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huskerbb · Guru

RE: Dear Abby: Brother Donating Sperm to Brother

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.

huskerbb · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.

What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.

To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.

What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?

in either case, ZERO difference.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.
What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?
in either case, ZERO difference.

Then let them get the sperm elsewhere. People who KNOW you and what your life choices have been actually do get to have an opinion when you are asking them for big, life-changing favors.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.
What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?
in either case, ZERO difference.
Then let them get the sperm elsewhere. People who KNOW you and what your life choices have been actually do get to have an opinion when you are asking them for big, life-changing favors.

Hers is not the opinion that counts.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.
What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?
in either case, ZERO difference.
Then let them get the sperm elsewhere. People who KNOW you and what your life choices have been actually do get to have an opinion when you are asking them for big, life-changing favors.
Hers is not the opinion that counts.

It does if her husband is going to have to decide between doing what his brother wants and his marriage.

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.
What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?
in either case, ZERO difference.
Then let them get the sperm elsewhere. People who KNOW you and what your life choices have been actually do get to have an opinion when you are asking them for big, life-changing favors.
Hers is not the opinion that counts.

It would in my marriage. My husband would never do something like this if we didn't agree on it.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.
What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?
in either case, ZERO difference.
Then let them get the sperm elsewhere. People who KNOW you and what your life choices have been actually do get to have an opinion when you are asking them for big, life-changing favors.
Hers is not the opinion that counts.
It does if her husband is going to have to decide between doing what his brother wants and his marriage.

There is zero reason for her to force such a choice. If she's that manipulative, he's better off without her.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.
What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?
in either case, ZERO difference.
Then let them get the sperm elsewhere. People who KNOW you and what your life choices have been actually do get to have an opinion when you are asking them for big, life-changing favors.
Hers is not the opinion that counts.
It does if her husband is going to have to decide between doing what his brother wants and his marriage.
There is zero reason for her to force such a choice. If she's that manipulative, he's better off without her.

Your marriage is supposed to come first. Her opinion matters more than anyone else. *Forsaking all others*, remember?

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Why ? Because you disagree? Oh ok. He is in his second marriage ,already has a kid but yet isn't mature enough not to pretend it's some big secret. And he's HER husband.
What difference does the "second marriage" have to do with anything? NOTHING.
To YOU. Obviously, it means something to her. And I'd be hesitant, too. Give them a kid and they can't bother to stay married and raise it together.
What difference would it possibly make where they get the sperm if that is what she is worried about? Further, so divorced people should never have kids? Again, why would it make any difference if he gets sperm from somewhere or if he wasnot sterile?
in either case, ZERO difference.
Then let them get the sperm elsewhere. People who KNOW you and what your life choices have been actually do get to have an opinion when you are asking them for big, life-changing favors.
Hers is not the opinion that counts.
It does if her husband is going to have to decide between doing what his brother wants and his marriage.
There is zero reason for her to force such a choice. If she's that manipulative, he's better off without her.
Your marriage is supposed to come first. Her opinion matters more than anyone else. *Forsaking all others*, remember?

LOL!!! She is the one who would be forcing the choice for no reason, not him. He's not making the threat to leave the marriage.

Ohfour · Hooker

Straight up, if my husband did something like this, knowing I did not approve, that would be THE END of the marriage. Period.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Straight up, if my husband did something like this, knowing I did not approve, that would be THE END of the marriage. Period.

then give your approval. This is a stupid issue to make a big deal about.

its not like they are going to make the pregnancy happen the old fashioned way.

-- Edited by huskerbb on Friday 18th of March 2016 12:14:58 PM

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Straight up, if my husband did something like this, knowing I did not approve, that would be THE END of the marriage. Period.
then give your approval. This is a stupid issue to make a big deal about.
its not like they are going to make the pregnancy happen the old fashioned way.

-- Edited by huskerbb on Friday 18th of March 2016 12:14:58 PM

I wouldn't give my approval. I think it's wrong.

huskerbb · Guru

That's absurd. There is nothing wrong with it--and Yiu haven't been able to give any reasons why, either. No one has except the whole "second marriage " nonsense which is just that, nonsense.

On the other hand, there are a ton of good reasons to do it.

The child would share DNA with both his parents. He would share their family history. He would have a good chance of resembling both parents.

There's really no valid argument against it.

Ohfour · Hooker

I DID give another reason.

I would ALWAYS see the child as my husbands. I would not be able to separate that in my mind. G and I talked about this and he feels the same way.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
I DID give another reason.

I would ALWAYS see the child as my husbands. I would not be able to separate that in my mind. G and I talked about this and he feels the same way.

That's ridiculous. what your deluded mind thinks isn't relevant.

sure, lots of wives are bat **** crazy, butbthat doesn't mean they should always get their way.

Ohfour · Hooker

I wouldn't want my sister raising my child. Neither would he. So I guess it's good that we married each other, because we are of the same mindset. Neither of us would be able to look at that child in a non-parental way...

Ohfour · Hooker

Interestingly enough, he would not mind me being a surrogate. We actually went through the beginning process for a girl we work with. It didn't pan out, (her eggs were too damaged), but we were willing to do it.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
I wouldn't want my sister raising my child. Neither would he. So I guess it's good that we married each other, because we are of the same mindset. Neither of us would be able to look at that child in a non-parental way...

It wouldn't be your child.

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
I wouldn't want my sister raising my child. Neither would he. So I guess it's good that we married each other, because we are of the same mindset. Neither of us would be able to look at that child in a non-parental way...
It wouldn't be your child.

Genetically, it would...meaning, if I donated an egg. If he donated sperm, it would be his child and he would always feel that way...

-- Edited by Ohfour on Friday 18th of March 2016 12:51:12 PM

huskerbb · Guru

So? It would be his nephew. That's a good thing.

Mary Zombie · Guru

I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
So? It would be his nephew. That's a good thing.

It would be his son, not his nephew. Or it would be my son, not my nephew (depending on which one was the donor). Neither of us are or would be OK with that.

Ohfour · Hooker

Mary Zombie wrote:
I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.

Right? Oh, I can't have kids so you have to give me yours? That says a lot and if I HAD been on the fence, I wouldn't be any longer...

huskerbb · Guru

Mary Zombie wrote:
I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.

I think it's sh!tty of his wife to infer he might lose her f he doesn't do what she wants.

chef · Guru

I would not want DH to be a sperm donor for his brother. Not because I wouldn't be able to separate myself from the child but because his brother is a jerk.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

chef wrote:
I would not want DH to be a sperm donor for his brother. Not because I wouldn't be able to separate myself from the child but because his brother is a jerk.

And that's YOUR decision as a couple...no matter what husker thinks.

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.
I think it's sh!tty of his wife to infer he might lose her f he doesn't do what she wants.

I think it's ****ty of the husband to even consider this if the wife is against it.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.
I think it's sh!tty of his wife to infer he might lose her f he doesn't do what she wants.
I think it's ****ty of the husband to even consider this if the wife is against it.

Irrationality is not a basis upon which to make decisions. Just because she's bat **** crazy doesn't mean she gets her way 100% of the time.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.
I think it's sh!tty of his wife to infer he might lose her f he doesn't do what she wants.
I think it's ****ty of the husband to even consider this if the wife is against it.
Irrationality is not a basis upon which to make decisions. Just because she's bat **** crazy doesn't mean she gets her way 100% of the time.

You are the only one being irrational. And frankly, the brother is, too, giving ultimatums. I'd tell him to kiss my ass.

Ohfour · Hooker

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.
I think it's sh!tty of his wife to infer he might lose her f he doesn't do what she wants.
I think it's ****ty of the husband to even consider this if the wife is against it.
Irrationality is not a basis upon which to make decisions. Just because she's bat **** crazy doesn't mean she gets her way 100% of the time.
You are the only one being irrational. And frankly, the brother is, too, giving ultimatums. I'd tell him to kiss my ass.

Yeah, I have more respect for my spouse than my sibling. The brother is demanding that he give up his child. Nope. Not gonna happen...

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
I think it's ****ty of the brother to infer he might lose him if he doesn't give him what he wants. He already did this once. It's a lot to ask. And refusing to take a no shows a lack of maturity to me. So yeah um...no.
I think it's sh!tty of his wife to infer he might lose her f he doesn't do what she wants.
I think it's ****ty of the husband to even consider this if the wife is against it.
Irrationality is not a basis upon which to make decisions. Just because she's bat **** crazy doesn't mean she gets her way 100% of the time.
You are the only one being irrational. And frankly, the brother is, too, giving ultimatums. I'd tell him to kiss my ass.

BS. There is no reason he should not do this. NONE.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

What your brother wants is NOT more important than what your spouse wants. EVER.

Ohfour · Hooker

This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants

Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.

It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.
It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.

And that right there is the problem. They are MARRIED. Spouses come FIRST. If not, you have the wrong attitude about marriage.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.
It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.
And that right there is the problem. They are MARRIED. Spouses come FIRST. If not, you have the wrong attitude about marriage.

that doesn't mean they get their way 100% of the time, especially when they are being bat **** crazy.

Also, I've been married longer than most in here. I know how it works.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.
It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.
And that right there is the problem. They are MARRIED. Spouses come FIRST. If not, you have the wrong attitude about marriage.
that doesn't mean they get their way 100% of the time, especially when they are being bat **** crazy.

Also, I've been married longer than most in here. I know how it works.

If you married a bat**** crazy woman, that was your CHOICE. You should have chosen better. But she's still your spouse, for better or worse, FORSAKING ALL OTHERS.

You need to respect her opinion on it over everyone else's whether you agree or not.

chef · Guru

flan327 wrote:
chef wrote:
I would not want DH to be a sperm donor for his brother. Not because I wouldn't be able to separate myself from the child but because his brother is a jerk.
And that's YOUR decision as a couple...no matter what husker thinks.
flan

Husker raises a good point though re children from IVF not being the responsibility of the sperm donor. He also is looking at the situation practically vs emotionally.

Also, Husker's thoughts wouldn't factor into such a decision so bringing him into it was rather unnecessary.

DH doesn't like his SIL so he wouldn't donate sperm to his brother anyway.

Ohfour · Hooker

chef wrote:
flan327 wrote:
chef wrote:
I would not want DH to be a sperm donor for his brother. Not because I wouldn't be able to separate myself from the child but because his brother is a jerk.
And that's YOUR decision as a couple...no matter what husker thinks.
flan
Husker raises a good point though re children from IVF not being the responsibility of the sperm donor. He also is looking at the situation practically vs emotionally.
Also, Husker's thoughts wouldn't factor into such a decision so bringing him into it was rather unnecessary.
DH doesn't like his SIL so he wouldn't donate sperm to his brother anyway.

But sometimes they ARE. Take Sherri Shepherd for instance. She decided that she didn't want the baby that was conceived with her husband's sperm and an anonymous egg doner. Then implanted into a surrogate. Before the baby was born, Sherri decided that she didn't want the baby. So she refused to be named on the birth certificate. For over a year, the surrogate was considered the mother and she went through all kinds of legal and financial hell. They went to court in a couple of different states. They surrogate was not biologically related to the child at all.

Sherri is still fighting it. The last court ruled that she WAS the mother, but she's not going to stop fighting. This crap happens all the time..

Ohfour · Hooker

A Kansas sperm donor caught in the middle of a child support case says he wanted to help a lesbian couple when he made the donation nearly five years ago.

Instead, he may end up paying for his action.

A judge ruled that William Marotta must pay child support, even though he says he signed documents waiving his parental rights.

Shawnee County District Court Judge Mary Mattivi said on Wednesday that Marotta failed to conform to Kansas law, which says a licensed physician must be involved in an artificial insemination process, court documents show.

www.cnn.com/2014/01/23/justice/kansas-sperm-donation/

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
A Kansas sperm donor caught in the middle of a child support case says he wanted to help a lesbian couple when he made the donation nearly five years ago.

Instead, he may end up paying for his action.

A judge ruled that William Marotta must pay child support, even though he says he signed documents waiving his parental rights.

Shawnee County District Court Judge Mary Mattivi said on Wednesday that Marotta failed to conform to Kansas law, which says a licensed physician must be involved in an artificial insemination process, court documents show.

www.cnn.com/2014/01/23/justice/kansas-sperm-donation/

No one is suggesting that he not follow the law.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.
It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.
And that right there is the problem. They are MARRIED. Spouses come FIRST. If not, you have the wrong attitude about marriage.
that doesn't mean they get their way 100% of the time, especially when they are being bat **** crazy.

Also, I've been married longer than most in here. I know how it works.
If you married a bat**** crazy woman, that was your CHOICE. You should have chosen better. But she's still your spouse, for better or worse, FORSAKING ALL OTHERS.
You need to respect her opinion on it over everyone else's whether you agree or not.

I didn't. My wife wouldn't make an issue out of this. Only bat sh!t crazy women would.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I think the wife has a reasonable interest in where her husband's sperm wind up. And he with her body and eggs. And, if you can't agree then don't do it. I dont' have a problem if both of them agree, then fine.

Tinydancer · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.
It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.
And that right there is the problem. They are MARRIED. Spouses come FIRST. If not, you have the wrong attitude about marriage.
that doesn't mean they get their way 100% of the time, especially when they are being bat **** crazy.

Also, I've been married longer than most in here. I know how it works.
If you married a bat**** crazy woman, that was your CHOICE. You should have chosen better. But she's still your spouse, for better or worse, FORSAKING ALL OTHERS.
You need to respect her opinion on it over everyone else's whether you agree or not.
I didn't. My wife wouldn't make an issue out of this. Only bat sh!t crazy women would.

I think you have the wrong person listed as b*tsh*t crazy. That would be any man who would throw away his marriage so his BRO can have his kid. You might think that's ok but as you can see no one else agrees with you. If my husband ever said bros before hos he'd be living with his bros.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.
It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.
And that right there is the problem. They are MARRIED. Spouses come FIRST. If not, you have the wrong attitude about marriage.
that doesn't mean they get their way 100% of the time, especially when they are being bat **** crazy.

Also, I've been married longer than most in here. I know how it works.
If you married a bat**** crazy woman, that was your CHOICE. You should have chosen better. But she's still your spouse, for better or worse, FORSAKING ALL OTHERS.
You need to respect her opinion on it over everyone else's whether you agree or not.
I didn't. My wife wouldn't make an issue out of this. Only bat sh!t crazy women would.
I think you have the wrong person listed as b*tsh*t crazy. That would be any man who would throw away his marriage so his BRO can have his kid. You might think that's ok but as you can see no one else agrees with you. If my husband ever said bros before hos he'd be living with his bros.

It's not him that is throwing anything away. He is not setting it up as an either/or scenario. He is not forcing a choice on this. She is--with ZERO reason to.

Lindley · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This says it all:

My husband is afraid he's going to lose his brother if he doesn't give him everything he wants
Yep. No way I'd want an ass like that raising my kid.
It wouldn't be your kid any more than it would be for any other sperm donor.

The wife is basically threatening the same thing. Bros before hos.
And that right there is the problem. They are MARRIED. Spouses come FIRST. If not, you have the wrong attitude about marriage.
that doesn't mean they get their way 100% of the time, especially when they are being bat **** crazy.

Also, I've been married longer than most in here. I know how it works.

A man shall leave his mother and father and cleave unto his wife and the two shall be as one. When a man and woman get married they become a family unit and the parents and siblings become extended fsmily. This is what I told both my son and daughter when they got married. We told them once they got married their spouse becomes their number one priority.

I've been married almost 34 years so zip too know how it works.