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Christmas

Lindley · Guru

You worked hard to provide for your family and are now reaping the results. It is a good feeling.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lindley wrote:
You worked hard to provide for your family and are now reaping the results. It is a good feeling.

Thanks Lindley, it is a great feeling.

Divine Geek · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
You know, I was thinking, despite all the crap I have been handed in my life, I have a pretty good life. Especially when it comes to my little family. Yeah, life didn't work out the way I thought it would but what I have is so great, makes me happy, and my kids are happy. Quite frankly some of the crap I dealt with had a huge impact on how I made my life better to come to this place where I am happy even though it is not the life I had hope to have.

You have done very well. And I know exactly what you mean.

-- Edited by Divine Geek on Sunday 18th of December 2016 07:45:38 PM

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Family is here and I have managed to avoid 4 out of 5 days and yet, I am left feeling irrelevant and unnecessary. Only 12 more days to go.

WYSIWYG · Guru

Good job guys! Glad to hear that the men step up and do the clean up for the ladies.

DH always does the cleanup here too. smile

I'm impressed.
- just Czech

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Thanks.

Christmas is about Family. With a capital F. Family helps and participates, Family doesn't just sit by while others toil, unless they are waiting for their turn to toil because to try and assist would be to cause more problems than assistance (which is what us men have been told by our ladies, would be the case, when it comes to holiday meal preparation).

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Tignanello wrote:
Family is here and I have managed to avoid 4 out of 5 days and yet, I am left feeling irrelevant and unnecessary. Only 12 more days to go.

You are avoiding your family but complaining about feeling irrelevant and unnecessary.

Am I reading that right?

You have GOT to be kidding.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

lilyofcourse wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Family is here and I have managed to avoid 4 out of 5 days and yet, I am left feeling irrelevant and unnecessary. Only 12 more days to go.
You are avoiding your family but complaining about feeling irrelevant and unnecessary.
Am I reading that right?
You have GOT to be kidding.

The feeling of being irrelevant and unnecessary is a result of having attended the 1 day. Not the result of escaping the others. You're reading it backwards, but I'd forgotten that you like to misread in order to disparage my family-related posts.

FNW · Guru

Hang in there, Tig.

TrudyML · Guru

Sending Mr. D to the Post Office. ALL his gifts were wrong. Ugh. Can this holiday be over?

Lindley · Guru

I understand what you are feeling tig. You can feel alone even among family. I think that is a hard thing for people who has close relationships with their family to understand.

Lenni · Member

Christmas Eve we usually have Chinese take out.

I have Christmas Day at my house.

Presents are opened as soon as my daughter wakes up on Christmas morning. I am not much of a holiday person though.....

Lenni · Member

Sending Mr. D to the Post Office. ALL his gifts were wrong. Ugh. Can this holiday be over?

LOL!

TrudyML · Guru

I know! Ugh!

TrudyML · Guru

And he let it slip he was back at a jewelry store yesterday. Misery!

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

TrudyML wrote:
And he let it slip he was back at a jewelry store yesterday. Misery!

TrudyML · Guru

I know! I want to leave and hit a mall.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Tignanello wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Family is here and I have managed to avoid 4 out of 5 days and yet, I am left feeling irrelevant and unnecessary. Only 12 more days to go.
You are avoiding your family but complaining about feeling irrelevant and unnecessary.
Am I reading that right?
You have GOT to be kidding.

The feeling of being irrelevant and unnecessary is a result of having attended the 1 day. Not the result of escaping the others. You're reading it backwards, but I'd forgotten that you like to misread in order to disparage my family-related posts.

No. I read your posts.

I think you bring a lot of it on yourself and then blame others.

"They leave me out"

But you complain about being included in plans.

"They ignore me."

But you say you avoid them.

"They treat me bad."

But you nit pick every action and take everything personally.

I know what it is to feel alone.

But you can not complain that no one let's you in when you are constantly shutting them out.

You gotta meet them in the middle.

You are a counselor. Use your skills.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Last night, around 11:30, I watched 3 people, a woman, a man, and young teen, cross the street at a red light.

They were obviously homeless.

It was 30 degrees.

They were carrying everything they owned.

It was really sad.

I didn't have any way of helping them but a prayer.

Makes me thankful for what I have.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

lilyofcourse wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Family is here and I have managed to avoid 4 out of 5 days and yet, I am left feeling irrelevant and unnecessary. Only 12 more days to go.
You are avoiding your family but complaining about feeling irrelevant and unnecessary.
Am I reading that right?
You have GOT to be kidding.

The feeling of being irrelevant and unnecessary is a result of having attended the 1 day. Not the result of escaping the others. You're reading it backwards, but I'd forgotten that you like to misread in order to disparage my family-related posts.
No. I read your posts.
I think you bring a lot of it on yourself and then blame others.
"They leave me out"
But you complain about being included in plans.
"They ignore me."
But you say you avoid them.
"They treat me bad."
But you nit pick every action and take everything personally.
I know what it is to feel alone.
But you can not complain that no one let's you in when you are constantly shutting them out.
You gotta meet them in the middle.
You are a counselor. Use your skills.

"They leave me out"

But you complain about being included in plans.

I don't complain about being included. I complain about being included and then being ignored or insulted because it is hurtful. Often, just being not invited makes me breathe a sigh of relief because I don't have to worry about being ignored or insulted. It is, however, hard to be left out of family gatherings. Because it is still being ignored and insulted.

But you say you avoid them.

"They treat me bad."

Same as above.

But you can not complain that no one let's you in when you are constantly shutting them out.

I have spent years trying to maintain and build relationships with my family. I have, only in the last year or so, come to realize that it won't happen. And yes - that is painful so I pick and choose which events to attend and which not to. Only recently am I learning not to be hurt when I am not invited to things. Literally - like in the last few months. Because I have learned that going and not going will have the same result. As far as I can tell, there is no middle. Knocking on the door is one thing. Knocking until my knuckles are bleeding is quite another.

You are a counselor. Use your skills.

Wait - what? I don't do therapy on my family. Or on myself. And, using my skills means maintaining emotional regulation under difficult situations, using safe coping skills (like posting on a message board) and validating my feelings when I need to and understanding which triggers cause me the most discomfort and having a plan in place to take care of myself when that happens. It means using social support and using my support networks to help me to stay regulated. It also means being self-protective at times and prioritizing myself at others. So. Skills used.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Uh huh.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Oh GFG, it is Christmas, can we just not fight and judge?

Lindley · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Oh GFG, it is Christmas, can we just not fight and judge?

I agree with the not fight and judge.

-- Edited by Lindley on Wednesday 21st of December 2016 08:35:07 AM

WYSIWYG · Guru

GFG? I don't know this one.

Divine Geek · Guru

WYSIWYG wrote:
GFG? I don't know this one.

I believe it's "Good F*cking God"

WYSIWYG · Guru

Oh. Okay. **filed away under: "acronyms I will never use"

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

I have so many acronyms to learn, I don't think I'll
ever use all/any of them!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Well, that one is certainly unnecessary and vulgar. Not to mention, pretty much points the finger at the 3rd commandment.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I have a group of friends that we are very much the most honest and open you can be. We will call each other on anything. People who hear our conversations often shake their heads or start laughing. At our girls retreat she kept saying Jesus H. Christ as a swear word, and I had to start yelling at her. I mean, really, all the cuss words in the world, and you have to use God's name as one? Then, when I started swearing and using the F word, she tried to compare it. I had to remind her that the commandment says "Thou shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain", not "thou shall not say fvck".

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
I have a group of friends that we are very much the most honest and open you can be. We will call each other on anything. People who hear our conversations often shake their heads or start laughing. At our girls retreat she kept saying Jesus H. Christ as a swear word, and I had to start yelling at her. I mean, really, all the cuss words in the world, and you have to use God's name as one? Then, when I started swearing and using the F word, she tried to compare it. I had to remind her that the commandment says "Thou shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain", not "thou shall not say fvck".

So I should say GF. Ok.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

I went to the DR with a few friends. One constantly and loudly yells JC! We had to lecture her about how we were in a Country that is very religious and she would really be making people mad if she swore like that. It was embarrassing to be around her at times.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Well, it could mean good fvcking grief. It all depends on your intent. If I use OMG, I am saying "oh my gosh".

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Well, it could mean good fvcking grief. It all depends on your intent. If I use OMG, I am saying "oh my gosh".

Oh, I like the "grief" translation.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

omg wth roflmbo.... all of these work for me. ;)

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Well, it could mean good fvcking grief. It all depends on your intent. If I use OMG, I am saying "oh my gosh".

I use it as 'oh my GOODNESS!' it has more emphasis than the others.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I was reminded of a tradition.

Why I put candy canes on the tree.

I started doing it when the kids were little.

They could have one a day and they were the only thing on the tree the could touch after it was put up.

It worked, too.

And they still put them on and eat one a day.

FNW · Guru

What a great idea!

The boys never really bothered with the ornaments. But we do have a circus train we put around it and they liked to turn that on and play with it. It's been a couple years since we've put it out. We'll have to do that next year.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I always wanted a train, but really had no place for it.

FNW · Guru

I've been wrapping gifts before the tree goes up so once it goes up out come some of the gifts. DH puts the train up, but he puts it off and then there's gifts around so he figures there's no room. And I get tired of asking him all the time.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Ok. Here is my Christmas vent.

When planning the meal for Christmas, I said I would make the sweet potato casserole and a plain cheesecake.

I buy everything for these.

Have had it for a week.

The other night, I realized we needed sour cream, what I bought was used.

No big deal, mom was going to the store and I asked her to get it.

I said, "I need enough for topping the chili and I will need 8 Oz for the cheesecake."

She bought the sour cream.

But she also bought a store cheesecake and another pack of orange hockey puck!

I mean, really!

Her passive aggressive crap is really piss in me off.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

DS got me the NEST thermostat and installed it. So happy! And all the gifts fit in his car to bring back to Ohio, sure there was a lot of swearing and frustration packing the car but he did it! Although a gift tag on a gift may have been torn off.

FNW · Guru

Orange hockey puck?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

FNW wrote:
Orange hockey puck?

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

lilyofcourse wrote:
Ok. Here is my Christmas vent.

When planning the meal for Christmas, I said I would make the sweet potato casserole and a plain cheesecake.

I buy everything for these.

Have had it for a week.

The other night, I realized we needed sour cream, what I bought was used.
No big deal, mom was going to the store and I asked her to get it.
I said, "I need enough for topping the chili and I will need 8 Oz for the cheesecake."
She bought the sour cream.
But she also bought a store cheesecake and another pack of orange hockey puck!
I mean, really!
Her passive aggressive crap is really piss in me off.

Lily, is it possible, that your Mom thought she was making things easier for you?

Or, do you really think she was being passive/aggressive?

I'm just wondering.

I don't like it, when my Geeks are stressing out, during the Christmas Season.

(If you already have the ingredients for you sweet potato casserole, go for it. The hockey pucks can fill in, another day.

And, if you want to make your cheese cake, go for it! You have a house full, with your brother and his kids. They will eat the store bought one, somewhere along the line. JMHO.)

Try not to stress about it, Lily.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
FNW wrote:
Orange hockey puck?

What is THAT?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Fort Worth Mom wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Ok. Here is my Christmas vent.

When planning the meal for Christmas, I said I would make the sweet potato casserole and a plain cheesecake.

I buy everything for these.

Have had it for a week.

The other night, I realized we needed sour cream, what I bought was used.
No big deal, mom was going to the store and I asked her to get it.
I said, "I need enough for topping the chili and I will need 8 Oz for the cheesecake."
She bought the sour cream.
But she also bought a store cheesecake and another pack of orange hockey puck!
I mean, really!
Her passive aggressive crap is really piss in me off.
Lily, is it possible, that your Mom thought she was making things easier for you?
Or, do you really think she was being passive/aggressive?
I'm just wondering.
I don't like it, when my Geeks are stressing out, during the Christmas Season.
(If you already have the ingredients for you sweet potato casserole, go for it. The hockey pucks can fill in, another day.
And, if you want to make your cheese cake, go for it! You have a house full, with your brother and his kids. They will eat the store bought one, somewhere along the line. JMHO.)
Try not to stress about it, Lily.

Yes. I am sure she is being passive aggressive.

She is becoming more and more hateful.

Why, I have no clue.

She has always been touchy about everything.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
FNW wrote:
Orange hockey puck?

What is THAT?

Over processed sweet potatoes formed, flash frozen, and packaged.

I admit, I use to love them.

They were all I had ever had, so that made them the best.

But since I've learned how to make my own, the hockey pucks have NO flavor.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

FWM, it doesn't stress me out, it pisses me off.

I could have saved my money.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

lilyofcourse wrote:
FWM, it doesn't stress me out, it pisses me off.

I could have saved my money.

Lily, if you have all the ingredients, to make what you were planning to make, Go For It!

If Mom's hockey pucks, go moldy, in the back of the fridge, oh well! wink

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

She will fix her stuff.

And she will gripe, make snide remarks, and be a general butt the entire time.

But I'm going to make what I was planning to make, anyway.