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Paralyzed bride' reveals she hasn't spoken to best friend who crippled her by pushing her into a pool on her bachelorette party for a YEAR - despite once defending her

  • Rachelle Chapman, 30, left paralyzed in 2010 after being pushed into pool
  • For six years she has defended 'best friend' who gave her fateful shove
  • But Chapman now doesn't talk to the woman after they became distant
  • She is focused on raising daughter Kaylee who turned one this week
  • Little girl recently learned to walk by pulling herself up on mom's wheelchair, while Chapman has learned to drive to help take care of her 

By CHRIS PLEASANCE FOR DAILYMAIL.COM

PUBLISHED: 20:06 EST, 30 April 2016 | UPDATED: 01:21 EST, 1 May 2016

 

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When Rachelle Chapman's best friend gave her a playful push into a pool at her bachelorette party back in 2010, it changed her life forever.

Paralyzed from the chest down and left a quadriplegic after hitting her head on the bottom of the pool, Chapman was forced to readjust everything about her life in a single moment.

But one thing has never changed in the six years since the accident - she never stopped defending the friend who gave her that fateful shove, until now.

While Chapman still refuses to name the woman, once turning down a slot on Oprah because her team demanded the friend appear as well, she says she has stopped speaking to her according to People. 

Rachelle Chapman (left with husband Chris) has revealed she last spoke to the 'best friend' who paralyze her by pushing her into a pool a year ago when daughter Kaylee (left and right) was born
 
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Kaylee Chapman
 
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Rachelle Chapman (left with husband Chris) has revealed she last spoke to the 'best friend' who paralyze her by pushing her into a pool a year ago when daughter Kaylee (left and right) was born

Chapman spent years defending the friend, and still refuses to name her, but said she cut ties with the woman because 'she wasn't there when I needed her'
 
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Chapman spent years defending the friend, and still refuses to name her, but said she cut ties with the woman because 'she wasn't there when I needed her'

Discussing the issue with People ahead of an upcoming TLC documentary about her life, Chapman said: 'In the beginning, she was there for me and I was there for her. 

Chapman (pictured before her accident) says she has focused her efforts on learning to raise her daughter despite her disability
 
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Chapman (pictured before her accident) says she has focused her efforts on learning to raise her daughter despite her disability

'She was distraught and depressed about what happened. But as the years passed, she didn't make the effort, it was just going through the motions and every time we spoke.' 

Chapman said the friend came to visit after the birth of her daughter, Kaylee, who turned one year old this week, but that was the last time they spoke.

She added: 'I had to actually cut ties with her and end the friendship. I had to tell her that we couldn't be friends because she just wasn't there for me anymore.'

Instead Chapman has focused her efforts on raising her daughter, despite criticism from some that she is not capable of taking care of a child.

She told Today: '[My husband] Chris and I together as a team are more than capable of taking care of a baby, especially with the help of my mother, who was all in from the beginning.'

Mother Carol Friedman lives with the couple, mostly to help her daughter out of bed and into her wheelchair in the mornings after Chris has left for his job as a school science teacher.

Meanwhile Kaylee recently learned to walk using her mother's wheelchair to pull herself up, and now walks along behind her holding on to a bar at the back of the chair.

Chapman has been working hard to figure out a way to do all of the things a mother would usually do for her daughter, despite being heavily disabled.

She added: 'Even though my fingers don't work, I have found a way to manipulate my hands to do a lot of things. I can hold Kaylee. I can feed Kaylee and I can play with her while Chris is washing bottles or whatever. We have a system that works for us.

'And beyond love, Kaylee has a house over her head and food in her tummy. She's a happy, happy baby who doesn't realize that I'm different. This is normal for her.'

She revealed that Kaylee, who celebrated her birthday this week, has recently learned to walk by pulling herself up on her wheelchair, and that she has learned how to drive to better care for her daughter
 
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Rachelle Chapman and daughter Kaylee
 
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She revealed that Kaylee, who celebrated her birthday this week, has recently learned to walk by pulling herself up on her wheelchair, and that she has learned how to drive to better care for her daughter

While Kaylee is Chapman's daughter, having been born from her eggs fertilized with her husband's sperm, the girl had to be carried by a surrogate due to blood pressure medication Chapman takes.

Laurel Humes, who Chapman and her husband met in college in 2004 at East Carolina University, agreed to carry the girl and gave birth on April 26 last year.

To celebrate Kaylee's first birthday this week the proud parents threw her an Elmo themed party because she is obsessed with the Sesame Street character. 

Chapman has also been learning to drive a specially adapted van, in the hopes of becoming more independent and driving her daughter to school or sport practice one day.



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I don't think people understand pool safety and what can happen so easily and fast.

I don't believe I would have continued the friendship the second she pushed me in the pool, regardless of the outcome.  You just don't do those things.



-- Edited by FNW on Sunday 1st of May 2016 09:30:14 AM

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FNW wrote:

I don't think people understand pool safety and what can happen so easily and fast.

I don't believe I would have continued the friendship the second she pushed me in the pool, regardless of the outcome.  You just don't do those things.



-- Edited by FNW on Sunday 1st of May 2016 09:30:14 AM

 BS. People do stuff like that all the time.  

Yes, this ONE time out of thousand upon thousands a tragic outcome occurred, but it's not like people never push each other in the water.  To say you'd end a friendship over getting wet is beyond shallow.

In this case, I just don't think either of them could move past what was a worse outcome than getting wet.  



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I don't think people understand pool safety and what can happen so easily and fast.

I don't believe I would have continued the friendship the second she pushed me in the pool, regardless of the outcome.  You just don't do those things.



-- Edited by FNW on Sunday 1st of May 2016 09:30:14 AM

 BS. People do stuff like that all the time.  

Yes, this ONE time out of thousand upon thousands a tragic outcome occurred, but it's not like people never push each other in the water.  To say you'd end a friendship over getting wet is beyond shallow.

In this case, I just don't think either of them could move past what was a worse outcome than getting wet.  

 I agree with FNW.

For me, it wouldn't be about getting wet. I don't care about that. It would be about the potential to have stuff in my pockets ruined (like my phone or key fob) or my glasses getting broke. Not every instance of being by a pool means one is in a swim suit. If I were in a swim suit and wearing contacts that day, I wouldn't give being pushed a second thought. I would, however, push the pusher into the pool.



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This was a bachelorette party. Shenanigans and hootenanny are the norm--and, in fact, rather required.

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I think Husker is confusing Girls Gone Wild with reality.

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I can completely understand not being able to get passed it. That one action completely changed her life.



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For me, it's about safety and respect. We grew up with a pool. Pushing someone in was against the rules. Even now, against the rules. #2 split his chin open last summer when at the community pool someone pushed him in.  The only person it's "fun" for is the pusher.  Until it isn't.



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I get that.

What about chicken while in the lake?

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We never swam in any lakes. They have them in Cali, but with a pool, there was no need. I used to swim/ski/windsurf in Bass Lake, near Yosemite, with an old boyfriend who had a place there with a boat slip. I'm fine as long as my feet don't touch the bottom. I can't stand my feet touching all that gross stuff and who knows what else (fishing hooks, etc.)

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We have lots of lakes for swimming.



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We have lots of lakes for swimming.

 There are more than a million lakes in Quebec,.

The lake that I frequent has a nice, sandy bottom....no goop.



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Oh my gosh, the whole situation is so crappy.

If I was the friend that caused this, I would be there helping out in any way I could. She owes her that. Yes it was an accident but how can you just go on with your life when you were the direct result of her having to half ass hers? Terrible.

It changed her, her mom's her husband's and her children's lives forever. You could at least spare one day a week to come in and do her laundry and bring dinner. AT LEAST.

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People do do stuff like this. I doubt she was standing there in her work clothes with her purse and car keys in her pocket. Personally i have never pushed anyone into a pool. When i grew up, the rules at the pool were pretty strict. We weren't even allowed to take a pool toy or anything. There were lifeguards who were the enforcers. The only thing we could ever take into the pool was a penny or small rock that we would dive for. However, that was back in the day when you were allowed to dive into the pool. I used to dive into the 3 feet. That was permitted. Probably why i know how to dive and my kids really don't.

But, in reality, this was just a tragic event. Meant to be something for fun. People get pushed into pools all the time and they don't get paralyzed. However, for both of them, i would think they need space between them. For the pusher, that would be very difficult to be reminded of this your whole life. That would be uncomfortable for both of them. How can anyone really move on? And, for the paralyzed woman, her life is what it is. All she can do is make the most of everyday. I am surprised they didn't drift apart a lot sooner.

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Oh my gosh, the whole situation is so crappy.

If I was the friend that caused this, I would be there helping out in any way I could. She owes her that. Yes it was an accident but how can you just go on with your life when you were the direct result of her having to half ass hers? Terrible.

It changed her, her mom's her husband's and her children's lives forever. You could at least spare one day a week to come in and do her laundry and bring dinner. AT LEAST.

 It sounds like this was it - she wasn't even trying to keep the friendship going, let alone helping. 

 

It was probably terrible, though, being reminded whenever she saw her of this terrible accident she caused.  But she needed to deal with that, b/c it's much worse living with what the accident caused.



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In a perfect world, that is what would happen. But, in reality, it is better they just move on. I don't think it is particularly helpful for the paralyzed woman to live with that angst and daily reminder of that fatal day. She has to just go forth and live her best life now.

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People do do stuff like this. I doubt she was standing there in her work clothes with her purse and car keys in her pocket. Personally i have never pushed anyone into a pool. When i grew up, the rules at the pool were pretty strict. We weren't even allowed to take a pool toy or anything. There were lifeguards who were the enforcers. The only thing we could ever take into the pool was a penny or small rock that we would dive for. However, that was back in the day when you were allowed to dive into the pool. I used to dive into the 3 feet. That was permitted. Probably why i know how to dive and my kids really don't.

But, in reality, this was just a tragic event. Meant to be something for fun. People get pushed into pools all the time and they don't get paralyzed. However, for both of them, i would think they need space between them. For the pusher, that would be very difficult to be reminded of this your whole life. That would be uncomfortable for both of them. How can anyone really move on? And, for the paralyzed woman, her life is what it is. All she can do is make the most of everyday. I am surprised they didn't drift apart a lot sooner.

 Exactly.  Plus, if the tragedy hadn't occurred, they would still undoubtedly be friends.  even if she was angry about getting pushed in, it wouldn't have some to that--or, maybe they all end up in the pool and it turns into a great memory of her party.

 

im not saying that everyone needs to go around pushing other people in pools--but there was no way to predict this outcome.

 

i can see why this friendship ended--but to say it would have or should have ended if the only result was a wet bride is simply absurd.



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