DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the correct way to wear a woman's necklace?
No, I am not a man wanting to wear women's necklaces. I am a husband who buys his wife jewelry that is especially attractive and, to my mind, youthful and appropriate for daily wearing.
But she says necklaces are worn only with dresses. They are not to be worn with shirts, blouses, and definitely not with T-shirts. Since she rarely wears a dress, she thanks me and maybe wears my gifts one time, then they go in her jewelry cabinet, never to see the light of day.
Please tell me I am correct that necklaces can be worn most any time, and not only with a dress!
GENTLE READER: Yes, presuming that you understand the gradations between sporting a diamond choker and a gold chain. But what good does this do you? Your wife does not like to wear necklaces. So why do you keep giving them to her?
Miss Manners is astonished at the number of people who would rather prove a point than please a spouse, and politely excuses herself from being involved.
I love jewelry, and every piece that DH has given me is dear to me. But I don't feel compelled to wear something every day, except for my wedding rings, of course.
Exdh gave me a necklace one Christmas. Hated it. Yes it was jewelry, but it was a thoughtless gift. It was something that would only be worn with a formal dress which was not a part of our lifestyle. I had dropped hints about wanting a sapphire bracelet. Instead he bought an ugly emerald necklace. Never wore it.
This guy may be my first husband, LOL. He would ask me what I wanted and I would point to white gold. He preferred yellow gold. Guess what I was given? It can be said that at least he gave me something nice - yes, he did. But I'm sure you get my point... He was very well aware of my preference - and proved time and time again that HIS preference was much more important.
This guy may be my first husband, LOL. He would ask me what I wanted and I would point to white gold. He preferred yellow gold. Guess what I was given? It can be said that at least he gave me something nice - yes, he did. But I'm sure you get my point... He was very well aware of my preference - and proved time and time again that HIS preference was much more important.
Ugh!
I picked out a small diamond ring surrounded by diamonds. White gold. He mentioned he wanted to enlarge it but I said no. It fits the size of my hand.
I'd like to know why some guys feel the need to force unwanted jewelry on their women. He needs to be happy that she isn't draining his wallet with trips to the jewelry store. He needs to find what would make her heart sing and get that for her.
I don't wear jewelry and it took a bit to get it through DH's thick skull that I really, truly could not care less about jewelry. I don't like diamonds. I don't like bling. I will not wear it. I love deep blue sapphires but looking at them, not wearing them.
Meh, maybe, maybe not. My DH knows I prefer yellow gold, but lately has been buying white gold. He acknowledges my preference, but explains that the stone or setting or whatever was not available in yellow gold, and the sales person said mixing metals is "in" right now. So I am wearing my yellow gold wedding ring & engagement ring, with a white gold enhancer. It looks fine.
So where is the Dear Abby letter from the wife that says, "Dear Abby, I hate wearing necklaces, they make me feel choked. I have tried to make this clear to my husband but he keeps buying them for me and gets hurt when I won't wear them. How do I make him stop buying them?"
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
So where is the Dear Abby letter from the wife that says, "Dear Abby, I hate wearing necklaces, they make me feel choked. I have tried to make this clear to my husband but he keeps buying them for me and gets hurt when I won't wear them. How do I make him stop buying them?"
I love jewelry. I would rather have small and real than big and fake.
But I also love the flashy costume stuff too.
This guy is in a rut. And he probably doesn't really have a clue what else to get.
Maybe he likes the way it lays on her chest.
She could take her jewelry and have it melted down and create jewelry she would like better.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
In the past five years I have had two dear men(beaus) One never bought me any jewelry. He knew I loved jewelry. I even cut and pasted ideas for him, all within a modest range of money. No jewelry. He did buy me expensive and practical gifts, a TV and a printer scanner and other things. Very practical and things I use every day.
I would have liked an inexpensive trinket.
The current beau does buy me trinkets. They are as dear to me as expensive jewels.
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Here's a little FYI for you to tell your kids. Twice a year Pandora does an event. If you buy $100 (or $125 depending on which time of year) in charms, you get the bracelet free. If they buy 4 of the $25 beads or 3 of the $35 beads, they have you covered for Mother's Day (Bracelet and charm), Birthday and Christmas in one fell swoop.
Next event is March 31st-April 3rd.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Here's a little FYI for you to tell your kids. Twice a year Pandora does an event. If you buy $100 (or $125 depending on which time of year) in charms, you get the bracelet free. If they buy 4 of the $25 beads or 3 of the $35 beads, they have you covered for Mother's Day (Bracelet and charm), Birthday and Christmas in one fell swoop.
Next event is March 31st-April 3rd.
Perfect you have 3 kids. Each buys you a $35 charm. They all put their names on each one for each holiday!
Caitlyn got one for her 16th birthday. 1 charm, 1 bead.
She has gotten new charms and beads along the way.
It's getting full.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I bought my dad's wife a Pandora charm for Christmas. Turns out she had that one. Dad told her not to say anything. She called on the 26th and told me she was giving it back. Dad passed the next day and she gave it back to me at the funeral home. I took it back along with the one I had purchased for her birthday and kicked in another $100 bucks and bought myself a beautiful bracelet. She got a $25 Macy's gift card for her birthday.
I bought my dad's wife a Pandora charm for Christmas. Turns out she had that one. Dad told her not to say anything. She called on the 26th and told me she was giving it back. Dad passed the next day and she gave it back to me at the funeral home. I took it back along with the one I had purchased for her birthday and kicked in another $100 bucks and bought myself a beautiful bracelet. She got a $25 Macy's gift card for her birthday.
