DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together for eight years, but married only a few months. It took him a long time to finally marry me, and it ended up that I was the one to propose.
I am 30 and he's 39. I know he loves me. I have always expressed that I want children and he did, too. I have been off birth control and keeping track of my cycle, but now he doesn't want to make love. When I try to get him in the mood, he always finds an excuse. I told him he has had plenty of time to let me know if he doesn't want children.
I love him more than anything, but I do not want to miss out on being a parent. This is a deal-breaker. I am getting older and I don't know what to do. -- FUTURE MOMMY IN WISCONSIN
DEAR FUTURE MOMMY: Settle this now by asking your husband directly why he is either unwilling or unable to perform in the bedroom. You are entitled to an explanation, because he may be having second thoughts not only about starting a family, but also the marriage. If he has changed his mind about having children, talk to a lawyer because you may be able to get an annulment.
Well. It seems he wasn't in a hurry to get married.
He is withholding sex.
There's more to this than she is aware of.
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Yeah that sucks, I feel her on the man dragging his feet issue I've been having the same problem.
It's hard because when you love a person, it's not so cut and dry to "just leave" and start over. You don't want to be with anyone else but you don't want to accept the fact that things probably won't change, so you are stuck between a rock and a hard place.
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Yeah that sucks, I feel her on the man dragging his feet issue I've been having the same problem.
It's hard because when you love a person, it's not so cut and dry to "just leave" and start over. You don't want to be with anyone else but you don't want to accept the fact that things probably won't change, so you are stuck between a rock and a hard place.
You have to be happy and content to be on your own, even though you love him. Then he will worry you don't need him.
And before anyone says "no games". It's not a game. Realizing you love yourself and being happy and content with yourself is good for you, and pretty much makes you irresistible.
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