TOTALLY GEEKED!

ed11563 · Guru

Threatened coach leaves kids in the gym

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Dude - you can't leave your charges. The school was right.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

Or he could have told the kids practice was over a few minutes early before walking out. I'm not sure he did anything egregious by leaving them alone with other parents but it is probably a school policy he did not follow by leaving.

chef · Guru

My problem is that the kids could've been harmed by the belligerent parent.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Coward.

You send the kids to the locker room, instruct another adult to call 911 and let the crazy guy yell all he wants till the police get there.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

You don't leave the kids. I coach 5th/6th grade. If some belligerent parent came at me, i would tell him that we are not going to do this here in front of the children and if he would like to meet with me, i would be happy to have a meeting during school hours in conjunction with the Athletic Director. And, I would say this is OVER and tell him to leave because I am in the process of coaching a practice.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

First of all, i do not allow parents into the gym during my practices. Our practices are closed to parents.

TrudyML · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
First of all, i do not allow parents into the gym during my practices. Our practices are closed to parents.

They should be. All those parents of our future all stars, gold medalists and pros must be stopped!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
You don't leave the kids. I coach 5th/6th grade. If some belligerent parent came at me, i would tell him that we are not going to do this here in front of the children and if he would like to meet with me, i would be happy to have a meeting during school hours in conjunction with the Athletic Director. And, I would say this is OVER and tell him to leave because I am in the process of coaching a practice.

That is EXACTLY how it should have been handled.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I think it would have escalted if he had said anything about a later meeting.

But the kids should have been removed.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
I think it would have escalted if he had said anything about a later meeting.

But the kids should have been removed.

Well, someone isn't going to come and bully me DURING a practice. If it escalated i would have asked a parent or one of the kids for a phone and immediately called 911.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

No.

Where did I say be bullied?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

You are disagreeing with suggesting a later meeting. What do you suggest?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I already gave my suggestion.

I know from dealing with all manner of whackadoo that you don't try to calm an out of control person down by dismissing them.

And your suggestion would encite him further.

You send the kids to the locker room, instruct another adult to call 911 and then let them yell till the police get there.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

But you dang sure don't walk out, leaving kids with the crazy person.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I am an adult as well Lilly. I know how to deal with people. I have dealt with irate people.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Geez, wearing your feelings on your sleeve, I see.

I said nothing about your not being an adult.

You want to argue with someone, well I'm not it.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
I already gave my suggestion.

I know from dealing with all manner of whackadoo that you don't try to calm an out of control person down by dismissing them.

And your suggestion would encite him further.

You send the kids to the locker room, instruct another adult to call 911 and then let them yell till the police get there.

Actually, if you are the adult in charge at a school practice where a parent is trying to interrupt practice and cause a problem, you absolutely DO tell them to leave.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yes. But before or after you remove the kids from the situation?

And once you tell them to leave, and they dont, do you attempt to reason with them or placate them?

Most of the time, when you say something about making an appointment, they're just going to get more irate because, in their mind, you are dismissing them.

So.

You say "one minute let me dismiss the kids" then, once the kids are gone, you try to take control.

"What's on your mind?"

If they continue to yell, you instruct another adult to call the police.

Then you wait.

Hey, I'm no stranger to confrontation.

But most of the time, when someone is complaining, they just want to know you are listening.

What this coach did was cowardly and he left the kids in the gym with a hostile.

He didn't gain control of the situation.

He escaped and left kids to deal with it.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Geez, wearing your feelings on your sleeve, I see.

I said nothing about your not being an adult.

You want to argue with someone, well I'm not it.

My feelings? What in the world are u talking,about?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Gee, that's a familiar phrase.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
Yes. But before or after you remove the kids from the situation?

And once you tell them to leave, and they dont, do you attempt to reason with them or placate them?

Most of the time, when you say something about making an appointment, they're just going to get more irate because, in their mind, you are dismissing them.

So.
You say "one minute let me dismiss the kids" then, once the kids are gone, you try to take control.
"What's on your mind?"
If they continue to yell, you instruct another adult to call the police.
Then you wait.
Hey, I'm no stranger to confrontation.
But most of the time, when someone is complaining, they just want to know you are listening.
What this coach did was cowardly and he left the kids in the gym with a hostile.
He didn't gain control of the situation.
He escaped and left kids to deal with it.

But you are obviously a stranger to being IN CHARGE OF and RESPONSIBLE FOR a room full of kids. As the adult - you take charge of the situation, you don't run from it and abandon the kids to a belligerent idiot.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Yes. But before or after you remove the kids from the situation?

And once you tell them to leave, and they dont, do you attempt to reason with them or placate them?

Most of the time, when you say something about making an appointment, they're just going to get more irate because, in their mind, you are dismissing them.

So.
You say "one minute let me dismiss the kids" then, once the kids are gone, you try to take control.
"What's on your mind?"
If they continue to yell, you instruct another adult to call the police.
Then you wait.
Hey, I'm no stranger to confrontation.
But most of the time, when someone is complaining, they just want to know you are listening.
What this coach did was cowardly and he left the kids in the gym with a hostile.
He didn't gain control of the situation.
He escaped and left kids to deal with it.
But you are obviously a stranger to being IN CHARGE OF and RESPONSIBLE FOR a room full of kids. As the adult - you take charge of the situation, you don't run from it and abandon the kids to a belligerent idiot.

Ain't that what I said?

And yes, I have been responsible for classes and groups of kids.

SS school teacher, 3-4 yr olds.

Cheerleading coach, 2 years.

Been on more field trips than anyone I know.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

As have I and others here.

-- Edited by Lady Gaga Snerd on Thursday 11th of August 2016 08:34:05 AM

FNW · Guru

I would have removed the children as well, IF I could not get a hold of a phone and called 9-1-1 or at the very least, school security. There must be procedures in place for these situations, since they appear to be common, or at least, not unusual. I'm not sure telling this individual to meet with me later would do any good. Sometimes people hear us but refuse to listen and accept. It's like trying to reason with a drunk person. You can't. But walking out and leaving the kids with that crazy out of control person, not good, IMO.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Yes. But before or after you remove the kids from the situation?

And once you tell them to leave, and they dont, do you attempt to reason with them or placate them?

Most of the time, when you say something about making an appointment, they're just going to get more irate because, in their mind, you are dismissing them.

So.
You say "one minute let me dismiss the kids" then, once the kids are gone, you try to take control.
"What's on your mind?"
If they continue to yell, you instruct another adult to call the police.
Then you wait.
Hey, I'm no stranger to confrontation.
But most of the time, when someone is complaining, they just want to know you are listening.
What this coach did was cowardly and he left the kids in the gym with a hostile.
He didn't gain control of the situation.
He escaped and left kids to deal with it.
But you are obviously a stranger to being IN CHARGE OF and RESPONSIBLE FOR a room full of kids. As the adult - you take charge of the situation, you don't run from it and abandon the kids to a belligerent idiot.
Ain't that what I said?
And yes, I have been responsible for classes and groups of kids.
SS school teacher, 3-4 yr olds.
Cheerleading coach, 2 years.
Been on more field trips than anyone I know.

What you have said is shooting down everything else others have said, and not providing anything productive as a solution.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Rule #1 of course, is that you don't leave kids unattended.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Yes. But before or after you remove the kids from the situation?

And once you tell them to leave, and they dont, do you attempt to reason with them or placate them?

Most of the time, when you say something about making an appointment, they're just going to get more irate because, in their mind, you are dismissing them.

So.
You say "one minute let me dismiss the kids" then, once the kids are gone, you try to take control.
"What's on your mind?"
If they continue to yell, you instruct another adult to call the police.
Then you wait.
Hey, I'm no stranger to confrontation.
But most of the time, when someone is complaining, they just want to know you are listening.
What this coach did was cowardly and he left the kids in the gym with a hostile.
He didn't gain control of the situation.
He escaped and left kids to deal with it.
But you are obviously a stranger to being IN CHARGE OF and RESPONSIBLE FOR a room full of kids. As the adult - you take charge of the situation, you don't run from it and abandon the kids to a belligerent idiot.
Ain't that what I said?
And yes, I have been responsible for classes and groups of kids.
SS school teacher, 3-4 yr olds.
Cheerleading coach, 2 years.
Been on more field trips than anyone I know.

What you have said is shooting down everything else others have said, and not providing anything productive as a solution.

You have GOT to be kidding me.

Discussion is shooting others down?

I've give options, actual, viable solutions.

Whatever.

Like LGS, you just want to argue.

So you two can do that.