TOTALLY GEEKED!

Frail, elderly people can be carried up and down a flight of stairs as needed.

Two strong people with a light weight transport chair ...

they could borrow mine if they ask.

 

Mom sounds PISSED about the wedding. I wonder wht the backstory is?

Not sure about the "Sucks to be Poor" part. What? So you can't afford some $30K wedding so that is somehow some tragedy in life when our parents simply stood in a church and got married and had cake and punch?
How about having a simple church wedding. Let me explain how that works. You get married at your local church. If there is a fee, it isn't much. And, THEN, you have some cake and punch in the church basement. It's very economical and you are very married just the same! Wow.

I wouldn't be able to attend if it were upstairs and no elevator.

And you don't know how frail the grandmother is. She could be a nice, big, squishy grandma.

How big are the stairs?

It isn't just going up, you have to come back down as well.

Where is the bathroom? Up or down?

A lot more issues than just "carry her up".

What should happen is, daughter books the wedding, mom, who apparently isn't paying for it, shuts up.

When my mom was in the nursing home, i managed to get her out to take her to a friend's funeral. I had to take her in a wheelchair and it was very hard to get her in and out of the car, but I did it. So, I think they can find a way to get grandma into the wedding. Or, they can act perplexed like it is some insurmountable feat.

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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You know, if she was getting married in a church, she wouldn't have this problem.

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 Depends on the church. My Church, only the basement is handicap accessible.  

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 Yeah, but we've already established that I don't like your church.  They are haters and probably don't want to be accessible to the handicapped and elderly.

Lawyerlady wrote:

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You know, if she was getting married in a church, she wouldn't have this problem.

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Why would she get married in a church if she doesn't belong to one?  I personally wouldn't and I know for sure the Catholic church won't marry you if you aren't a member.  

We had our reception in our home, which was a condo on the third and fourth floors, no elevators. I have one friend who uses a walker. She was not invited. But she understood why. When we moved into our current home, we had a party, and I made sure the driveway was cleared of all cars so she would be able to park up at the top. Sometimes you just can't accommodate everyone, even though you would like to.

huskerbb wrote:

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

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I don't know how this is thoughtless, she didn't really have a choice. Maybe mom could have hosted it in her home?

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 There is more than one venue to host a wedding.  There are choices.

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 There arent a lot of affordable choices though. And the cheaper ones book a year or two in advance...

No wonder your membership is dwindling! Who wants to join a church like that?

Unless you hate your grandparents, this was absolutely thoughtless. Their presence should matter more than the venue.

TrudyML wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Unless you hate your grandparents, this was absolutely thoughtless. Their presence should matter more than the venue.

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Maybe she never sent a gift in a card!  Or only $5! 

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 Send the grand parents to bingo!

FNW wrote:

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Maybe she didn't think the grandparents would come anyway.

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 If that's the case, why the letter?  Surely she and mom talked about whether or not they'd come.

huskerbb wrote:

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Unless you hate your grandparents, this was absolutely thoughtless. Their presence should matter more than the venue.

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 perhaps the grandparents blew off her college graduation to go on a cruise.

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Unless you hate your grandparents, this was absolutely thoughtless. Their presence should matter more than the venue.

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 perhaps the grandparents blew off her college graduation to go on a cruise.

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Unless you hate your grandparents, this was absolutely thoughtless. Their presence should matter more than the venue.

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 perhaps the grandparents blew off her college graduation to go on a cruise.

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Or play bingo. 

 

Well, we don't know.  Maybe they did do something--but then the letter is really odd.  Surely mom and daughter talk and if she either didn't want the grandparents there, or didn't think they would come, anyway, then there's no reason for the letter.

 

If mom and daughter don't talk to the extent that mom doesn't know the daughter doesn't want the grandparents there--and this is her passive-aggressive way of accomplishing that--then a different letter is in order. 

Cheerios4606 wrote:

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Or maybe the bride is simply really bad at planning events and avoiding faux pas. (sp?) It wasn't till years after the fact that I had begun to realize that I was not such a great bride. Alas, there is nothing I can do about it now.

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Do you and your spouse make each other happy? Nothing else matters. 

 

Cheerios4606 wrote:

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VERY happy :) But sometimes looking back in life a person is gonna cringe.

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 LOL Six years after I got married I still had the thank you cards for my wedding gifts.  Never got around to filling them out.  Last summer I gave them to another lady who got married.

Mary Zombie wrote:

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Well...maybe mom could pitch in so the bride could afford a more accessable venue? I doubt she did this to intentionally exclude anyone.

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 I'm taking it that mom doesn't have any funds, either--but yeah, if it's so important to mom, she should help.  

Lawyerlady wrote:

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Maybe if Bernie gets elected, we can have free weddings along with free college and free healthcare.

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Instead of free weddings, wouldn't it make more sense to have free love, like the hippies did in the 1960's and 70's? 

You know, if she was getting married in a church, she wouldn't have this problem.
- Lawyerlady

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I was just about to say something to that effect: Church is free, she should have it at her church.