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huskerbb · Guru

RE: Dear Prudie: College Expenses for my Husband's other children from previous marriage.

Mary Zombie · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
A college degree is not medical school. You get a bachelor's degree first - then go to medical school. His obligation ends with college.

This is what I thought. And if that's the case and he wants to pay after his legal obligation ends frankly I would have an issue if i were the wife. He may have money now but there's no tellling what the future holds.

His current wife has a say in that

-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Friday 8th of April 2016 11:17:04 AM

Bonny22Pye · Guru

We don't know where they live. For all we know it could be a super nice condo in NYC or San Francisco.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I would have never set up a divorce agreement so unspecific as this. Heck, I would have preferred annual deposits into a college fund over and above child support b/c what if he loses his job and CAN'T pay for it?

Ohfour · Hooker

Lawyerlady wrote:
I would have never set up a divorce agreement so unspecific as this. Heck, I would have preferred annual deposits into a college fund over and above child support b/c what if he loses his job and CAN'T pay for it?

Yep! Thats exactly how Gs was...

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

It also requires the kids to take some responsibility for their own education. Here is your college savings account, it has x amount of dollars in it - use it wisely.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I firmly believe that the majority of kids who have to work to pay for some or all of their education take it much more seriously and value it more. Not every single kid. Some kids realize how lucky they are. But most don't.

Ohfour · Hooker

It turned out that Gs daughter didnt need a penny of it. Her scholarships covered everything, including rent on an of campus house.

huskerbb · Guru

Mary Zombie wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
A college degree is not medical school. You get a bachelor's degree first - then go to medical school. His obligation ends with college.
This is what I thought. And if that's the case and he wants to pay after his legal obligation ends frankly I would have an issue if i were the wife. He may have money now but there's no tellling what the future holds.
His current wife has a say in that

-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Friday 8th of April 2016 11:17:04 AM

So parents should only ever do what they are legally obligated to do and nothing more?

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
I would have never set up a divorce agreement so unspecific as this. Heck, I would have preferred annual deposits into a college fund over and above child support b/c what if he loses his job and CAN'T pay for it?

You can't make binding contracts based on what if. If that's the case, no one would ever buy anything big that would require a contract.

weltschmerz · Guru

I dont know much about state colleges...we dont have that here.
Are they any good

TrudyML · Guru

UConn, UVA, UMass...

They go on and on. Some are tough to get into

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I graduated from a state college. The nursing program at the state college got a higher rating than the nursing program at the private college.

Mary Zombie · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
A college degree is not medical school. You get a bachelor's degree first - then go to medical school. His obligation ends with college.
This is what I thought. And if that's the case and he wants to pay after his legal obligation ends frankly I would have an issue if i were the wife. He may have money now but there's no tellling what the future holds.
His current wife has a say in that

-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Friday 8th of April 2016 11:17:04 AM
So parents should only ever do what they are legally obligated to do and nothing more?

He is also obligated to protect his wife and youngest child financially.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
I would have never set up a divorce agreement so unspecific as this. Heck, I would have preferred annual deposits into a college fund over and above child support b/c what if he loses his job and CAN'T pay for it?
You can't make binding contracts based on what if. If that's the case, no one would ever buy anything big that would require a contract.

But there is always the risk that a contract will be breached. When it comes to my kid's future, I'd want it protected against as many contingencies as possible. All lawyers need to look at "what ifs". That's why, I seriously hope his divorce agreement also includes the requirement of a life insurance policy in case he dies before they finish school.

huskerbb · Guru

Mary Zombie wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
A college degree is not medical school. You get a bachelor's degree first - then go to medical school. His obligation ends with college.
This is what I thought. And if that's the case and he wants to pay after his legal obligation ends frankly I would have an issue if i were the wife. He may have money now but there's no tellling what the future holds.
His current wife has a say in that

-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Friday 8th of April 2016 11:17:04 AM
So parents should only ever do what they are legally obligated to do and nothing more?
He is also obligated to protect his wife and youngest child financially.

You don't know he has not done that. The LW doesn't even clam that. Her only complaint is that she wants a different house.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

weltschmerz wrote:
I dont know much about state colleges...we dont have that here.
Are they any good

State colleges and universities are usually considered better b/c they cost less, making them more desirable and competitive.

Mary Zombie · Guru

I don't think she's unreasonable for wanting a house. There are plenty of good schools that aren't Ivy League.

huskerbb · Guru

Mary Zombie wrote:
I don't think she's unreasonable for wanting a house. There are plenty of good schools that aren't Ivy League.

That's BS. He shouldn't have to base longstanding promises to his children on the whims of his new wife. They have a house.

Mary Zombie · Guru

He can pay for college. What if they wanted to stay in college indefinitely. Some people do that. Where is the limit?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

If my kid were accepted to an ivy league school, I'd move heaven and he'll to make sure they went.

This new wife seems to have a bit of jealousy going on. A touch of my kid vs your kid.

She should talk to her husband about a college fund for her child and then be thankful she has a helpmate who cares about his kids education.

I'm sure there is a compromise. Find it.

Tinydancer · Guru

I guess men never have to keep their wives happy in huskers world...

huskerbb · Guru

Mary Zombie wrote:
He can pay for college. What if they wanted to stay in college indefinitely. Some people do that. Where is the limit?

Then he can set a limit. Or set conditions on grades. That is a different proposition than telling them they can't go where they've been accepted.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
I guess men never have to keep their wives happy in huskers world...

Ephesians 5:25

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I went to a state school to get my BSN. There was a private college not far from the college I went to. There was also a two year college where you could get only an Associates. My state college only took one out of every six applicants so they could be very choosy. The private college took everyone because not many could afford to go there. Because our program was bigger they contracted out with the better hospitals for us to do rotations. I remember as a student nurse working with mentor nurses they often commented that our college turned out better and more prepared nurses. So money doesn't always equal the best education.

Tinydancer · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
I guess men never have to keep their wives happy in huskers world...
Ephesians 5:25

I said in huskers world. Husbands keeping their wives happy only gets scorn from you. Wives are always the bitch and men are always misunderstood.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I have a feeling Husker is like an eager puppy around his wife. He blowhards a lot online but in reality, she has him wrapped around her little finger.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
I guess men never have to keep their wives happy in huskers world...
Ephesians 5:25
I said in huskers world. Husbands keeping their wives happy only gets scorn from you. Wives are always the bitch and men are always misunderstood.

In my world, my wife is very happy.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

The divorce decree could very well have spelled it all out exactly correctly. We have no idea. And frankly, the new wife might not either. Some husbands keep their new wives as much in the dark about the divorce agreement as they can to avoid situations like this.

The new wife sounds like a jealous idiot to me. When her VSS is college aged, I am sure she will have a tantrum until she gets him an Ivy League education. But her husband shouldn't try to get HIS kids one? Why doesn't she want the best for those kids? Sounds like a real treat of a woman.

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
The divorce decree could very well have spelled it all out exactly correctly. We have no idea. And frankly, the new wife might not either. Some husbands keep their new wives as much in the dark about the divorce agreement as they can to avoid situations like this.

The new wife sounds like a jealous idiot to me. When her VSS is college aged, I am sure she will have a tantrum until she gets him an Ivy League education. But her husband shouldn't try to get HIS kids one? Why doesn't she want the best for those kids? Sounds like a real treat of a woman.

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