DEAR ABBY: I'm 30 and have lived with my boyfriend, "Shane," for two years. We spend lots of time together, our families socialize and we have a good relationship. My problem is Shane's use of social media. He takes a lot of pictures and posts them online while we're together, but I am never in them and he never mentions that I'm there.
Example: We took trips to Las Vegas, New York and Jamaica. He posted dozens of pictures of himself, but none of us together. When we go to nice restaurants, he shoots pictures of the food and solo selfies, but never mentions that I'm there, too. He has female friends I have never met who comment on all his fabulous adventures.
It appears to me that Shane has created an online image as an exciting, jet-setting single guy. But when I say that, he tells me I am being "immature." I am considering ending the relationship because of this. What do you think? -- OUT OF THE PICTURE
DEAR OUT OF THE PICTURE: When a couple has been living together for two years and spends the majority of their time together, their friends usually know they are involved. That Shane has cultivated an image of himself online as fancy-free seems strange to me, too. It may be that he is self-centered, or that he's not as committed to your relationship as you would like him to be.
When you tell a person something bothers you, and that person not only doesn't do something about it but blames you, it's a red flag. But if everything else in the relationship is as fine as you say, it doesn't have to be a deal-breaker. I assume you have a social media presence of your own. I suggest that you fill it with lots of pictures of Shane, the two of you together and the places you're going together.
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It sounds exactly like he wants to appear single. I don't think he is that great of a boyfriend. It would be one thing if he didn't realize, but she told him and he still does it.
Either leave him or start tagging him in lots of pictures and comment on all the ones he posts himself that these mystery women comment on.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Can you spell "narcissus"? (I couldn't had to look it up). Sounds like our boy fits the description very well.... Showing disregard for those who love him; admiring his own looks, etc. Drop him, please.
Can you spell "narcissus"? (I couldn't had to look it up). Sounds like our boy fits the description very well.... Showing disregard for those who love him; admiring his own looks, etc. Drop him, please.
Yeah, he sounds like an attention whore. Look at me! I travel all over by myself! I am a jet setter! Alter ego-like.
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