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lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

RE: Girl Grows Restless Waiting for Right Time to Approach Busy Boy

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Who says she can't date????

You don't seem to be very keen on the idea.

Apparently she is somehow violating God's Will according to Lilly. Can't quite figure this out Husker. Beats me. An 18 yr old generally sounds like an 18 yr old. Not sure how "mature" she needs to be to ask him out for a soda.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

How about the only place she saw him was at church and now he isn't there and it is upsetting her?

How about she is writing an advice column instead of just finding him on social media or talking to one of his friends to get a contact?

They have supposedly known each other for a while, but he has never shown an interest.

Something tells me, he just isn't that into her.

And most of us can figure that out.

I'm not saying, nor have I said she can't or shouldn't date.

But if she can not find a way to talk to this "boy" on her own, then maybe the timing is off.

It seems to me if she isn't seeing him at church and he is so busy, and she doesn't mention any other way or times they inner act, then it isn't God's will at this moment.

So my advice would be, pray about it, work on being the best you that you can be, and don't worry about it.

I mean what's is she supposed to do? She could attempt to find him on FB. Or she could start asking people at church how to contact him. Or she could go door to door looking for him.

She hasn't thought of any of that?

Yeah. She has some maturing to do.

That isn't a bad thing.

It's just life.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I think you are waaayyyyyy overthinking this. Ask him for coffee. He can say yes or he can say no. Then if he says yes, see where it goes from there. It really isn't as complicated as you are trying to make it out to be.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

When? When is she going to ask him for coffee?

She NEVER SEES HIM.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Um, it's called finding an opportunity. If you want to do something you can find a way. Sheesh. yawn

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Ok.

So, as I said, she hasn't figured that out yet.

Seems if she was thinking more clearly or was more mature, she would have done that already.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

How 'mature" does she need to be at 18 to ask a boy out? I really dont' get why this is such a big deal to you.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

If she had the maturity to think "hmm, haven't seen him at church for a while, wonder if he has a FB, I'll message him and ask if he would like to meet for coffee", she would have done that.

Instead she is getting "upset" because she isn't seeing him at church.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Ok, she's just a moronic idiot who should fall on her sword and die. How dare you have a crush and want to ask a boy out at 18! evileye

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Now you're being ridiculous.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Au contraire!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Ok, she's just a moronic idiot who should fall on her sword and die. How dare you have a crush and want to ask a boy out at 18!

I can see no other solution here...

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

flan327 wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Ok, she's just a moronic idiot who should fall on her sword and die. How dare you have a crush and want to ask a boy out at 18!
I can see no other solution here...
flan

Hari kari!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I mean immature 18 yr olds! What is the world coming too!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

He's shy, she's shy.

And they're both young...

flan

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
How 'mature" does she need to be at 18 to ask a boy out? I really dont' get why this is such a big deal to you.

Always take parenting advice from someone whose own daughter had sex before she turned 18!

TrudyML · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Who says she can't date????

You don't seem to be very keen on the idea.
Apparently she is somehow violating God's Will according to Lilly. Can't quite figure this out Husker. Beats me. An 18 yr old generally sounds like an 18 yr old. Not sure how "mature" she needs to be to ask him out for a soda.

Jimmy? Wanna go split a Coke?

I find this funny!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I still don't see the big deal here. It doesn't matter how mature or immature she sounds. Some are making a mountain out of a molehill. She's 18 and can do what she wants. If she asks him out for coffee or a coke one of three things is going to happen. He's going to turn her down if he's not interested. He'll probably do it nicely. MOST guys aren't jerks about it. At that point she can put the ball back in his court. "Okay. Well if you do happen to have some spare time and want to get some coffee give me a call." That will let him know she's interested but leave it up to him. Or, the two other things are he might be interested and they date for awhile and then they break up and she is heart broken. Or, they could get together and it works out. Not likely for sure but a possibility. Any of those three situations are good for her in the sense that dating is about getting experience. Not sexual experience but about learning to navigate the dating waters. Let's face it, we've all had our hearts broken before. We pick up the pieces and move on. She just needs to jump in and get used to this kind of stuff.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
When? When is she going to ask him for coffee?

She NEVER SEES HIM.

Oh Christ. There are such things as PHONES.

Also, "never" is undoubtedly an exaggeration. She knows him, so she probably sees him occasionally, not just as much as she wants.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Husker it's impossible. SHE NEVER SEES HIM. EVER EVER EVER.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Husker it's impossible. SHE NEVER SEES HIM. EVER EVER EVER.

If she never sees him how did she meet him? evileye biggrin

chef · Guru

Goodness. I never understood the angst over finding out if someone was interested in me or not. I would flat out ask. Off-putting, probably, but I was never one for flirting.

She needs to either approach him or accept that he may find someone else. The right time is whenever she sees him next. But, again, I don't get the crushing thing.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
How 'mature" does she need to be at 18 to ask a boy out? I really dont' get why this is such a big deal to you.
Always take parenting advice from someone whose own daughter had sex before she turned 18!

huskerbb · Guru

I think she's set up for heartache here--but--I also don't think she'll "move on" until she knows for sure.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

huskerbb wrote:
I think she's set up for heartache here--but--I also don't think she'll "move on" until she knows for sure.

And once she tries, she'll likely find out it wasn't that big of a deal.

flan

ed11563 · Guru

chef wrote:

I don't get the crushing thing.

raging hormones, I think.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Teenager Post # 8748

Admit it, you care about someone who probably doesn't care about you.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I just don't get how an unrequited crush is something new, notable, or advice column worthy.

ed11563 · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
I just don't get how an unrequited crush is something new, notable, or advice column worthy.

And yet, here we are still discussing it. Clearly it's a popular subject.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
How 'mature" does she need to be at 18 to ask a boy out? I really dont' get why this is such a big deal to you.
Always take parenting advice from someone whose own daughter had sex before she turned 18!

I just wonder why it's such a big deal to Lily that this "immature" 18 year old shouldn't be dating when her own daughter was clearly doing much more.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
How 'mature" does she need to be at 18 to ask a boy out? I really dont' get why this is such a big deal to you.
Always take parenting advice from someone whose own daughter had sex before she turned 18!

I just wonder why it's such a big deal to Lily that this "immature" 18 year old shouldn't be dating when her own daughter was clearly doing much more.

YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT MY DAUGHTER!!!

HOW DARE YOU!!!

YOU NEED TO SHUT THE HELL UP!!!!

Tinydancer · Guru

Making this personal is wrong NJN. You wouldn't want people talking about your kids so I don't think you should bring lily's into this.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lily put it on the board herself.

Ohfour · Hooker

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.

And you are using it to attack her. What the hell is wrong with you?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Ohfour wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.
And you are using it to attack her. What the hell is wrong with you?

Just wondering about her double standards. It's okay for her kids to have sex but this girl shouldn't even be dating. I don't get the double standard here.

Tinydancer · Guru

She never said it was ok for her kids to have sex. You are turning into flan and it's just wrong.

Ohfour · Hooker

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.
And you are using it to attack her. What the hell is wrong with you?
Just wondering about her double standards. It's okay for her kids to have sex but this girl shouldn't even be dating. I don't get the double standard here.

She NEVER said that. That is a flat out LIE. Taking ques from Flans playbook are you? And its beyond inappropriate to attack someones kids. You would be livid...

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I never "attacked" her kids. I stated the truth. She said her own daughter had sex. Yet she's here saying how this 18 year old should not even be dating. That she doesn't need to be because she's too immature. Those are double standards.

Tinydancer · Guru

It still had nothing to do with her kids. I have lost all respect for you. If you want to argue that way don't get mad when it gets turned back on you.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I will never be able to live without your respect.

And it has everything to do with it. Don't tell other young people how to run their life if your own kids won't even follow your own rules. Remember that glass houses and stones and all that?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.

And you've put a lot of crap on the board, should we throw it all in your face? How about your friends' faces?

Tinydancer is right.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lawyerlady wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.
And you've put a lot of crap on the board, should we throw it all in your face? How about your friends' faces?

Tinydancer is right.

How would anyone even KNOW about Lily's daughter unless she POSTED IT HERE?

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I will never be able to live without your respect.

And it has everything to do with it. Don't tell other young people how to run their life if your own kids won't even follow your own rules. Remember that glass houses and stones and all that?

Lily has NEVER said it is ok for her kids to be having sex, and she has never said she did so before 18. You are unbelievable.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lawyerlady wrote:
I just don't get how an unrequited crush is something new, notable, or advice column worthy.

For this poor girl, it's a new experience.

flan

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.
And you've put a lot of crap on the board, should we throw it all in your face? How about your friends' faces?

Tinydancer is right.

You already throw crap in my face LL. You dislike me and we both know it and we both know why. I'm not going anywhere and you can throw as much stuff as you want.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

flan327 wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.
And you've put a lot of crap on the board, should we throw it all in your face? How about your friends' faces?

Tinydancer is right.
How would anyone even KNOW about Lily's daughter unless she POSTED IT HERE?
flan

See above. Lily NEVER, EVER, EVER has said she condones her daughter having sex. EVER.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lawyerlady wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I will never be able to live without your respect.

And it has everything to do with it. Don't tell other young people how to run their life if your own kids won't even follow your own rules. Remember that glass houses and stones and all that?
Lily has NEVER said it is ok for her kids to be having sex, and she has never said she did so before 18. You are unbelievable.

Not so fun when the shoe is on the other foot? I don't know how old her daughter was, but she DID post about it.

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.
And you've put a lot of crap on the board, should we throw it all in your face? How about your friends' faces?

Tinydancer is right.
You already throw crap in my face LL. You dislike me and we both know it and we both know why. I'm not going anywhere and you can throw as much stuff as you want.

What, exactly, other than your own petty comments to other? I have never attacked your children. Should we start?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

flan327 wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lily put it on the board herself.
And you've put a lot of crap on the board, should we throw it all in your face? How about your friends' faces?

Tinydancer is right.
How would anyone even KNOW about Lily's daughter unless she POSTED IT HERE?
flan

Well, seeing as how I don't pm with Lily it would have to be here. And it WAS before 18 because she posted it. I am well aware of the pm rule and wouldn't do something so stupid.