TOTALLY GEEKED!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

RE: Dear Abby: Bridesmaid has Hairy Armpits

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I don't like to conform! But I will keep my pits and legs shaved at all times.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

I don't like stubble, so I shave. Takes no time at all...

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Why is it ALWAYS the one person's choices?

Why can't the choice of the BRIDE on this ONE DAY be the one respected?

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 29th of April 2016 02:51:12 PM
Who gets to decide what is "reasonable?"
flan
In this case, the one hosting the event.
Nope, we've all heard stories of Bridezillas. You want your BFF to lose 50 pounds before you get married? Good luck with that.
flan
But this would require almost ZERO effort.
Are you TRYING to make every woman here HATE you?
flan
Why on earth would anyone hate Husker for his opinion on this?
Shave the pits.

Seriously. He's absolutely correct. Just yuck. And quite frankly, if my friend couldn't do something so simple, she doesn't need to be a bridesmaid.

Ohfour · Hooker

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Why is it ALWAYS the one person's choices?

Why can't the choice of the BRIDE on this ONE DAY be the one respected?

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 29th of April 2016 02:51:12 PM
Who gets to decide what is "reasonable?"
flan
In this case, the one hosting the event.
Nope, we've all heard stories of Bridezillas. You want your BFF to lose 50 pounds before you get married? Good luck with that.
flan
But this would require almost ZERO effort.
Are you TRYING to make every woman here HATE you?
flan
Why on earth would anyone hate Husker for his opinion on this?
Shave the pits.
Seriously. He's absolutely correct. Just yuck. And quite frankly, if my friend couldn't do something so simple, she doesn't need to be a bridesmaid.

I agree. NO ONE wants to see that. And it would grow back rather quickly...

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

And the bride should have asked her if she would shave at the same time she asked her to be in the wedding party.

flan

Ohfour · Hooker

flan327 wrote:
And the bride should have asked her if she would shave at the same time she asked her to be in the wedding party.

flan

Maybe the bride didn't ask her to be in the party? Maybe it was just a given that she was...

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

flan327 wrote:
And the bride should have asked her if she would shave at the same time she asked her to be in the wedding party.

flan

I totally agree. While I think she should shave her pits for the occasion I don't really like the idea of her mom telling her she has to. I think the bride should have addressed it at the time of the invite.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Maybe the bride gives the girl more credit than she's due and assumed she'd be smart and thoughtful enough to know she'd need to shave.

Ohfour · Hooker

Maybe the bride didn't realize she HAD hairy armpits...

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Ahhh, those pesky details omitted from the letters.

flan

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

You know, there are somethings I just don't think about needing to tell other adults.

They should be implied.

This is one of them.

There is zero reason not to shave. None.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

In our culture, most women DO shave their armpits. It's not a mortal sin if they don't, though.

flan

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Like I said, it's something that is just implied.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

flan327 wrote:
In our culture, most women DO shave their armpits. It's not a mortal sin if they don't, though.

flan

Nor is it the end of the world to simply shave them out of courtesy for others. Wow.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

No. It isn't a mortal sin.

But for a bridesmaid at the wedding, it is a major social faux pas.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

I bet the bridesmaid plans to shave and just hasn't told them. Bwahahaha

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

This is what burns my biscuits every single time.

It's always the ONE who messes everything up. We have change everything for ONE.

It makes no sense.

None.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
This is what burns my biscuits every single time.

It's always the ONE who messes everything up. We have change everything for ONE.

It makes no sense.

None.

Whatever happened to CONSIDERING others? It isn't Hairy Hippie's Day. Suck it up.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Exactly.

It seems it's always ONE person we have to make special privileges for while the rest just have to suck it up or we are intolerant or excluding or whatever the catch phrase is of the moment.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

flan327 wrote:
In our culture, most women DO shave their armpits. It's not a mortal sin if they don't, though.

flan

Sure it is. That's why there are so few women with hairy pits. They all eventually get struck by lightning. biggrin

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Exactly.

It seems it's always ONE person we have to make special privileges for while the rest just have to suck it up or we are intolerant or excluding or whatever the catch phrase is of the moment.

Just like we have to change the restroom policies for one person and ignore the comfort of everyone else.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yup.

Stupid.

TrudyML · Guru

Maybe she'll braid it and add ribbons. Festive!

Tinydancer · Guru

Only if the ribbons go with the brides colors...

Ohfour · Hooker

TrudyML wrote:
Maybe she'll braid it and add ribbons. Festive!

Or maybe should could dye it the same color as her dress...

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:
In our culture, most women DO shave their armpits. It's not a mortal sin if they don't, though.

flan
Sure it is. That's why there are so few women with hairy pits. They all eventually get struck by lightning.

Well, then, it will definitely be a ceremony to remember!

flan

TrudyML · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
Maybe she'll braid it and add ribbons. Festive!
Or maybe should could dye it the same color as her dress...

Yikes!

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

TrudyML wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
Maybe she'll braid it and add ribbons. Festive!
Or maybe should could dye it the same color as her dress...

Yikes!

And she has a bathtub tattoo!! Bwahaha

TrudyML · Guru

OMG! I just saw that! Crying, laughing.

Ohfour · Hooker

I saw that too. SO much wrong with this picture...

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Ohfour wrote:
I saw that too. SO much wrong with this picture...

I thought maybe you would like the bathtub. wink

TrudyML · Guru

She needs to get in a bathtub!

Ohfour · Hooker

TrudyML wrote:
She needs to get in a bathtub!

With a RAZOR!!!!!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

So let's judge by appearances!

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

flan327 wrote:
So let's judge by appearances!

flan

THAT appearance shows a serious lack of judgment and a whole lot of bad taste.

Ohfour · Hooker

flan327 wrote:
So let's judge by appearances!

flan

Absolutely. When it's something that can't be helped, that's one thing. When you do something to make yourself look like an idiot, I'm going to think you ARE an idiot. It's about choices...

Tangerine · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
You know, there are somethings I just don't think about needing to tell other adults.

They should be implied.

This is one of them.

There is zero reason not to shave. None.

I have to disagree with this statement.

My mom doesn't shave her pits. Her skin is very reactive and has gotten worse over the years.

When she was still shaving, her underarms would be a painful mess nearly all the time.

She also doesn't wear sleeveless shirts though.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Tangerine wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
You know, there are somethings I just don't think about needing to tell other adults.

They should be implied.

This is one of them.

There is zero reason not to shave. None.

I have to disagree with this statement.
My mom doesn't shave her pits. Her skin is very reactive and has gotten worse over the years.
When she was still shaving, her underarms would be a painful mess nearly all the time.
She also doesn't wear sleeveless shirts though.

And your mom is not the subject of the letter.

huskerbb · Guru

flan327 wrote:
So let's judge by appearances!

flan

What planet are you from? Of course people are judged by appearances.

You don't see this guy in Congress:

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He'd NEVER get any more than a few votes.

Tangerine · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Tangerine wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
You know, there are somethings I just don't think about needing to tell other adults.

They should be implied.

This is one of them.

There is zero reason not to shave. None.

I have to disagree with this statement.
My mom doesn't shave her pits. Her skin is very reactive and has gotten worse over the years.
When she was still shaving, her underarms would be a painful mess nearly all the time.
She also doesn't wear sleeveless shirts though.
And your mom is not the subject of the letter.

Perhaps the young woman in the letter has a similar difficulty with shaving her underarms.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Ohfour wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
Maybe she'll braid it and add ribbons. Festive!
Or maybe should could dye it the same color as her dress...

I want purple!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Tangerine wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Tangerine wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
You know, there are somethings I just don't think about needing to tell other adults.

They should be implied.

This is one of them.

There is zero reason not to shave. None.

I have to disagree with this statement.
My mom doesn't shave her pits. Her skin is very reactive and has gotten worse over the years.
When she was still shaving, her underarms would be a painful mess nearly all the time.
She also doesn't wear sleeveless shirts though.
And your mom is not the subject of the letter.

Perhaps the young woman in the letter has a similar difficulty with shaving her underarms.

Don't you think if that were the case, the mom would have said so and the LW wouldn't be insisting?

Ohfour · Hooker

Southern_Belle wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
Maybe she'll braid it and add ribbons. Festive!
Or maybe should could dye it the same color as her dress...

I want purple!

No...i will shave them in the middle of the night....

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I must not grow hair very well cuz there is no way i could grow that much armpit hair!

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Advice to any future brides out there.

Don't pick bridesmaids dresses that show armpits.

Problem solved.

Just an idea! wink

huskerbb · Guru

Tangerine wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Tangerine wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
You know, there are somethings I just don't think about needing to tell other adults.

They should be implied.

This is one of them.

There is zero reason not to shave. None.

I have to disagree with this statement.
My mom doesn't shave her pits. Her skin is very reactive and has gotten worse over the years.
When she was still shaving, her underarms would be a painful mess nearly all the time.
She also doesn't wear sleeveless shirts though.
And your mom is not the subject of the letter.

Perhaps the young woman in the letter has a similar difficulty with shaving her underarms.

Oh BS. There is ZERO indication of that. If that were the case, the LW would have brought it up.

huskerbb · Guru

But even if so--ONE time is not fatal.

FNW · Guru

When I wore commercial deodorants I couldn't shave every day or else I'd get a horrible rash. But the most I would do is skip a day. It's just one of those things that should not be neglected, IMO.

WYSIWYG · Guru

But what fun would THAT be???
- flan327

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