TOTALLY GEEKED!

huskerbb · Guru

Holy Crap am I annoyed with my sister right now.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yeah, that is annoying. I agree. Pretty crappy. Unfortunately, what are you gonna do with relatives that have their own ideas. We had something similar on a smaller scale for Easter. For Easter we go to DH's brother's house for Easter dinner. We have done that for 20 yrs. It is DH, and me and the kids, Dh's brother and his wife and kids and DH's Sister, my SIL. And, the SIL has no kids but usually would bring her BF if she had one. Anyway, there are no formal invitations, it is just what we always do. So, this year, my SIL, " didn't think she was invited" because DH's brother hadn't mentioned it until like a week before Easter so she went elsewhere. OK, fine, if you wanna go somewhere else then go somewhere else. But, don't act like you " didn't know you were invited" to something that has been give for 20 yrs with your own brothers! Yowza!

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Husker, just remind sis of your annual plans and that she is welcome to come and the bday's can be recognized on Monday.

huskerbb · Guru

I left her a facebook message, but I think she's in church right now.

huskerbb · Guru

Heck, last year we had mountain oysters and my mom did the cooking of those. She and I dressed them and cut them up the Saturday before.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

huskerbb wrote:
Heck, last year we had mountain oysters and my mom did the cooking of those. She and I dressed them and cut them up the Saturday before.

Your sis just had a brain fart. Let it go and act as though "of course you forgot, now come on to the annual party"

huskerbb · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Heck, last year we had mountain oysters and my mom did the cooking of those. She and I dressed them and cut them up the Saturday before.
Your sis just had a brain fart. Let it go and act as though "of course you forgot, now come on to the annual party"

I can try that--but it's going to be a whole deal, now.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Maybe your sister isn't fond of the tradition and is trying to start a new one?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

And from now on start sending out an event invite like on Facebook or email or whatever.

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
Maybe your sister isn't fond of the tradition and is trying to start a new one?

I don't know--I doubt that, but even if true, she's also trying to make that decision for me and my brothers.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
Maybe your sister isn't fond of the tradition and is trying to start a new one?
I don't know--I doubt that, but even if true, she's also trying to make that decision for me and my brothers.

Well then I think your only option is to FB shame her. biggrin

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

How long is the birthday thing going to take? Go for a little bit and then go back for your thing.

FNW · Guru

Bring the chicken to your mom's house and hold the party there?

huskerbb · Guru

FNW wrote:
Bring the chicken to your mom's house and hold the party there?

But that would be 50 people she isn't planning on.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
How long is the birthday thing going to take? Go for a little bit and then go back for your thing.

That's what my SIL said--but I'm not doing it. I'd rather piss and moan and be mad. It's the principle of the thing.

I told my SIL not to plan anything on Sunday night of Memorial Day until I'm dead--or at least if you do, don't invite me or expect me to show up.

I'm pretty annoyed that they aren't going to come to our deal--but whatever, it is what it is. If they don't want to come to an event they've been coming to for years, heck with it.

My main issue is that they expect me and my wife to come and are going to be pissy at us when we don't show up--even though they know darn well we aren't going to be there.

huskerbb · Guru

My son and his girlfriend aren't going to the birthday party, either.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Yeah - it's definitely more important to take a stand on when a chicken wing party is happening than it is to celebrate birthdays with family. Totally the hill I would die on. I mean, it isn't like celebrating birthdays with family is important or anything.

Mary Zombie · Guru

I would be annoyed at people that expect me to abandon my party with 50 guests to come to theirs at the last minute too.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I wonder which party will have the most alcohol...

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
Yeah - it's definitely more important to take a stand on when a chicken wing party is happening than it is to celebrate birthdays with family. Totally the hill I would die on. I mean, it isn't like celebrating birthdays with family is important or anything.

This is a 20 year tradition. Other years they have celebrated the birthdays at that party.

Only one of three children have their birthday today, anyway. They could have had the birthday party another day.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

lilyofcourse wrote:
I wonder which party will have the most alcohol...

First post, at least a keg at huskers.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I gotta say, that's a pretty selfish statement.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Mary Zombie wrote:
I would be annoyed at people that expect me to abandon my party with 50 guests to come to theirs at the last minute too.

Same here. 'Sorry we already have plans, we would love to see you there like usual, but if not, have fun!'

ETA and even if it wasn't a big traditional party it would still be rude to cancel plans with other people for someone else's last minute invite.

-- Edited by NAOW on Sunday 29th of May 2016 02:34:14 PM

huskerbb · Guru

Yes, my sister is being selfish.

No matter what anyone else does or is doing. She plops her event on the same day--and she only planned it this morning.

huskerbb · Guru

What difference does it make if one or the other, both or neither event has alcohol?

This isn't about which party will be "better", or if either will.

It's about setting an event on the same day as another event--when you just planned yours this morning, and the other event was scheduled for a YEAR--and then expecting people to drop their plans to accommodate you, and being mad if they don't, which my sister and my mom most certainly will be.

I would love to go to both--but we are making wings for this part and are among the hosts. Other people are depending on us to do our part.

Mary Zombie · Guru

Yeah right? How is reasonable to get butthurt that someone won't leave their pre planned party to come to your off the cuff same day plans?
I think it would be different if husker wasn't already having a party that they knew about.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Why can't they do the birthday thing at your party?

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

You can't just abandon the other 50 guests you've invited, even if you DID want to go to the birthday thing.

huskerbb · Guru

Tignanello wrote:
Why can't they do the birthday thing at your party?

They absolutely can--and have done so other years, including just last year.

huskerbb · Guru

I'm pretty sure Miss Manners would back me up on this one--even without the formal invites sent out in the mail. It's not like my sister sent out anything other than a text message from my mom this morning.

NAOW · Vette's SS

huskerbb wrote:
I'm pretty sure Miss Manners would back me up on this one--even without the formal invites sent out in the mail. It's not like my sister sent out anything other than a text message from my mom this morning.

I don't see what invitations has to do with it. Whether your sister and mom were invited or chose to go or not, YOU already committed and therefore can't back out without putting others in a lurch.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I'm glad we're all remembering the true meaning of Memorial Day.

huskerbb · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I'm glad we're all remembering the true meaning of Memorial Day.

What does that have to do with anything?

So people are supposed to sit around all weekend looking at their naval in contemplation? BS.

Plus, TOMORROW is Memorial Day--not today.

That has NOTHING to do with this situation.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Perspective.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I'm glad we're all remembering the true meaning of Memorial Day.

Oh, you naughty girl!

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Heck, last year we had mountain oysters and my mom did the cooking of those. She and I dressed them and cut them up the Saturday before.
Your sis just had a brain fart. Let it go and act as though "of course you forgot, now come on to the annual party"
I can try that--but it's going to be a whole deal, now.

But it's not YOUR whole deal, it's hers. Emailing someone last minute and expecting them to jump is just plain rude. Your response should simply be - "We can't tonight, it's our annual Memorial Day weekend party and we have plans for people to be here. We can't cancel at the last minute - I'm sure you understand."

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
I wonder which party will have the most alcohol...

This is a stupid statement. A party for everyone vs. a kid's birthday party? Or, you are just trying to be a snot.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

huskerbb wrote:
Yes, my sister is being selfish.

No matter what anyone else does or is doing. She plops her event on the same day--and she only planned it this morning.

No. You are.

How dare she want to celebrate her kids birthday with the family on the kids birthday.

The audacity.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Yes, my sister is being selfish.

No matter what anyone else does or is doing. She plops her event on the same day--and she only planned it this morning.
No. You are.
How dare she want to celebrate her kids birthday with the family on the kids birthday.
The audacity.

If that's the case, she should have discussed it ahead of time. Not just assumed everyone would drop everything at the last minute to do things the way SHE wants to do them.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

huskerbb wrote:
What difference does it make if one or the other, both or neither event has alcohol?

This isn't about which party will be "better", or if either will.

It's about setting an event on the same day as another event--when you just planned yours this morning, and the other event was scheduled for a YEAR--and then expecting people to drop their plans to accommodate you, and being mad if they don't, which my sister and my mom most certainly will be.

I would love to go to both--but we are making wings for this part and are among the hosts. Other people are depending on us to do our part.

You can do both.

You just don't want to.

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

"Gee Sis, I'm sorry you forgot about the wings party - we've been planning it for several weeks now. And as you know, I'm one of the hosts. Come on over after you and the kids have ice cream and cake. Or you can bring the goodies over to the wings party and we'll all share, just as we've done in previous years."

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
What difference does it make if one or the other, both or neither event has alcohol?

This isn't about which party will be "better", or if either will.

It's about setting an event on the same day as another event--when you just planned yours this morning, and the other event was scheduled for a YEAR--and then expecting people to drop their plans to accommodate you, and being mad if they don't, which my sister and my mom most certainly will be.

I would love to go to both--but we are making wings for this part and are among the hosts. Other people are depending on us to do our part.
You can do both.
You just don't want to.

No, he can't abandon a planned event with 50 guests when he is the host to go attend a last-minute impromptu dinner.

That is ridiculous.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
What difference does it make if one or the other, both or neither event has alcohol?

This isn't about which party will be "better", or if either will.

It's about setting an event on the same day as another event--when you just planned yours this morning, and the other event was scheduled for a YEAR--and then expecting people to drop their plans to accommodate you, and being mad if they don't, which my sister and my mom most certainly will be.

I would love to go to both--but we are making wings for this part and are among the hosts. Other people are depending on us to do our part.
You can do both.
You just don't want to.
No, he can't abandon a planned event with 50 guests when he is the host to go attend a last-minute impromptu dinner.

That is ridiculous.

It'd take all of 30-45 minutes.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

huskerbb wrote:
I'm pretty sure Miss Manners would back me up on this one--even without the formal invites sent out in the mail. It's not like my sister sent out anything other than a text message from my mom this morning.

As much as I think the real MM would be horrified at agreeing with you, I'm sure she would. You are correct, your sis wants to do one thing, and that is ok she just can't expect everyone to drop their plans and come running.

Mary Zombie · Guru

Lily that's silly. Come on now. I don't believe for a minute that you would leave a party your hosting to go to another party.
That's just not done

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Of course, we are all still here discussing this issue while Husker is at his party and he didn't leave us any wings!

Mary Zombie · Guru

Wahhhhh. I want wings and blue cheese dressing!!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
Yeah - it's definitely more important to take a stand on when a chicken wing party is happening than it is to celebrate birthdays with family. Totally the hill I would die on. I mean, it isn't like celebrating birthdays with family is important or anything.

I think that is very unfair. He plans and has the same party every year.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
Yeah - it's definitely more important to take a stand on when a chicken wing party is happening than it is to celebrate birthdays with family. Totally the hill I would die on. I mean, it isn't like celebrating birthdays with family is important or anything.
I think that is very unfair. He plans and has the same party every year.

And already has a bunch of people planning to come.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

I hate wings.

Poor husker....

Hope they were able to reach a compromise.

flan