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Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

RE: Saturday Valentines Eve

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

You know what's great about being single? You don't have to celebrate February 15 either.

Divine Geek · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Sounds like a good evening DG!

Not what was planned, but I think exactly what I needed.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Divine Geek wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Sounds like a good evening DG!
Not what was planned, but I think exactly what I needed.

Sometimes you just need to relax and enjoy.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Honeys_Mom wrote:
Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend.

WHAT?????!!!!!

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

It's ok - (well, not for him cry ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).

I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.

I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.

Lindley · Guru

Honeys_Mom you are a good person. It is a hard decision to let someone go so they can pursue someone who has the same desires as theirs. I know that was hard but truly very unselfish.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.

I'm sorry HM. I admire your strength and honesty.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

It's good to know yourself so well.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.

Well, this is not bad. It was a learning experience for you. You have learned several good things. You have learned to listen to your head and not just your heart. Which is very very very important. You have learned that not only are you capable of loving someone but that you are capable of allowing yourself to be loved. And you learned you are worthy of love and to be treated well. You have learned to trust. And you have learned you are not ready just yet to commit. So all in all I think this is a good thing for you!

Lindley · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.
Well, this is not bad. It was a learning experience for you. You have learned several good things. You have learned to listen to your head and not just your heart. Which is very very very important. You have learned that not only are you capable of loving someone but that you are capable of allowing yourself to be loved. And you learned you are worthy of love and to be treated well. You have learned to trust. And you have learned you are not ready just yet to commit. So all in all I think this is a good thing for you!

Well said.

Divine Geek · Guru

Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.

I'm glad you remained true to yourself. Early on in our relationship (although not early enough I hadn't already fallen for him), my ex was clear he did not want to get married again. I did not try to change his mind, I took a hard look at myself and decided that being with him was more important than getting married.

People who want to change you are not people you need to keep around.....especially when they find something to change about someone as awesome as you already are.

Lindley · Guru

My husband is home😍 he brought me back garnet earrings for valentines💖💍

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lindley wrote:
My husband is home😍 he brought me back garnet earrings for valentines💖💍

Niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lindley wrote:
My husband is home😍 he brought me back garnet earrings for valentines💖💍

I really like garnet.

Lindley · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
Lindley wrote:
My husband is home😍 he brought me back garnet earrings for valentines💖💍
I really like garnet.

I like garnet too. He bought me a real nice garnet ring for Christmas before last and I ended up losing it so he bought me another one this Christmas. My lost ring was found so now I have two garnet rings. He really loves me.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lindley wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Lindley wrote:
My husband is home😍 he brought me back garnet earrings for valentines💖💍
I really like garnet.
I like garnet too. He bought me a real nice garnet ring for Christmas before last and I ended up losing it so he bought me another one this Christmas. My lost ring was found so now I have two garnet rings. He really loves me.

I love garnet earrings, necklaces and bracelets, Rings, not so much. Not because they're not pretty, because they are.

Semi-precious stones like garnet, topaz and an amethyst aren't very high on the hardness scale.

When I like a ring, I wear it all the time. I'm pretty hard on my rings. I have a beautiful amethyst ring that isn't so beautiful any more.

The stone is so covered in scratches, you can barely tell what colour it's supposed to be,

I should have just worn it on special occasions and then taken it off.

Please be careful with yours if you love it.

ed11563 · Guru

Spouse is allergic to gold, she says flowers bring mold into the house, and she gets angry when I give her chocolate (after she eats it).

I gave her a new microwave oven.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Sounds lovely Lindley.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Southern_Belle wrote:
Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.
I'm sorry HM. I admire your strength and honesty.

I admire HM too, for many reasons!

flan

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Aww HM! What everyone else said.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Hugs to you, Honeys.

That had to be a hard decision to make.

But, it sounds like the right one.

FNW · Guru

Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.

Well, I am glad you realized this wasn't going to work because you both want different things, and you did something about it. That takes strength. Good for you for not compromising your values. Sad for him, but it's better in the long run.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Thank you to all my Geek friends for your kind words and support. He's taking it rather hard. If there is more to say after I go to church today, I'll put it in the break room later.

FNW · Guru

Did he propose, Honey's mom?

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

FNW wrote:
Did he propose, Honey's mom?

No FNW, it was just becoming apparent to me that it was time to set him free because of my own feelings. I am at peace in spite of the stress of causing him to be unhappy right now. I wish the timing was better but I suppose no time is good...

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

HM maybe after time goes by you two can be just friends.

Tangerine · Guru

I'm sorry, HM. That is a hard situation to be in, but I think you did the right thing for both of you. ((Hugs))

Riding · Guru

Divine Geek wrote:
Southern_Belle wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
At Spouse's request, I got a new microwave oven a couple days ago. Can I call that her Valentine's Day gift?

Appliances are never a gift!
yes they are, as long as it was asked for.

I agree with this~

Riding · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:

OH my those look fabulous!

I can taste them right now. I am imagining a warm crunchy outside with great flavor and biting into a warm mouthful of soft tasty heaven!

Riding · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.
Well, this is not bad. It was a learning experience for you. You have learned several good things. You have learned to listen to your head and not just your heart. Which is very very very important. You have learned that not only are you capable of loving someone but that you are capable of allowing yourself to be loved. And you learned you are worthy of love and to be treated well. You have learned to trust. And you have learned you are not ready just yet to commit. So all in all I think this is a good thing for you!

exactly

HUGS to you

weltschmerz · Guru

They're SO good! So hot, that the paper bag they put them in, gets damp from the steam.
Little matter. They don't usually last until you get home. Most get eaten on the way.

Riding · Guru

OMG I am almost drooling. I LOVE bagels!

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Riding wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Honeys_Mom wrote:
It's ok - (well, not for him ). He is a fine person and wants a mate, a wife... and the more time that goes by, the more sure I am that I don't want to get married again, at least not for several years (if ever).
I feel a definite sense of relief. You remember, he was the one that pushed so hard and insisted he could change my mind about marriage.
I'm glad I got to know him - he actually has restored my faith that there are good, reliable and kind men out there.
Well, this is not bad. It was a learning experience for you. You have learned several good things. You have learned to listen to your head and not just your heart. Which is very very very important. You have learned that not only are you capable of loving someone but that you are capable of allowing yourself to be loved. And you learned you are worthy of love and to be treated well. You have learned to trust. And you have learned you are not ready just yet to commit. So all in all I think this is a good thing for you!
exactly

HUGS to you

Thank you NJN, Tang and Riding. I really need to start a thread in the break room because more things went on yesterday and it might be healthy for me to put it all down just to get it straight in my head and my heart...

Riding · Guru

Honeys_Mom wrote:

HUGS to you
Thank you NJN, Tang and Riding. I really need to start a thread in the break room because more things went on yesterday and it might be healthy for me to put it all down just to get it straight in my head and my heart...

sounds like a great idea. I have found for myself, it helps to actually get the words out, whether verbally or written for more clarity. It truly sounds as though you have made the best choice for you now. Often the first step is the hardest and yet the best!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

We'll be here if you decide to share, HM.

flan