So today I have been given a lesson from someone that has never held me in very high regards. A lesson that regardless of intent or context, we always need to be mindful of what is coming out of our mouths. A perfectly reasonable comment could be taken in a different way than what was intended and it could reflect poorly on us.
Anyone who knows me, knows that I am VERY bold and passionate about certain things. For the most part, I do not find this a problem. I consider myself the voice of a soldier. I wish I could be silent instead of a loudmouth, but I just don't see that as my calling. I DO however feel that 2017 should be the year Cheerios learns to discern boldness from rudeness. Righteousness from insult. Salt of the earth from meanness.
Buckle in Cheerios, this gunna be a bumpy ride!
James 3:10 "From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."
Well, I am your friend on Facebook and I think that all of your posts and comments come across as well thought out and not in the least condescending. You have a far better grasp on holding your tongue than I do...
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Some say that leaving IQ aside, there are only two types of people; those who always have a quick come-back at the ready and those who have the perfect come-back arrive in their mental in-box too late to use effectively. The first group is much more apt to regret their words than the second group, and the second group is much more likely to kick themselves for not thinking of that perfect come-back in a timely manner.
I'm in the second group.
Edited to add that I agree wholeheartedly with 04.
I think there is a difference between expressing YOUR opinion "I like blue" versus saying 'If you like green, you are wrong". And, now if you express your opinion and someone doesn't like it, that is somehow offensive.
I never realized how prideful I was until I began needing to ask for help.
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Here is an example. The n word use was totally taken out of context, but that is besides the point. It is still my fault for giving someone the power to do this.
For context... the screen shot of my n word response was answering someone elses post where they called someone the n word but used *** to make it "acceptable". But of course me spelling it out is way not cool, but using asterisks DOES make it ok.
Some say that leaving IQ aside, there are only two types of people; those who always have a quick come-back at the ready and those who have the perfect come-back arrive in their mental in-box too late to use effectively. The first group is much more apt to regret their words than the second group, and the second group is much more likely to kick themselves for not thinking of that perfect come-back in a timely manner.
I'm in the second group.
Edited to add that I agree wholeheartedly with 04.
I'm the second group too! So aggravating
-- Edited by Vette on Friday 13th of January 2017 12:18:41 AM
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Hmmmm....I think that there are some important considerations. First is are you casting pearls (of wisdom) before swine (people who are not receptive) If there is nothing to be gained from speaking I often will just not engage. There is no point.
Try to put yourself in the other persons shoes. Are they saying what they are saying because of how they were raised? Some other issue? Take that into consideration.
Third keep away from the personal. If you are saying something about someone's whatever keep it general. Refrain from statements that eat at the person's self worth (you are lazy etc) better is "it frustrates me when this is not done in a timely manner"
Lastly as always be polite and never degenerate into name calling or swearing. Frankly someone who does that looks weak and lacking in knowledge and self control. If the only response you can think of in an argument is you xh## you have already lost. You need to be able to intelligently articulate your position.
Just my thoughts. The goal is to have a discussion or change someone's mind (give them some kniwledge) if your approach just makes then close and not her you then one is not achieving their goal.
I was the color that used the dastardly N word. I mean... I spelled it out and it was a very bad thing. Not that I actually was 'using' the word, but because I put it in text, someone thought it funny enough to screenshot it out of context to use at a later time to diss me. Again. My bad. Should have realized it could happen. (when will I learn?! LOL!)
Anyway, yeah, I can say that my mind was somewhat changed online. In as much as you can say that I changed from NeverTrump to FineFineFineButOnlyCuzITrulyFearWhatHillaryIsGonnaDoIfSheWins. lol! I still think trump is a bafoon, but I do have a bit of hope that he might actually do some good.
