TOTALLY GEEKED!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

DD is getting picked on

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I was just thinking, that, Lily. A phone with a full battery left on record mode might be very handy.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Have you seen Darren Knight do his Southern Momma thing?

The ball one is so funny.

FNW · Guru

I did that with my SMIL, so I could play back things she'd say to me outside his earshot.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Lol, lily. Not too many Southern moms up here, but I can relate to a few of those.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I've seen every one of those.

He is spot on.

NAOW · Vette's SS

A local college is putting on some softball camps next week. DD really wants to get better at pitching, so I thought that'd be great for her. Only, the camps are in the middle of the week, during the day, and it says each pitcher must provide their own catcher?! Even if DH wasn't out of town, I doubt he'd be able to leave for hours in the middle of the day each day to go catch for her. Seems silly to offer a pitching camp and not provide someone to catch IMO.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

NAOW wrote:
A local college is putting on some softball camps next week. DD really wants to get better at pitching, so I thought that'd be great for her. Only, the camps are in the middle of the week, during the day, and it says each pitcher must provide their own catcher?! Even if DH wasn't out of town, I doubt he'd be able to leave for hours in the middle of the day each day to go catch for her. Seems silly to offer a pitching camp and not provide someone to catch IMO.

Why wouldn't they run a joint camp for those who want to learn to be better catchers too? Win/win & more revenue for the camp.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Lexxy wrote:
NAOW wrote:
A local college is putting on some softball camps next week. DD really wants to get better at pitching, so I thought that'd be great for her. Only, the camps are in the middle of the week, during the day, and it says each pitcher must provide their own catcher?! Even if DH wasn't out of town, I doubt he'd be able to leave for hours in the middle of the day each day to go catch for her. Seems silly to offer a pitching camp and not provide someone to catch IMO.
Why wouldn't they run a joint camp for those who want to learn to be better catchers too? Win/win & more revenue for the camp.

That would make too much sense, lol.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Check with some of the other ballteams. You may find someone willing to pair up with your daughter.

NAOW · Vette's SS

So tonight's game, the coach pulled all three girls aside and had a talk with them. I guess just about treating each other nicely. DD couldn't really tell me specifics, except that he told them all he wants them to enjoy coming to practice and games.

I have an issue though. Mom/coach came up to me right before the game and pulled the 'if you had a problem with my girls you could have come to me instead of going to coach'. I felt like she sounded confrontational and I reacted. She caught me off guard, I was flustered trying to get a seat and keep an eye on DD1, and we ended up having a little back and forth where she denied knowing about certain issues and had an answer for others. We didn't fight or raise our voices but it was a little tense conversation about things that have been going on. And then she kind of spun it like she was just innocently letting me know that I could talk to her if I had an issue, and I reacted sarcastically with 'yea, it totally came off that way'. She did end up changing her tone in the end and saying she was sorry, she has a lot going on in the dugout, there's a lot to keep track off, etc (which I'm sure is true) and she is sorry if she missed something and I told her thank you (but I admit, I did say a little disbelievingly.) I wish I would have just said from the beginning that I felt more comfortable going to coach than her and left it at that, but I was caught of guard.

Now I am wondering if I should apologize though. Because I really am not happy with how I handled that.

As for how the Coach handled things, we'll see. DD said she didn't have any issues tonight, so as long as the rest of the season goes well, I'm happy. I feel like now that it's brought to everyone's attention, it will probably be ok.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

NAOW wrote:
So tonight's game, the coach pulled all three girls aside and had a talk with them. I guess just about treating each other nicely. DD couldn't really tell me specifics, except that he told them all he wants them to enjoy coming to practice and games.

I have an issue though. Mom/coach came up to me right before the game and pulled the 'if you had a problem with my girls you could have come to me instead of going to coach'. I felt like she sounded confrontational and I reacted. She caught me off guard, I was flustered trying to get a seat and keep an eye on DD1, and we ended up having a little back and forth where she denied knowing about certain issues and had an answer for others. We didn't fight or raise our voices but it was a little tense conversation about things that have been going on. And then she kind of spun it like she was just innocently letting me know that I could talk to her if I had an issue, and I reacted sarcastically with 'yea, it totally came off that way'. She did end up changing her tone in the end and saying she was sorry, she has a lot going on in the dugout, there's a lot to keep track off, etc (which I'm sure is true) and she is sorry if she missed something and I told her thank you (but I admit, I did say a little disbelievingly.) I wish I would have just said from the beginning that I felt more comfortable going to coach than her and left it at that, but I was caught of guard.

Now I am wondering if I should apologize though. Because I really am not happy with how I handled that.

As for how the Coach handled things, we'll see. DD said she didn't have any issues tonight, so as long as the rest of the season goes well, I'm happy. I feel like now that it's brought to everyone's attention, it will probably be ok.

You are way too nice, NAOW.

Don't spend one minute of you time, feeling guilty.

That so called Mom/Coach...is a piece of work.

I wouldn't trust her, as far as I could drop kick her.

Don't you dare, apologize to her.

She owes you, and you daughter, the apology.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Thanks FWM. I guess I feel like I am responsible for my actions.

I am second guessing how the conversation went. I hate confrontation, so I think my adrenaline kicked in and I can't even really remember exactly what was said, so now I am questioning things since no one was with me. DH is out of town, and my normal softball friends weren't there yet. It would be nice if I had an outside opinion.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

NAOW wrote:
Thanks FWM. I guess I feel like I am responsible for my actions.

I am second guessing how the conversation went. I hate confrontation, so I think my adrenaline kicked in and I can't even really remember exactly what was said, so now I am questioning things since no one was with me. DH is out of town, and my normal softball friends weren't there yet. It would be nice if I had an outside opinion.

NAOW, take a deep breath.

Let it out.

Stop second guessing yourself.

Your daughter is the injured party here.

The Mom/Coach, and her minions..........are the (gosh,I can't even say it. Something that you'd want to wash off your shoes, after stepping in it. If you catch my drift.)

Stay on top of things.

Be aware.

My best advice, Mom to Mom.

NAOW · Vette's SS

:) Thanks FWM. I appreciate it.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

NAOW wrote:
:) Thanks FWM. I appreciate it.

Be calm.

Keep your eyes open.

It will all work out, okay. (I've got to believe, people know what's going on.)

Hugs to you, and your DD.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Why didn't you grab a handful of hair, slam that puta to the ground and make her eat dirt?

Go all Wolverine on her just one time!

She won't mess with you or your daughter ever again!

biggrin biggrin

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 17th of June 2016 12:29:41 AM

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

lilyofcourse wrote:
Why didn't you grab a handful of hair, slam that puta to the ground and make her eat dirt?

Go all Wolverine on her just one time!

She won't mess with you or your daughter ever again!

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 17th of June 2016 12:29:41 AM

Are we sure this is Lily posting? There's some hardcore suggestions happening here! wink

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Spoiler: Lily said 'puta'!!!

NAOW · Vette's SS

Right?! Lol. Lily's showing a different side tonight :)

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

What's a puta?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

NAOW, you are fine, sure we can all handle situations better if we are prepared. Don't forget, she confronted you, what else did she expect. She was PO'd that she was called out on her behavior and her daughters'. I think your DD's experience on this team is going to improve.

ETA don't let your guard down. Hopefully the mean girls will not retaliate, but speak up the second they do if it happens.

-- Edited by I know what to do_sometimes on Friday 17th of June 2016 05:37:53 AM

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Fort Worth Mom wrote:
NAOW wrote:
So tonight's game, the coach pulled all three girls aside and had a talk with them. I guess just about treating each other nicely. DD couldn't really tell me specifics, except that he told them all he wants them to enjoy coming to practice and games.

I have an issue though. Mom/coach came up to me right before the game and pulled the 'if you had a problem with my girls you could have come to me instead of going to coach'. I felt like she sounded confrontational and I reacted. She caught me off guard, I was flustered trying to get a seat and keep an eye on DD1, and we ended up having a little back and forth where she denied knowing about certain issues and had an answer for others. We didn't fight or raise our voices but it was a little tense conversation about things that have been going on. And then she kind of spun it like she was just innocently letting me know that I could talk to her if I had an issue, and I reacted sarcastically with 'yea, it totally came off that way'. She did end up changing her tone in the end and saying she was sorry, she has a lot going on in the dugout, there's a lot to keep track off, etc (which I'm sure is true) and she is sorry if she missed something and I told her thank you (but I admit, I did say a little disbelievingly.) I wish I would have just said from the beginning that I felt more comfortable going to coach than her and left it at that, but I was caught of guard.

Now I am wondering if I should apologize though. Because I really am not happy with how I handled that.

As for how the Coach handled things, we'll see. DD said she didn't have any issues tonight, so as long as the rest of the season goes well, I'm happy. I feel like now that it's brought to everyone's attention, it will probably be ok.
You are way too nice, NAOW.
Don't spend one minute of you time, feeling guilty.
That so called Mom/Coach...is a piece of work.
I wouldn't trust her, as far as I could drop kick her.
Don't you dare, apologize to her.
She owes you, and you daughter, the apology.

I agree!!! That's the game she's playing, shifting the blame to you.

Don't overthink what you did. You are a GOOD mother.

flan

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
What's a puta?

Take your pick:

puta:
- whore ; prostitute ; strumpet ; slut ; trollop ; sloven ; bitch ; old cow ; moo ; cow ; light woman ; tart

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

NAOW wrote:
Thanks FWM. I guess I feel like I am responsible for my actions.

I am second guessing how the conversation went. I hate confrontation, so I think my adrenaline kicked in and I can't even really remember exactly what was said, so now I am questioning things since no one was with me. DH is out of town, and my normal softball friends weren't there yet. It would be nice if I had an outside opinion.

You did nothing wrong. Do NOT back down. She's a bully and a manipulator and she's trying to make you the bad guy. Do not let her.

And if you question yourself - remember she called your kid a liar.

-- Edited by Lawyerlady on Friday 17th of June 2016 06:32:51 AM

TrudyML · Guru

Eh, don't worry about it. You showed her you aren't weak. I hope it is resolved. F her.

FNW · Guru

Don't apologize, it will undo any progress you made. You let her know that you are on to her, and you aren't putting up with it. You now have the upper hand, don't give it back to her.

Go, hold your head up, and give her the stink eye.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Unless this is someone you want to be friends with, I don't think apologizing is going to get you anywhere. In fact, it might even put you at a disadvantage as she could go back to thinking that she's more powerful than you.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yes. You spoke your peace. Now the onus is her to act like an adult or not.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

NAOW, I am also non-confrontational but I agree that you do NOT apologize to her. She & her mean girls started this whole thing rolling. They were picking on your DD8. Uncool! She called your DD8 a liar in front of the whole team. She has her azz in a jam & is trying to back pedal her way out. Let the air cool & just see where it goes.

Remember her mean girls learned their nasty behavior from her. Do not second guess yourself or let her make your question your behavior. She was most likely trying to back you into a corner & that is why she confronted you when you were off guard & none of the other team moms were around.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

Lily said 'puta!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Never heard that. Do u say it pootah or pewta?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Never heard that. Do u say it pootah or pewta?

This, but keep the "oo" sound short.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Ok thanks lol

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Hopefully the drama will settle down and your dd can just play ball.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Hopefully the drama will settle down and your dd can just play ball.

I hope so

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

What???

Hey. Lily's got a dark side.

Mary Zombie · Guru

If she brings it up again you could tell her you will always address an issue with whomever has authority to do something about it. And smile sweetly. 😀

FNW · Guru

Puta-Spanish, I believe.