Could you be married to your polar opposite? Could you be married to a rabid atheist if you were a devout Christian? Could you be married to a Hillary supporter if you were a Repo? Could you be married to anyone who roots for the Patriots? Lol
I dated a guy or two with differing political beliefs. We didn't talk about politics much. But the relationships didn't work out.
DH & I met on-line. One of the "draws" he tells me, besides my appearance, was that I described myself as a conservative. From California. He figured that was pretty hard to find. LOL
I don't think I could be with someone who was the polar opposite of myself.
My husband and I are both from California and conservative but it wasn't to long after Reagan was governor and orange county was still red. We are rare though. I didn't think to much about politics when I was dating but I knew when I married it had to be someone who shared my values and beliefs. If my husband changed his belief today I still wouldn't leave him because I love him.
In my younger days I could be married to a someone on the polar opposite of the political spectrum, but not today. I don't need them to agree with me on every point but there is a definite divide of morals and values. I could not live with that.
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well, she's an aussie/am a texan myself--that said, am happy to say that we aren't " polar " opposites on practically anything--on the few things we view differently, respect her character and her opinion too much to challenge her on them--she's an intelligent lady with a powerful intellect and her values are well-reasoned and solid--my own are much the same--we simply agree to disagree
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My parents are opposites and it's been difficult just to be their kid I can't imagine how difficult it is for them. They don't agree on much from interests to politics to food. It's frustrating. My kids and I joke that we don't know how they have made it this long. Personally, like IKWTDS, I don't need them to agree with me on everything but I do need them to agree with me generally.
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I couldn't be married to someone who did not share my religious beliefs.
But if I'm honest, I couldn't be married to anyone now.
I just don't see the point.
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Dad was Methodist but not really religious. Mom is Catholic, to the point she almost became a nun.
Mom is brains and all about working with the brain. Dad was illiterate and worked with his hands.
Mom can be controlling. Dad is a go with the flow.
They did not even have the same taste in music. Mom was Elvis, Dad was country.
I am not sure what ever brought them together. I know that DB and I kept them from divorcing a few times. They stayed together even after we grew up until Dad passed away. I don't remember them ever being affectionate towards each other.
My parents are opposites and it's been difficult just to be their kid I can't imagine how difficult it is for them. They don't agree on much from interests to politics to food. It's frustrating. My kids and I joke that we don't know how they have made it this long. Personally, like IKWTDS, I don't need them to agree with me on everything but I do need them to agree with me generally.
Two weeks ago I was talking to my Mother, she said Trump voters are uncouth. I reminded her that not only did I vote for him but her mother would have as well. She was silent, let it sink in, and agreed. That did not mean she liked it.
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I would have to say in some ways my husband and I are polar opposites. He is type A personality and close to being a perfectionist and I'm more of a easy going type b. Our differences work well together.
Mom: Type A, high strung and hyper
Loves sports
Hates movies with subtitles
Likes bland basic food, hates to cook
Parental style - strict disciplinarian
Frugal with money
Loves a schedule
Throws everything away
Must be busy all the time
Politically conservative
Christian
Extrovert
Dad: relaxed and goes with the flow
Doesn't like sports, prefers the symphony
Enjoys foreign films
Adventurous eater, loves to cook
Parental style - experience is the best teacher, relaxed
Spends money freely on quality items
Hates to be scheduled, likes to just see where the day takes him
Saves everything
Ideal day is relaxing and reading a book
Politically a liberal
Atheist
Introvert
Honestly I don't know what's holding their relationship together. They bicker about everything.
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I honestly don't know. I think it would depend on whether she could keep her opinions on things we disagreed on at a peaceful level, and whether I could as well.
I would find it difficult, especially if it interfered with raising children.
Now, my in-laws were pretty interesting, a Hindu Eastern Indian married a devout American polish Catholic. They were married 50 years. He agreed when they got married to support her faith and raise all the children Catholic, and he did. So it worked. I hope some of it rubbed off on him before he died.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
My mother was dragged around to various fire and brimstone churches as a kid, but since they moved around so much, never really settling into any one particular religion. My father was a devout Catholic, still is, to the point where he considered becoming a priest. My mom promised to support his faith and raise their children Catholic. She fell in love with the Catholic Church, thought Mass was beautiful, and after 10 years, converted. I attended her Baptism, First Communion, etc. We attended Mass every week.
Now Dad still goes every week, and still goes to confession once a month. Mom goes once in awhile, just because Dad goes at 7:30 am Mass and she just wants to have a leisurely morning.
I'm religious and he isn't really, I wish he was a believer but he really supports my beliefs and lets us pray at mealtimes, he'll go to church with me sometimes and he doesn't mind if A comes to Sunday school with me. So, like LL said, I hope some of it rubs off on him.
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That was such a thing in the 60's and 70's. Now mixed marriages mean racial or religious or political.
