DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship with my high school sweetheart for six years. He is only the second person I have been intimate with. I love him and am pretty sure that we will end up marrying. Neither of us has ever cheated.
The problem is that I'm having doubts about my lack of experience with other men. I'm not saying I want to sleep around with random men, but I would like to experience intimacy with someone else so I won't wonder "what if" when I am older and married. Am I wrong for this? -- CONFUSED IN SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CONFUSED: I don't think you are "wrong," but your question does make me wonder whether you are ready to settle down. If your sex life were as fulfilling as you would like it to be, you wouldn't be asking if you are wrong for wanting more. Level with your boyfriend about your feelings to see if you can work this out. However, if the answer is no, then both of you may want to move on.
I don't think she needs to "level" in saying, Gee I want to go sleep with other men. Just say you are not ready to commit and you want to be free to explore your own life for awhile. Then if you get back together fine and dandy. But, you better toss in a few woman "just in case" so you don't have any regrets so you don't have those kind of "what ifs' as well.
When a person has these feelings and questions, it generally means they are not ready to get married.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
When my DH and I were engaged he got cold feet and broke up with me and dated another girl. We obviously got back together and we had been married 33 years. We were young and since we we dated each other it was a good break for us.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
The title makes me think of that parent who wrote in about her daughter's semester abroad. Maybe this LW needs to go on a trip- that way she can compare men from several different countries.
The title makes me think of that parent who wrote in about her daughter's semester abroad. Maybe this LW needs to go on a trip- that way she can compare men from several different countries.
Men are like a box of chocolates. You never know what you'll get.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
