DEAR ABBY: For the past five years, I have been using the (very small!) exercise room in my apartment complex every day after work. It’s an important part of my routine.
A couple of weeks ago, a new girl started coming into the exercise room shortly after I start my workout (it’s a little crowded, but no problem). Last week, she started coming in just a few minutes before I get there. She puts her TV show on (very loudly), uses the machine I always use, and when I walk in at my usual time, I must use an old machine I don’t like and watch her horrible show.
I have lived here longer and feel I have earned my time in the gym, and she is being sneaky by coming in just before I do. I cannot come in earlier since I get there as soon as I get off work.
I’m tempted to exert my seniority! I feel wronged, even though I know it’s not my personal gym. Is there anything I can do when I feel snubbed like this? — WORKED UP (NOT OUT) IN OHIO
DEAR WORKED UP: One of the sometimes unwritten rules of gyms is that the person who arrives first gets to choose which machine to use and whatever television show he or she prefers.
If you can’t make it in before the new girl arrives, then you will have to adjust your schedule and come in later when she’s out of there, or reach a compromise with her. Sorry.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Obviously, the new girl didn't like getting stuck with the crappy machine and watching what this girl chooses, so she gets their first, now. That's the problem with shared amenities - you have to SHARE. If you don't like it - set up your own gym in your own apartment with your own equipment. Or move to another complex with better facilities.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Exactly. If the LW wants it, get up earlier. Or go in later. There is usually an unwritten rule that equipment gets used no more than 30 min. There is no "seniority" in an apt complex. Sheesh.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Honestly, I can see being annoyed by it. But there's nothing to be done about it.
Like when the new girl started parking in "my" parking spot. I'd parked in the same spot for 3 years, but they aren't assigned. She got here before me, she gets the spot.
Honestly, I can see being annoyed by it. But there's nothing to be done about it.
Like when the new girl started parking in "my" parking spot. I'd parked in the same spot for 3 years, but they aren't assigned. She got here before me, she gets the spot.
That happens here. 1,000 employees and people own spots.
I hope for the sake of neighbors, she doesn't buy her own machine. We lived in a beautiful, upscale condo and it was wonderful. Until the neighbors below moved in with their treadmill. Then every night at dinner time the whole building shook. Initially I thought they were playing heavy bass rap music but nope, it was the treadmill. It was a peaceful time when she broke her foot.
LW needs to adjust her schedule and learn to share.
This girl at my work is a real piece of work and now she is having an affair with my dad. Anyway, I unknowingly parked in "her" spot one day and she bitched to my dad about it so he had words with me about it. Mind you I see him every day and he hasn't spoken to me in about two years except to defend his boo's parking space.
Yeah...guess who parking space it ISN'T anymore...
Petty? You bet. Satisfying? Absolutely!
-- Edited by Vette on Monday 20th of February 2017 01:40:00 PM
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Was it a bad day?
Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
This girl at my work is a real piece of work and now she is having an affair with my dad. Anyway, I unknowingly parked in "her" spot one day and she bitched to my dad about it so he had words with me about it. Mind you I see him every day and he hasn't spoken to me in about two years except to defend his boo's parking space.
Yeah...guess who parking space it ISN'T anymore...
Petty? You bet. Satisfying? Absolutely!
-- Edited by Vette on Monday 20th of February 2017 01:40:00 PM
Wait - your father who judged you b/c of your relationships is having an affair with someone at work? Nice.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Honestly, I can see being annoyed by it. But there's nothing to be done about it.
Like when the new girl started parking in "my" parking spot. I'd parked in the same spot for 3 years, but they aren't assigned. She got here before me, she gets the spot.
That happens here. 1,000 employees and people own spots.
There are only like 25 of us. Everyone always parks in roughly the same spot. And they hired this new chick who decided she liked my spot.
Also people having the nerve to sit in your spot at Church😲
That burns my biscuits!
I've seen people make visitors move.
That is not the Christian thing to do.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I do not see in the letter if the LW has evened talked to this girl about the "problem". I think that should be the first step, then start worrying.... The girl may not be psychic....
As far as "my spot" at church. Never understood that mentality....
I do not see in the letter if the LW has evened talked to this girl about the "problem". I think that should be the first step, then start worrying.... The girl may not be psychic....
As far as "my spot" at church. Never understood that mentality....
I do have a favorite spot but would gladly let anyone take it over if they choose to do so. Im on my fourth new spot now. 😀
I do not see in the letter if the LW has evened talked to this girl about the "problem". I think that should be the first step, then start worrying.... The girl may not be psychic....
As far as "my spot" at church. Never understood that mentality....
There is no problem though. And it would be rude of LW to discuss with the other person who has as much of a right to get there early so she can use the nice machine.
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
I do not see in the letter if the LW has evened talked to this girl about the "problem". I think that should be the first step, then start worrying.... The girl may not be psychic....
As far as "my spot" at church. Never understood that mentality....
There is no problem though. And it would be rude of LW to discuss with the other person who has as much of a right to get there early so she can use the nice machine.
The machine, get over it. But I personally wouldn't mind a chat about compromise on what's on the TV, maybe trade off
Also people having the nerve to sit in your spot at Church😲
That burns my biscuits!
I've seen people make visitors move.
That is not the Christian thing to do.
Better not let my pastor catch someone in our flock doing that, LOL!! I cannot imagine the entitlement attitude...
I can't either, I usually just ask the person to sit with me.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I do not see in the letter if the LW has evened talked to this girl about the "problem". I think that should be the first step, then start worrying.... The girl may not be psychic....
As far as "my spot" at church. Never understood that mentality....
There is no problem though. And it would be rude of LW to discuss with the other person who has as much of a right to get there early so she can use the nice machine.
The machine, get over it. But I personally wouldn't mind a chat about compromise on what's on the TV, maybe trade off
That is a good point!
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
Honestly, I can see being annoyed by it. But there's nothing to be done about it.
Like when the new girl started parking in "my" parking spot. I'd parked in the same spot for 3 years, but they aren't assigned. She got here before me, she gets the spot.
That happens here. 1,000 employees and people own spots.
There are only like 25 of us. Everyone always parks in roughly the same spot. And they hired this new chick who decided she liked my spot.
I don't think i should have to be assualted with noise everywhere I go. And, at gyms that used to be a big problem. Now that everyone has ipods and headphones, it shouldnt' be a problem at all. I think having the TV on for scrolling news or something is fine. But, i think the sound should be off or at a low level.
Honestly, I can see being annoyed by it. But there's nothing to be done about it.
Like when the new girl started parking in "my" parking spot. I'd parked in the same spot for 3 years, but they aren't assigned. She got here before me, she gets the spot.
That happens here. 1,000 employees and people own spots.
There are only like 25 of us. Everyone always parks in roughly the same spot. And they hired this new chick who decided she liked my spot.
I don't think i should have to be assualted with noise everywhere I go. And, at gyms that used to be a big problem. Now that everyone has ipods and headphones, it shouldnt' be a problem at all. I think having the TV on for scrolling news or something is fine. But, i think the sound should be off or at a low level.
The bolded 1000%. One person's enjoyable sound is another person's noise pollution.
Noise pollution is everywhere. We went to DD's bball game out of town and the warm up music the other team played was ear piercingly loud. OK, it's the warm up music, you want it loud. But, it was painful. And, there are little kids, grandparents, there, etc. There should be some consideration.
My gym has televisions on each elliptical, recumbent bike, and treadmill. They have a jack to plug your headset in. They have overhead music that is at a decent level and a large television with captions, no sound.
