by then--so I was loading my own guns.

Teach your kids not to play with crap that isn't theirs.

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He was 10. I was hunting by then--so I was loading my own guns.

Teach your kids not to play with crap that isn't theirs.

 I agree.  A ten year old should have known better.



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This is illogical. Would you let your child play on the edge of a cliff and say "don't go to close to the edge honey". That is no different. That is an adult abdicating his/her responsibility and putting the responsibility for the child's safety on the child. If it was a matter of simply saying you told the child and the child "should know better", then obviously you would not have any problem with having your children play on the edge of a cliff because By God they should know better.

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

This is illogical. Would you let your child play on the edge of a cliff and say "don't go to close to the edge honey". That is no different. That is an adult abdicating his/her responsibility and putting the responsibility for the child's safety on the child. If it was a matter of simply saying you told the child and the child "should know better", then obviously you would not have any problem with having your children play on the edge of a cliff because By God they should know better.

 Bull.  A ten year old with guns in the house should have known not to touch them. 

And if you go hiking with kids - you tell them not to go near the edge.

What is with the infantalizing of 10 and 11 year olds?  They are not babies. 

By 10 years old, they have seen movies, played video games, and likely seen their parents shoot the gun.  They KNOW BETTER. 



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The compassion just touches my heart...

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The compassion just touches my heart...

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 I feel compassion, but that doesn't mean he shouldn't have known better.   Hell, did you read the article?  Even his little sister that died knew better and told him to put it back.

 

He was old enough to babysit, but not old enough to know not to touch guns?  This wasn't a 3 year old. 

 

 



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A 10 yr old is old enough to babysit? I sure as hell wouldn't hire a 10 yr old to watch my kids.

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A 10 yr old is old enough to babysit? I sure as hell wouldn't hire a 10 yr old to watch my kids.

 He was babysitting his sister when this happened. 



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Yeah, i know. My sons have a sister. They didn't babysit her until they were older.

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flan327 wrote:

The compassion just touches my heart...

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 I feel compassion, but that doesn't mean he shouldn't have known better.   Hell, did you read the article?  Even his little sister that died knew better and told him to put it back.

 

He was old enough to babysit, but not old enough to know not to touch guns?  This wasn't a 3 year old. 

 

 

 Yes, I know he was babysitting. What I'm getting is: He should have known better.

Do you NOT think he regrets his action every single hour of every single day?

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The compassion just touches my heart...

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 I feel compassion, but that doesn't mean he shouldn't have known better.   Hell, did you read the article?  Even his little sister that died knew better and told him to put it back.

 

He was old enough to babysit, but not old enough to know not to touch guns?  This wasn't a 3 year old. 

 

 

 Yes, I know he was babysitting. What I'm getting is: He should have known better.

Do you NOT think he regrets his action every single hour of every single day?

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 I'm sure he does.  But compassion doesn't change facts.  



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Well, and the facts are that he wasnt' READY to babysit at age 10 and again that is on the Parents. I knew that my sons were not mature enough to babysit DD as a toddler at age 10. It isn't rocket science.

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His sister wasn't a toddler. Our kids walked home after school when they were 6 and 7. It's not babysitting, really, but they could be by themselves a few hours. They sure as heck knew what they were supposed to do and what they weren't.

Now, these parents obviously didn't teach their kids well enough, but that doesn't mean it can't be done.

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I agree with Husker. There were many guns in our house. We were taught young that guns are not toys & are to be respected. Treat every gun as if it is loaded because it probably is. And NEVER aim a gun at anything you don't intend to kill. I personally never hunted but my brother was hunting & loading his own gun well before 10 yo.

Hiding your gun in the top drawer of your dresser & not explaining gun safety to your children is stupid IMO. Children are curious & ignorance causes these types of tragedies.

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Know why a 10 year old isn't ready to 'babysit"?

Cause they have been kept a toddler themselves.

Don't expect them to be 30, but I do expect them to be able to watch a 3 year old for a couple hours.



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Know why a 10 year old isn't ready to 'babysit"?

Cause they have been kept a toddler themselves.

Don't expect them to be 30, but I do expect them to be able to watch a 3 year old for a couple hours.

 Oh, ok.  Depends on the kid.  It's funny how you all expect kids to be adults, but yet excuse adults who act like children.  Why didn't YOU know better with the mistakes you made?  Should we have danced on your grave if something bad happened?  Wow.



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At 10, I could be left alone, in a house with guns, for several hours and I was starting supper for the family, doing house hold chores.

Now, 10 year olds aren't allowed to have sharp cutlery at the dinner table and need to have babysitters.

No. I don't expect kids to act like adults, and we all make stupid mistakes.

But I don't treat kids like brainless idiots that can't do anything either.



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At 10, I could be left alone, in a house with guns, for several hours and I was starting supper for the family, doing house hold chores.

Now, 10 year olds aren't allowed to have sharp cutlery at the dinner table and need to have babysitters.

No. I don't expect kids to act like adults, and we all make stupid mistakes.

But I don't treat kids like brainless idiots that can't do anything either.

 Neither do I Lilly.  But, i am not going to leave a loaded gun around and abdicate my responsibility as an Adult.



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I think it depends on the parent more than the kid.

Treat them the way you expect them to act.

Expect them to be responsible, give them responsibility.

Yes, there are circumstances to factor in, but generally, if a 10 yr can't be trusted for a couple hours in a house alone, the parent hasn't done something right.

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I think it depends on the parent more than the kid.

Treat them the way you expect them to act.

Expect them to be responsible, give them responsibility.

Yes, there are circumstances to factor in, but generally, if a 10 yr can't be trusted for a couple hours in a house alone, the parent hasn't done something right.

 You keep saying this over and over.  Kids are different.  My 3 kids all have different personalities, but lo and behold, SAME parents.  Doh!



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At 10, I could be left alone, in a house with guns, for several hours and I was starting supper for the family, doing house hold chores.

Now, 10 year olds aren't allowed to have sharp cutlery at the dinner table and need to have babysitters.

No. I don't expect kids to act like adults, and we all make stupid mistakes.

But I don't treat kids like brainless idiots that can't do anything either.

 Neither do I Lilly.  But, i am not going to leave a loaded gun around and abdicate my responsibility as an Adult.

 Not all 10-year-olds are ready to be left alone, with or without adding a sibling to the mix. No parent can force a child to be mature because it suits their purpose.

Oh, and the loaded gun thing...

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Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

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I agree Lily. My brother & I were latch key kids back in the 70s. We walked home from school to an empty house when we were much younger than 10. We made ourselves a snack usually a grilled cheese sandwich or soup. We used the stove since there were no microwaves back then. Sometimes depending on the meal we'd get dinner started & get started on our homework.

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Oh, and then let's just say "We TOLD them, don't touch the gun"!

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Personality means they can't be trusted? Can't be taught?

My kids have different personalities too.

But I still expected and still expect discipline. Self control.

It was my job to teach them that.

And yes, when they were 10, I could go a mile up the road to the store and not worry they would kill each other while I was gone.

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I agree Lily. My brother & I were latch key kids back in the 70s. We walked home from school to an empty house when we were much younger than 10. We made ourselves a snack usually a grilled cheese sandwich or soup. We used the stove since there were no microwaves back then. Sometimes depending on the meal we'd get dinner started & get started on our homework.

 Well so what?   I grew up in a rural hunting area.  We would never have dreamed of touching my dad's guns.  We just didn't .  But, i am not going to pretend that times havent' changed.   Yeah, my kids can come home and cook and use chef's knives.  Big deal.



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Personality means they can't be trusted? Can't be taught?

My kids have different personalities too.

But I still expected and still expect discipline. Self control.

It was my job to teach them that.

And yes, when they were 10, I could go a mile up the road to the store and not worry they would kill each other while I was gone.

 It means actually you know, being a PARENT and understanding that certain kids are ready for certain things at certain times whereas others might not yet be.  confuse



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Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.



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Do whatever the hell you please. If you want to leave a room full of loaded guns around when you have grandkids. Go ahead. No skin off my nose.

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Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.



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Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 ????

 

me and my friends would go in the house, get the .22 or the shotguns, and go hunting.  They weren't loaded, but we loaded them ourselves.

 

My kids and their friends shot trap a lot after my oldest one got his shotgun.



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Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.

 Teaching properly IS your adult responsibility.



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I agree Lily. My brother & I were latch key kids back in the 70s. We walked home from school to an empty house when we were much younger than 10. We made ourselves a snack usually a grilled cheese sandwich or soup. We used the stove since there were no microwaves back then. Sometimes depending on the meal we'd get dinner started & get started on our homework.

 Well so what?   I grew up in a rural hunting area.  We would never have dreamed of touching my dad's guns.  We just didn't .  But, i am not going to pretend that times havent' changed.   Yeah, my kids can come home and cook and use chef's knives.  Big deal.

 That is the point.  Well two points.  One you would have never dreamed of touching your dad's guns the same as us.  Why?  Because your parents taught you not to.  So why have times changed?  Like Lily suggested parents aren't allowing their kids to grow up like we did.  Now they are being coddled.  And good that yours weren't & can take care of themselves.



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Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.

 Teaching properly IS your adult responsibility.

 Of course.  But, that also means you don't put your children in precarious situations either.  Dammit i told you to LOOK both ways before crossing that highway you dumbass!



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I agree Lily. My brother & I were latch key kids back in the 70s. We walked home from school to an empty house when we were much younger than 10. We made ourselves a snack usually a grilled cheese sandwich or soup. We used the stove since there were no microwaves back then. Sometimes depending on the meal we'd get dinner started & get started on our homework.

 Well so what?   I grew up in a rural hunting area.  We would never have dreamed of touching my dad's guns.  We just didn't .  But, i am not going to pretend that times havent' changed.   Yeah, my kids can come home and cook and use chef's knives.  Big deal.

 That is the point.  Well two points.  One you would have never dreamed of touching your dad's guns the same as us.  Why?  Because your parents taught you not to.  So why have times changed?  Like Lily suggested parents aren't allowing their kids to grow up like we did.  Now they are being coddled.  And good that yours weren't & can take care of themselves.

 Because kids are getting a lot of other messages from society sans parents, that's why.  If you wanna pretend otherwise and leave loaded guns laying around for your toddlers and your friend's toddlers, then be my guest.



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Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.

 Teaching properly IS your adult responsibility.

 Of course.  But, that also means you don't put your children in precarious situations either.  Dammit i told you to LOOK both ways before crossing that highway you dumbass!

 So kids can NEVER cross the street by themselves?  WTF???



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OK - so you leave your 10 year old home alone (that is legal in most states). While you are gone, he takes the keys to the extra car and goes on a joyride, crashes and dies.

Do we now ban cars?

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huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.

 Teaching properly IS your adult responsibility.

 Of course.  But, that also means you don't put your children in precarious situations either.  Dammit i told you to LOOK both ways before crossing that highway you dumbass!

 So kids can NEVER cross the street by themselves?  WTF???

 Yeah, that's what i said. NOT.  OR do you actually consider if they are READY or are you going shrug and toss your 2 yr old grandchild into the street?  Again, do whatever the hell you please, what do i care?  Isn't my kid.



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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.

 Teaching properly IS your adult responsibility.

 Of course.  But, that also means you don't put your children in precarious situations either.  Dammit i told you to LOOK both ways before crossing that highway you dumbass!

 So kids can NEVER cross the street by themselves?  WTF???

 Yeah, that's what i said. NOT.  OR do you actually consider if they are READY or are you going shrug and toss your 2 yr old grandchild into the street?  Again, do whatever the hell you please, what do i care?  Isn't my kid.

 We're talking about a 10 year old, not a 2 year old.  At TEN, you have taught them things and trust they have learned it.  Otherwise, you are the ULTIMATE helicopter parents, and your child is severely stunted. 



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Or, you are the ULTIMATE negligent parents who have no concern about loaded guns laying around. That's fine and dandy. Neither do you know about your kids' friends necessarily so carry on!

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
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Lexxy wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.

 Teaching properly IS your adult responsibility.

 Of course.  But, that also means you don't put your children in precarious situations either.  Dammit i told you to LOOK both ways before crossing that highway you dumbass!

 So kids can NEVER cross the street by themselves?  WTF???

 Yeah, that's what i said. NOT.  OR do you actually consider if they are READY or are you going shrug and toss your 2 yr old grandchild into the street?  Again, do whatever the hell you please, what do i care?  Isn't my kid.

 The kid was 10, not 2.



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Or, you are the ULTIMATE negligent parents who have no concern about loaded guns laying around. That's fine and dandy. Neither do you know about your kids' friends necessarily so carry on!

 I teach my children to behave safely and responsibly.



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I agree Lily. My brother & I were latch key kids back in the 70s. We walked home from school to an empty house when we were much younger than 10. We made ourselves a snack usually a grilled cheese sandwich or soup. We used the stove since there were no microwaves back then. Sometimes depending on the meal we'd get dinner started & get started on our homework.

 Well so what?   I grew up in a rural hunting area.  We would never have dreamed of touching my dad's guns.  We just didn't .  But, i am not going to pretend that times havent' changed.   Yeah, my kids can come home and cook and use chef's knives.  Big deal.

 That is the point.  Well two points.  One you would have never dreamed of touching your dad's guns the same as us.  Why?  Because your parents taught you not to.  So why have times changed?  Like Lily suggested parents aren't allowing their kids to grow up like we did.  Now they are being coddled.  And good that yours weren't & can take care of themselves.

 Because kids are getting a lot of other messages from society sans parents, that's why.  If you wanna pretend otherwise and leave loaded guns laying around for your toddlers and your friend's toddlers, then be my guest.

 Are we talking about toddlers or 10 year olds?

 

Because I don't know a toddler that can reach the top of a chest of drawers or top of the closet.

And a 10 year old should know better.

 

As for messages from other places, those didn't matter to me and they don't matter to my kids.

The house rules and my expectations don't change.

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OK - so you leave your 10 year old home alone (that is legal in most states). While you are gone, he takes the keys to the extra car and goes on a joyride, crashes and dies.

Do we now ban cars?

 My kid would have been too worried about the consequences had I found out to do this.

But that's because I taught them not to do that.



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Yeah, you are "hardcore'. Well, except when you went astray and SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER. So, why didn't you? Did your parents fail you?

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Were you not taught right from wrong?

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

Yeah. Let's live a bunch of kids alone below age 10 with a loaded gun laying around. Great idea!

 If you teach them gun safety there is no problem although I don't advocate just leaving it lying around.  In this case it was in a dresser drawer.  The kids went snooping.  If the parents had been proactive & explained that guns are dangerous & not to be messed with this tragedy could have been avoided.

 You teach gun safety.  That is one prong.  And, my kids have taken hunter safety courses.  But neither do i abdicate my ADULT responsibilites just because they took a course.

 Teaching properly IS your adult responsibility.

 Of course.  But, that also means you don't put your children in precarious situations either.  Dammit i told you to LOOK both ways before crossing that highway you dumbass!

 So kids can NEVER cross the street by themselves?  WTF???

 Yeah, that's what i said. NOT.  OR do you actually consider if they are READY or are you going shrug and toss your 2 yr old grandchild into the street?  Again, do whatever the hell you please, what do i care?  Isn't my kid.

 A 2 year old? No. They can't cross the street alone.

A 10 year old? If he cant, the parent has not done their job.



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