TOTALLY GEEKED!

Is it FRIDAY, SB?!

Well, if you say so...

flan

Thanks for sharing that, LGS.

flan

I am freezing! No one knows it but I plan to leave early!

flan327 wrote:

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WHY is it not payday?

flan

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Signing my check right now!   

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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Waaahh!!! My younger son is a HS Senior! Last night was his final basketball game. We lost in the playoffs so that was my son's last HS basketball game! I can't even remember seeing my son cry. He's a pretty even tempered kid all around. But, he came out of the locker room crying and we all were crying in the lobby. Not so much over losing the game but i think it hit him pretty hard that he was done with the sport that he loves and all the great friendships and time he spent with his team. Not that he still isnt' friends but the team aspect. Another chapter in the book of Life.
Anyway, he has to go to PSU and sign his committment letter to play Bball at the branch campus so it's all good!

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 Awwww

Why, yes it is. Ignore that it is bacon wrapped.

Awww...poor kid, LGS. A turning point, for sure.

Working from home today. First time in a long time where I actually get the day to myself.

DS woke up early. I'm unamused. At least, he's in a happy mood.

Red Robin now has unlimited sides on their kids menu. DS wanted more oranges so I told him to ask the server when she came by for more and to say please. When she got to the table, I asked if he still wanted more oranges and he held the little cup they were in up and said 'more!'. I reminded him to say please and he said 'PEAS!' (he misses the l sound sometimes). Server thought he was adorable.

We won't be the parents who forces him to speak up if he hits a shy stage but we are teaching him how to order in restaurants and be polite about it.

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LOL Chef. I was expecting the server to have brought him a bowl of peas. It is good that you are teaching him to order for himself.

Morning everyone.

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 I wouldn't have been surprised if she did! He would've ate them too. He loves his veggies.

He says 'more' pretty clearly. Oranges comes out as 'oh-wen' though.

You haven't seen me around olives.

Lexxy wrote:

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chef wrote:

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Lexxy wrote:

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LOL Chef. I was expecting the server to have brought him a bowl of peas. It is good that you are teaching him to order for himself.

Morning everyone.

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 I wouldn't have been surprised if she did! He would've ate them too. He loves his veggies.

He says 'more' pretty clearly. Oranges comes out as 'oh-wen' though.

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 Many years ago I was babysitting for my friend's 2yo daughter at their house.  She spoke about as well as your son.  She clearly wanted something specific to eat but for the life of me I could not figure it out & she was on the brink of a melt down trying to express her wants.  I finally picked her up & held her in front of the cabinets.  She pointed to a can of black olives.  I wasn't sure she knew what she was pointing at but figured if she didn't really want them I could just stick them in the fridge.  Sure enough she chowed on them.  I had never seen a kid chow on black olives before.

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 There are a lot of "words" DS says that I haven't figured out yet. He says 'atch' a lot (like itch but the short a sound). No clue what that means. I've tried to figure it out to no avail. He says eggs with a long e sound so I will mentally switch out vowel sounds to try and make sense of a word he that I can't figure out. I've asked him what 'atch' is and to show me 'atch' and that doesn't work either. I've tried to use context to figure it out but keep coming up empty. He usually says it when we're driving somewhere. I thought he might be referring to the latch on his car seat but I know it's securely fastened.

'ug-a-bee' is hungry. He can and does say hungry (except it comes out as hun-guh-wee) but when he's whiny, it's 'ug-a-bee' because he's drawing out the syllables.

Hiya!

Appointment for Aaron this afternoon.

Then picking up a copy of my birth certificate. Those things are $25 now! Anyway.

Tomorrow, Jesse has to be at the testing center to take the SAT at 7:45 in the morning.

Still can't talk much.

But it's 54 and sunny and I'm going to enjoy being in it later.

Chef ~
could he be saying he wants you to "watch" something?

flan327 wrote:

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chef wrote:

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Red Robin now has unlimited sides on their kids menu. DS wanted more oranges so I told him to ask the server when she came by for more and to say please. When she got to the table, I asked if he still wanted more oranges and he held the little cup they were in up and said 'more!'. I reminded him to say please and he said 'PEAS!' (he misses the l sound sometimes). Server thought he was adorable.

We won't be the parents who forces him to speak up if he hits a shy stage but we are teaching him how to order in restaurants and be polite about it.

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 THANK YOU!

You have no idea how many parents drag their shy children to the reference desk & embarrass them if they are too shy to talk to the strange librarian.

flan

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 It's stupid. I'm not sure what has to break in their brains to think forcing interaction is going to help anything. And embarrassing them is unnecessary. I've been behind people like that. "Go ahead! Tell the lady what you want! Go ahead! Talk! She's waiting!" and on and on and on. Lady. Your child is getting shyer by the minute. Give it up.

DS is on and off with whether he'll talk. He's a chatterbox around people he knows but he will clam right up if someone compliments him when we're out and about. He will often say 'hi!' right back but tell him he's handsome or something and he'll just smile at you while tucking his head into my shoulder.

chef wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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chef wrote:

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Red Robin now has unlimited sides on their kids menu. DS wanted more oranges so I told him to ask the server when she came by for more and to say please. When she got to the table, I asked if he still wanted more oranges and he held the little cup they were in up and said 'more!'. I reminded him to say please and he said 'PEAS!' (he misses the l sound sometimes). Server thought he was adorable.

We won't be the parents who forces him to speak up if he hits a shy stage but we are teaching him how to order in restaurants and be polite about it.

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 THANK YOU!

You have no idea how many parents drag their shy children to the reference desk & embarrass them if they are too shy to talk to the strange librarian.

flan

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 It's stupid. I'm not sure what has to break in their brains to think forcing interaction is going to help anything. And embarrassing them is unnecessary. I've been behind people like that. "Go ahead! Tell the lady what you want! Go ahead! Talk! She's waiting!" and on and on and on. Lady. Your child is getting shyer by the minute. Give it up.

DS is on and off with whether he'll talk. He's a chatterbox around people he knows but he will clam right up if someone compliments him when we're out and about. He will often say 'hi!' right back but tell him he's handsome or something and he'll just smile at you while tucking his head into my shoulder.

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 He sounds like a normal kid.  DD was like that, talked up a storm with people he was familiar with but the second she was asked an unexpected question to clammed up. Not anymore though, sometimes I wish she would clam up.

 

I am so upset with my new Dentist. I had a temp crown done this morning. Am PO'd that, although this is a new office and advertises they have the latest equipment, I have to go back to get the real crown done. My previous dentist has had the laser/computer thing that does the real crown in one visit for well over 10 years, a cost and time saver for patients. Anyway, that was not my issue today. My issue was the dentist and ass't just left the room several times to attend to other patients, and not when the cement was drying, etc so they were doing so during down time with me. Plus the interuptions from the staff was ridiculous. It was all about cramming in as many patients as they could. I walked out without paying my co pay. They called and I told them in no uncertain terms, the owner-Dentist has to call me before I will pay up. I was livid. The app't took an hour longer than it should have. Many other things happened in the care and technique department that really set me off; all were things that were done at the convenience of the doctor and not the patient. They are soo different from my previous dentist. I am very close to sucking it up and making the long trek back to my previous dentist.

I've never had a dentist that made the permanent crown in house. That would be very convenient.

It doesn't sound like this dentist is very attentive to his patients. I would definitely find another one. Dental work sucks. Nobody wants to be in the chair an hour longer than necessary. Plus what if you have a dental emergency? It doesn't sound like they have any time scheduled in for emergencies. I know my dentist leaves open blocks every day in case he has to work in an emergency. I've only had one but he got me in the same day.

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flan327 wrote:

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chef wrote:

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Red Robin now has unlimited sides on their kids menu. DS wanted more oranges so I told him to ask the server when she came by for more and to say please. When she got to the table, I asked if he still wanted more oranges and he held the little cup they were in up and said 'more!'. I reminded him to say please and he said 'PEAS!' (he misses the l sound sometimes). Server thought he was adorable.

We won't be the parents who forces him to speak up if he hits a shy stage but we are teaching him how to order in restaurants and be polite about it.

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 THANK YOU!

You have no idea how many parents drag their shy children to the reference desk & embarrass them if they are too shy to talk to the strange librarian.

flan

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 It's stupid. I'm not sure what has to break in their brains to think forcing interaction is going to help anything. And embarrassing them is unnecessary. I've been behind people like that. "Go ahead! Tell the lady what you want! Go ahead! Talk! She's waiting!" and on and on and on. Lady. Your child is getting shyer by the minute. Give it up.

DS is on and off with whether he'll talk. He's a chatterbox around people he knows but he will clam right up if someone compliments him when we're out and about. He will often say 'hi!' right back but tell him he's handsome or something and he'll just smile at you while tucking his head into my shoulder.

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 I so want to say something to the parent, but, of course, I can't. My heart just hurts for the poor kid.

flan

flan327 wrote:

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chef wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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chef wrote:

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Red Robin now has unlimited sides on their kids menu. DS wanted more oranges so I told him to ask the server when she came by for more and to say please. When she got to the table, I asked if he still wanted more oranges and he held the little cup they were in up and said 'more!'. I reminded him to say please and he said 'PEAS!' (he misses the l sound sometimes). Server thought he was adorable.

We won't be the parents who forces him to speak up if he hits a shy stage but we are teaching him how to order in restaurants and be polite about it.

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 THANK YOU!

You have no idea how many parents drag their shy children to the reference desk & embarrass them if they are too shy to talk to the strange librarian.

flan

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 It's stupid. I'm not sure what has to break in their brains to think forcing interaction is going to help anything. And embarrassing them is unnecessary. I've been behind people like that. "Go ahead! Tell the lady what you want! Go ahead! Talk! She's waiting!" and on and on and on. Lady. Your child is getting shyer by the minute. Give it up.

DS is on and off with whether he'll talk. He's a chatterbox around people he knows but he will clam right up if someone compliments him when we're out and about. He will often say 'hi!' right back but tell him he's handsome or something and he'll just smile at you while tucking his head into my shoulder.

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 I so want to say something to the parent, but, of course, I can't. My heart just hurts for the poor kid.

flan

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 Sure you can. Libraries are places of education. Educate the parent. Teachable moments aren't exclusive to kids.

For me, this would be a time when I talk to the child but am really aiming my words at the adult. "It's ok to be shy. I understand if you don't want to talk. I would love to help you though. Could you help me by pointing at what you want or writing it down?"

Depending on the situation, sometimes I'll ask the child to help me be brave (for lack of a better word). "You know, that looks like a complicated subject. I don't think I would even know where to start looking things up. Could you help me figure out a good place to start?"

chef wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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chef wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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chef wrote:

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Red Robin now has unlimited sides on their kids menu. DS wanted more oranges so I told him to ask the server when she came by for more and to say please. When she got to the table, I asked if he still wanted more oranges and he held the little cup they were in up and said 'more!'. I reminded him to say please and he said 'PEAS!' (he misses the l sound sometimes). Server thought he was adorable.

We won't be the parents who forces him to speak up if he hits a shy stage but we are teaching him how to order in restaurants and be polite about it.

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 THANK YOU!

You have no idea how many parents drag their shy children to the reference desk & embarrass them if they are too shy to talk to the strange librarian.

flan

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 It's stupid. I'm not sure what has to break in their brains to think forcing interaction is going to help anything. And embarrassing them is unnecessary. I've been behind people like that. "Go ahead! Tell the lady what you want! Go ahead! Talk! She's waiting!" and on and on and on. Lady. Your child is getting shyer by the minute. Give it up.

DS is on and off with whether he'll talk. He's a chatterbox around people he knows but he will clam right up if someone compliments him when we're out and about. He will often say 'hi!' right back but tell him he's handsome or something and he'll just smile at you while tucking his head into my shoulder.

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 I so want to say something to the parent, but, of course, I can't. My heart just hurts for the poor kid.

flan

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 Sure you can. Libraries are places of education. Educate the parent. Teachable moments aren't exclusive to kids.

For me, this would be a time when I talk to the child but am really aiming my words at the adult. "It's ok to be shy. I understand if you don't want to talk. I would love to help you though. Could you help me by pointing at what you want or writing it down?"

Depending on the situation, sometimes I'll ask the child to help me be brave (for lack of a better word). "You know, that looks like a complicated subject. I don't think I would even know where to start looking things up. Could you help me figure out a good place to start?"

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 I try to read the parent to see how far I can go.

But thanks. I'm always open to suggestions in circumstances like these.

flan

Mellow Momma wrote:

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Some shyness is actually selective mutism. It's a form of social anxiety and it can have devastating effects. My nephew has it and although he is brilliant, he doesn't do well in school. He won't speak to his teachers, he won't answer in class, he won't participate or share during class time...and it isn't because he is "shy". He WANTS to share, he just can't because the anxiety is crippling. The only people who have ever heard him speak are his parents. They send videos of him laughing and talking around the house and we just watch in awe. He has never spoken in our presence. He loves us, he just has anxiety and can't speak. Forcing him to would be devastating to his development. When people force kids with SM to speak, they often retreat further into themselves and start self harming or become adults who don't speak.

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 That sounds horrible.  Is there therapy for his condition?  I imagine he feels in a state of gripping stage fright all the time.  Poor kid.

Apparently when I was a kid I had a speech impediment. My mom took me to a speech therapist and she laid a row of M&M's out and told me I could have one M&M for each word I said. My mom grabbed up the M&M's and threw them at the lady and told her that she would not reward me for doing something I already should have been doing. She said instead she would take me home and beat my a$$ for each word I said wrong. I don't remember going back to that therapist...

SS's grades have taken a nose dive this week. He's failing several classes. He just made the A/B honor roll so we have no idea what's going on. We're meeting my IL's for dinner tonight. I hate when my FIL laughs off my SS's misbehavior. He always makes jokes like, "Oh well, kids will be kids." or "He wouldn't be a Smith if he didn't screw up in school." I have warned DH that he'd better say something so I don't go off. He agreed. SS is grounded this weekend.

Your mom was a horrible woman NJN. Not news to you I know.

I am glad you nephew is getting & help & will eventually be ok MM. I cannot imagine feeling like that all the time. It must get exhausting.