DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing "Russell" for about a year. Last March he told me he had to move in with his grandmother because "he was the only bachelor in the family who could take care of her." Stupidly, I believed him.
Not long after that, I found out he had a pregnant girlfriend. I didn't let on that I knew, and we didn't see each other for about three months because he was "busy getting promoted at work." Now I have started seeing him again, and I just can't seem to let it go.
The problem is I still haven't told Russell I know about the girlfriend and the baby. I'm not sure how to go about letting him know I know what's going on. I can't bear the thought of him walking away from me again. How should I confront him? I'm in love, confused and heartbroken at the same time. -- FOOL IN LOVE IN MIAMI
DEAR F.I.L.: Try this -- a full-frontal assault of plain honesty. Tell him you know he slept with another woman and got her pregnant, and that story he told you about his grandmother was pure guano. Tell him you know he has stayed away because he preferred to be with someone else. Say that although you love him, you realize that as far as he's concerned, you're going cold turkey. Then do it.
And if you haven't already, see your OB/GYN and ask to be checked for STDs now that you know the "man" you're in love with can't be trusted. There's an adage I'll share because it applies to you: The truth will set you free.
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She "cant' let it go"? Let what go, that he has a kid? Is she going to pretend that his baby doesn't exist and expect that to not complicate her life with him?
I have a long-time friend that used to deny the existence of his children to me, as well as his marital status. I knew better, and would never get involved with him. I care about him as a friend, but understand he is most likely a sociopath, and can never be trusted.
Fast forward 25 years to the present, and we have kept in touch (by email). He has since come clean with everything, admits his wrongdoing, and is currently going through a very messy divorce (#2). It sounds like he met his match, having done to him what he did to wife #1. It's interesting to see karma.
If this broad cannot compartmentalize her feelings and get on with her personal life (away from him), she needs to completely walk away and not have him in her life at all.
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Is anybody else laughing at his ridiculous lies? I can't see you for three months because I'm busy getting a promotion at work?!? As far as I know people get promotions all the time & it doesn't prevent them from coming home to their families.
Is anybody else laughing at his ridiculous lies? I can't see you for three months because I'm busy getting a promotion at work?!? As far as I know people get promotions all the time & it doesn't prevent them from coming home to their families.
Stupid stupid woman.
She's not his family. She's (apparently without her knowledge) the girlfriend of someone who is non-monogamous. It happens. Some people don't date just one person.
Is anybody else laughing at his ridiculous lies? I can't see you for three months because I'm busy getting a promotion at work?!? As far as I know people get promotions all the time & it doesn't prevent them from coming home to their families.
Stupid stupid woman.
She's not his family. She's (apparently without her knowledge) the girlfriend of someone who is non-monogamous. It happens. Some people don't date just one person.
Oh I know she isn't married to him. I just meant him saying he was busy getting a promotion was just a lame excuse for a three month absence.
Is anybody else laughing at his ridiculous lies? I can't see you for three months because I'm busy getting a promotion at work?!? As far as I know people get promotions all the time & it doesn't prevent them from coming home to their families.
Stupid stupid woman.
She's not his family. She's (apparently without her knowledge) the girlfriend of someone who is non-monogamous. It happens. Some people don't date just one person.
Oh I know she isn't married to him. I just meant him saying he was busy getting a promotion was just a lame excuse for a three month absence.
Totally agree. If you're going to be non-monogamous (I really have to think about that spelling) than at least be honest about it.
And like most arseholes like this guy the minute she moves on and is happy in a relationship he will turn up. Oh honey I was so wrong. I miss you blah blah blah....
Wore the tee shirt lol.
Take a walk off a short pier bubba 😇
