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I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Dear Amy; Turning down a Request to Host a Baby Shower.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Who ASKS people to host showers?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Who ASKS people to host showers?

People up late on Saturday night with nothing else to do? biggrin

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I just got home - I was out all day. Had to check up on the board.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
I just got home - I was out all day. Had to check up on the board.

Uh huh

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Who expects a baby shower, for a fourth child???

Really?

Gift grab, much? confuse

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Sounds as though LW has been taken advantage of many times in the past and is just now drawing the line in the sand.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Her 4th kid? Silly.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

Yeah by the fourth I don't think she needs a shower.

Mary Zombie · Guru

Just say oh I'm afraid that won't be possible.
I can understand the frustration of your own milestones being ignored.
Generally the person who thinks a shower should happen should be the one to have it, not schlep it off on some random person.

FNW · Guru

I think the advice given by Dear Amy was good.

I wouldn't be sending a gift or attending, either.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

:stomp foot: Really? Showers for each baby is now acceptable? Grr. I REALLY could have used the help for child #2 ten years after #1, and child #3 seven years after #2.

Whenitrains · Member

I would just say I can't host but would be honored to be a guest at the shower.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Cheerios4606 wrote:
:stomp foot: Really? Showers for each baby is now acceptable? Grr. I REALLY could have used the help for child #2 ten years after #1, and child #3 seven years after #2.

Personally, I have no issue with showers for subsequent children if they are kept small with close friends, even though it is a manners no-no. I think every new child deserves a celebration of its own. HOWEVER, it is ridiculous to ask someone to give you a shower. Especially someone in this circumstance who has given you multiple showers and you've never reciprocated.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

I think this family is torn halfway between protocol and desire. The protocol is that a shower cant be hosted by the honoree... but they WAAaaaaAAAAaaant a shower, so they are hitting up the friends to do it. Again.

edit: And might I say, Amy was much nicer in her suggested response than what I would be. I would be the one to say "You know what, I have had 3 kids, 2 graduations and an assortment of other celebrations and I didnt see Sally stepping up to host any party for me! Besides, A shower for any baby other than the first baby is considered poor taste and a gift grab. Have her hit up one of her other friends."

-- Edited by Cheerios4606 on Monday 27th of February 2017 02:22:34 PM

FNW · Guru

I never gave showers for subsequent children a second thought. But I resent the neighborhood women asking everyone to prepare meals for new mothers who have nannies.

Lindley · Guru

Cheerios4606 wrote:
I think this family is torn halfway between protocol and desire. The protocol is that a shower cant be hosted by the honoree... but they WAAaaaaAAAAaaant a shower, so they are hitting up the friends to do it. Again.

edit: And might I say, Amy was much nicer in her suggested response than what I would be. I would be the one to say "You know what, I have had 3 kids, 2 graduations and an assortment of other celebrations and I didnt see Sally stepping up to host any party for me! Besides, A shower for any baby other than the first baby is considered poor taste and a gift grab. Have her hit up one of her other friends."

-- Edited by Cheerios4606 on Monday 27th of February 2017 02:22:34 PM

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Cheerios4606 · Guru

And then after hanging up the phone, I would feel shame and remorse for acting like such a meany. Would ask God to forgive me, then call them back and offer to host it for her in an effort to make up for my bad behavior. :shame:

FNW · Guru

I never gave showers for subsequent children a second thought. But I can't recall if we threw any or attended any either.

Lindley · Guru

Cheerios4606 wrote:
And then after hanging up the phone, I would feel shame and remorse for acting like such a meany. Would ask God to forgive me, then call them back and offer to host it for her in an effort to make up for my bad behavior. :shame:

Stay strong cheerios 💪

Cheerios4606 · Guru

lol! Trying! HAHA!

Ohfour · Hooker

Lawyerlady wrote:
Cheerios4606 wrote:
:stomp foot: Really? Showers for each baby is now acceptable? Grr. I REALLY could have used the help for child #2 ten years after #1, and child #3 seven years after #2.
Personally, I have no issue with showers for subsequent children if they are kept small with close friends, even though it is a manners no-no. I think every new child deserves a celebration of its own. HOWEVER, it is ridiculous to ask someone to give you a shower. Especially someone in this circumstance who has given you multiple showers and you've never reciprocated.

With Bruiser, DD's friends hosted a "Sprinkling". It was close family and a couple of friends. Nothing like the shower for Sweetness. Mostly just some boy stuff...

I don't have a problem with multiple showers if the kids are different genders or if they are spaced out like Cheerio's kids...

chef · Guru

She shouldn't do anything for others expecting reciprocation. Either joyfully throw the shower or don't.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Well, it looks like I'll be hosting a baby shower. (I've never hosted one, in the past. I'll be counting on you gals for some cute ideas.)

I really thought Jessi's sisters and Mom, would want to host one for her.

Nope.

They don't want Jessi to have to travel to Houston, at the end of April.

They suggested, that since I'm so good at entertaining, I should do it. biggrin

(No problem. I love Jessi, and will do it happily. I just need some fun ideas.)

I guess I'll start a new thread, in a couple of days, and you Geeks can help me out.

Thanks!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

The only time I can get on board with subsequent baby showers, is if there are several years between babies.

Like 5 or more.

Or if there have been a string of boys and the new baby is a girl. Or vice-versa.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Fort Worth Mom wrote:
Well, it looks like I'll be hosting a baby shower. (I've never hosted one, in the past. I'll be counting on you gals for some cute ideas.)
I really thought Jessi's sisters and Mom, would want to host one for her.
Nope.
They don't want Jessi to have to travel to Houston, at the end of April.
They suggested, that since I'm so good at entertaining, I should do it.
(No problem. I love Jessi, and will do it happily. I just need some fun ideas.)
I guess I'll start a new thread, in a couple of days, and you Geeks can help me out.
Thanks!

Oh boy! That's the fun part! Planning, that is.

The easiest thing is pick a theme, a favorite children's storybook, a color palette, the baby's name, and build around that.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

chef wrote:
She shouldn't do anything for others expecting reciprocation. Either joyfully throw the shower or don't.

Except she didn't offer to give a shower. They called her up and asked her to do it, after basically ignoring her for years.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Fort Worth Mom wrote:
Well, it looks like I'll be hosting a baby shower. (I've never hosted one, in the past. I'll be counting on you gals for some cute ideas.)
I really thought Jessi's sisters and Mom, would want to host one for her.
Nope.
They don't want Jessi to have to travel to Houston, at the end of April.
They suggested, that since I'm so good at entertaining, I should do it.
(No problem. I love Jessi, and will do it happily. I just need some fun ideas.)
I guess I'll start a new thread, in a couple of days, and you Geeks can help me out.
Thanks!

Oh here for you! Would love to have input , please so silly games!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Fort Worth Mom wrote:
Well, it looks like I'll be hosting a baby shower. (I've never hosted one, in the past. I'll be counting on you gals for some cute ideas.)
I really thought Jessi's sisters and Mom, would want to host one for her.
Nope.
They don't want Jessi to have to travel to Houston, at the end of April.
They suggested, that since I'm so good at entertaining, I should do it.
(No problem. I love Jessi, and will do it happily. I just need some fun ideas.)
I guess I'll start a new thread, in a couple of days, and you Geeks can help me out.
Thanks!
Oh here for you! Would love to have input , please so silly games!

You gotta have a game or two! A party needs activities.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

The activities are talking, eating, and opening gifts.

I hate those games.

Mary Zombie · Guru

She could take the easy way out and ignore any requests and communications from on these people. Doesn't sound like she's all that jazzed with them. Problem solved!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
The activities are talking, eating, and opening gifts.

I hate those games.

And some people enjoy them. So, if they have them, just suck it up, Buttercup - the party isn't about you. When you host or are the guest of honor, then you get to decide if there are games or not.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

Dont you sometimes wish you could see the followup to what ever happened to some of these letters? Like this one. How did she ultimately handle it. Was she able to do so with minimal ripples?

Mary Zombie · Guru

Right? I wanna knowwwww

Personally I hate games but we did play a naughty have you/would you game at my bachellorette lol

-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Wednesday 1st of March 2017 12:53:36 PM

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
The activities are talking, eating, and opening gifts.

I hate those games.
And some people enjoy them. So, if they have them, just suck it up, Buttercup - the party isn't about you. When you host or are the guest of honor, then you get to decide if there are games or not.

I know.

Didn't have games at any of my showers.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Cheerios4606 wrote:
Dont you sometimes wish you could see the followup to what ever happened to some of these letters? Like this one. How did she ultimately handle it. Was she able to do so with minimal ripples?

Oh dear Lord, I read minimal nipples.

Then I put my glasses on.

Lenni · Member

Amy's advice was spot on.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

"Minimal nipples"

:roflmbo: !!!!

Divine Geek · Guru

I don't have issue with the multiple showers. Beyond my normal objection to showers. I hate showers. Just tell me what you want me to buy and when to drop it off. I'm good.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

This introvert would be perfectly fine with that. :chuckle:

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Divine Geek wrote:
I don't have issue with the multiple showers. Beyond my normal objection to showers. I hate showers. Just tell me what you want me to buy and when to drop it off. I'm good.

This is funny b/c I know someone who did that recently, and the reaction to most of the people she told was not good.

Divine Geek · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
I don't have issue with the multiple showers. Beyond my normal objection to showers. I hate showers. Just tell me what you want me to buy and when to drop it off. I'm good.
This is funny b/c I know someone who did that recently, and the reaction to most of the people she told was not good.

They'd probably get a better gift by not making sit through the torture of shower games and chit chat and having to be nice to people.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

lol! I wouldnt call it torture... but for some people like me, it IS painful to keep a fake smile on that long in those instances. But I am weird.

Ohfour · Hooker

My sister, you know, the one I can't stand?

Well, she didn't go to my cousin's shower last Saturday because she just "couldn't" be around some of the people that she knew were coming. I kid you not, she did not want to be tagged in photos by people that she didn't want her circle to know that she associated with. So she went the next day.

Wonder why I can't stand her?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Divine Geek wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
I don't have issue with the multiple showers. Beyond my normal objection to showers. I hate showers. Just tell me what you want me to buy and when to drop it off. I'm good.
This is funny b/c I know someone who did that recently, and the reaction to most of the people she told was not good.
They'd probably get a better gift by not making sit through the torture of shower games and chit chat and having to be nice to people.

I swear I will throw showers; baby, wedding, whatever but will not do games. Just a nice social with catered food. biggrin

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Ohfour wrote:
My sister, you know, the one I can't stand?

Well, she didn't go to my cousin's shower last Saturday because she just "couldn't" be around some of the people that she knew were coming. I kid you not, she did not want to be tagged in photos by people that she didn't want her circle to know that she associated with. So she went the next day.

Wonder why I can't stand her?

Well that wasn't this sister! I will go to any you throw!

Ohfour · Hooker

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
My sister, you know, the one I can't stand?

Well, she didn't go to my cousin's shower last Saturday because she just "couldn't" be around some of the people that she knew were coming. I kid you not, she did not want to be tagged in photos by people that she didn't want her circle to know that she associated with. So she went the next day.

Wonder why I can't stand her?
Well that wasn't this sister! I will go to any you throw!

Any shower I throw will have booze. Maybe not openly, but guaran-damn-tee you, there will be booze...

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

My sister had a full bar at her DD's last baby shower!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Torture? Not really.

But good gerdie, guess melted candy bars in diapers, guess the baby food, don't say baby, and then the dried out finger sandwiches and the cake with little plastic babies, and making small talk with the other side of the family is annoying.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I like the baby food tasting game. Games are fun as long as they aren't humiliating anyone.