TOTALLY GEEKED!

Apparently I was a horrible parent.

Lawyerlady wrote:

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chef wrote:

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No, those things aren't funny. But they are first world problems. Things toddlers view as life altering even when it isn't. Like when one of your shows get cancelled or the store is out of an item you wanted or that shirt you want doesn't come in your size. Things that don't matter in the long run but can matter quite a bit to the person affected at the time it happens. We had a first world problems thread and I thought it'd be fun to have the same thread from a toddler POV. I do apologize if I'm the only one who thought such a thread would be fun and I'm fine with the thread being deleted.

Maybe DS is more into the "terrible 2s" than other kids. I don't know. He's a fun kid but man if he doesn't pitch fits over the stupidest things. Some days are worse than others. He's having a bad streak lately. And, he's about to go on a time out because his listening ears are still misplaced.

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 Yes, throwing a fit over a show being cancelled is a first world problem.  But, I'm pretty sure toddlers around the world throw fits about the food they don't like.  

 

I guess I just don't understand how things like a kid pitching a fit over not being able to run in a parking lot would ever be funny or cute.  That's dangerous.  

 

I think you are a very nice mom.  It's just that kids learn quickly that they can manipulate nice moms.  

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 It is dangerous. Doesn't mean the fit doesn't happen. Toddlers throwing fits over food they don't like is a first world problem from a toddler POV. Some kids get no food and yet here they are pitching a fit just because they don't like it.

I don't think DS would say I'm a nice mom. He doesn't get his way. Especially in public. Doesn't mean I don't know what he's tantruming about.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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Apparently I was a horrible parent.

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 No, I was WORSE because I didn't "beat their ass."

flan

flan327 wrote:

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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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Apparently I was a horrible parent.

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 No, I was WORSE because I didn't "beat their ass."

flan

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again, do you have any pertinent information on the subject at hand, or do you just like to throw out ignorant jabs? 

-- Edited by Ohfour on Wednesday 10th of February 2016 05:04:54 PM

So, discussing and having different viewpoints is a thread deteriorating now? I'm sorry, I didn't realize threads were supposed to just be rah-rah requests.

I see the biggest deterioration when you and flan entered it trying to make it about YOU. AGAIN.

I think a lot of parents are hard wired to forget how their kids were when little.
I know now that my oldest niece is nearly six and the youngest is two my sister is frustrated, "The oldest never did that!"
Yes, she did. 100% did.
Threw a fit in a store?
Yes.
Refused to eat her food and instead tried to steal off someones plate?
Yes.
Tantrumed so hard she bit her own hand?
Very much yes.

weltschmerz wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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Apparently I was a horrible parent.

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 No, I was WORSE because I didn't "beat their ass."

flan

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I can't even imagine "beating his ass."

It r=teaches them that it's OK to hit if you're bigger than the one you're hitting.

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Yep.  Had to do it a couple of times, and then never again.  And they didn't throw tantrums.  So it worked.   

Lawyerlady wrote:

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So, discussing and having different viewpoints is a thread deteriorating now? I'm sorry, I didn't realize threads were supposed to just be rah-rah requests.

I see the biggest deterioration when you and flan entered it trying to make it about YOU. AGAIN.

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 No.  I'm sorry you feel like you have to take another pot shot at me but this is absolutely NOT about me.  One, chef asked us to share our stories but apparently, to you, I should not.  And two, I sense chef is trying her hardest and gets frustrated sometimes.  Instead of telling her how she's not doing things right or how perfect of a mother I was/am I just simply want her to know that she is not alone.  Many people feel this way.  I guess my trying to be supportive of her is also somehow wrong and making everything about me. 

No. I don't think you forget.

I think you just realize it was worth it.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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So, discussing and having different viewpoints is a thread deteriorating now? I'm sorry, I didn't realize threads were supposed to just be rah-rah requests.

I see the biggest deterioration when you and flan entered it trying to make it about YOU. AGAIN.

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 No.  I'm sorry you feel like you have to take another pot shot at me but this is absolutely NOT about me.  One, chef asked us to share our stories but apparently, to you, I should not.  And two, I sense chef is trying her hardest and gets frustrated sometimes.  Instead of telling her how she's not doing things right or how perfect of a mother I was/am I just simply want her to know that she is not alone.  Many people feel this way.  I guess my trying to be supportive of her is also somehow wrong and making everything about me. 

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 I don't recall making any comments about her mothering.  I commented that I don't find certain things to be funny or cute that she obviously does and I commented on me and my kids.  But you, of course, take anything anyone says as negatively as possible and I'm talking about your "apparently, I'm a horrible mother" comment - not your stories. 

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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My "I'm a horrible mother." comment was sarcasm. But, because of your extreme distaste of me you failed to see that. Had one of your friends said it you would have found it funny.

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 You forgot your emoticon.

NAOW wrote:

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Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:

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I think a lot of parents are hard wired to forget how their kids were when little.
I know now that my oldest niece is nearly six and the youngest is two my sister is frustrated, "The oldest never did that!"
Yes, she did. 100% did.
Threw a fit in a store?
Yes.
Refused to eat her food and instead tried to steal off someones plate?
Yes.
Tantrumed so hard she bit her own hand?
Very much yes.

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 I've noticed that as well. 

 

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 I think that too. 

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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NAOW wrote:

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Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:

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I think a lot of parents are hard wired to forget how their kids were when little.
I know now that my oldest niece is nearly six and the youngest is two my sister is frustrated, "The oldest never did that!"
Yes, she did. 100% did.
Threw a fit in a store?
Yes.
Refused to eat her food and instead tried to steal off someones plate?
Yes.
Tantrumed so hard she bit her own hand?
Very much yes.

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 I've noticed that as well. 

 

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 I think that too. 

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 Ditto.

Lawyerlady wrote:

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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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So, discussing and having different viewpoints is a thread deteriorating now? I'm sorry, I didn't realize threads were supposed to just be rah-rah requests.

I see the biggest deterioration when you and flan entered it trying to make it about YOU. AGAIN.

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 No.  I'm sorry you feel like you have to take another pot shot at me but this is absolutely NOT about me.  One, chef asked us to share our stories but apparently, to you, I should not.  And two, I sense chef is trying her hardest and gets frustrated sometimes.  Instead of telling her how she's not doing things right or how perfect of a mother I was/am I just simply want her to know that she is not alone.  Many people feel this way.  I guess my trying to be supportive of her is also somehow wrong and making everything about me. 

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 I don't recall making any comments about her mothering.  I commented that I don't find certain things to be funny or cute that she obviously does and I commented on me and my kids.  But you, of course, take anything anyone says as negatively as possible and I'm talking about your "apparently, I'm a horrible mother" comment - not your stories. 

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 I don't find them cute but I do find them funny. Not haha funny but odd funny due to how inane some of the stuff is that he will melt down over. The spoon he gets, for example. It must be a certain spoon and he must pick it himself. Totally inane to me. Him wanting to run into the parking lot is annoying but he doesn't know how dangerous it is. It's my job to teach him that. He will melt down because he's not getting his way but he has to deal with it. He's very much in the asserting himself phase. I truly did get myself a mini-me. My parents say that DS is just as stubborn as I was at his age. I wouldn't have him any other way. I love his high energy and inquisitive nature.

He knows darn well tantrums aren't tolerated at restaurants or in stores. Depending on the situation, I let him work out his temper then talk to him about it (kind of like Bonny mentioned doing) or he gets his butt swatted. When he ran from me in the mall, he got his butt swatted and a talking to. Safety issues tend to be the ones that earn him a swat on the butt. Stuff like he wanted to sit in the chair vs a high chair gets him taken out of the situation and we let him work through his feelings. At home, he earns a time out if he keeps choosing to misbehave. He's getting better and better at responding appropriately to situation but it's a learning process and he isn't going to be perfect overnight.

DS2 was definitely a strong-willed child, but he had to be, in order to survive.

And I really don't remember many tantrums from either kiddo.

flan

chef wrote:

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Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:

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I ran into my pediatrician one day in a store when I had two of my nieces, and it was not going well. He looked at me kindly and said "The most stubborn and difficult children are the smartest and most successful adults!"

THAT IS MY STORY AND I AM STICKING TO IT.
There, Chef, you have a future millionare on your hands.

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 I like your pediatrician!

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 He is a tall and thin elderly gentleman.  Small square glasses, flyaway hair. He was probably at least in his sixties ten years ago when I was going to him, but he looked exactly the same in the store when I saw him. He was great. When I had mono and I had to go to a different doctor that wanted to run a bunch of tests I flat out refused to go until the different doctor consulted with him. It turned out SHE WAS HIS WIFE. So, she called him at home (!!!) and he talked with her for a moment, and then she passed the phone to me. 

"Sooooo, Dona. My wife, mmmm, my wife tells me she is concerned about your liver function,  because, mmmm, we have seen a lot of cases with mono  this year end up jaundiced and hospitalized, and she can feel, mmmm, your liver is quite enlarged. But, I seem to recall there is an issue regarding you and, mmmm, needles. And, as long as you feel about the same, mmmm, and monitor your eyes for any signs of yellowing or some such, and can, mmm, be honest about how your liver feels, perhaps we can hold off on this test. If you were sick enough to actually treat, we wouldn't need to test you in the first place soooo, mmmm, it is not really a practical tool it is more of a, mmmm, monitoring tool."

He had the funniest voice and manner. I doubt he will still be practicing when I have kids, but I may look.