DEAR ABBY: For 17 years I have been using the same hairstylist, "Marietta," because she does great cuts and color. She's married to my cousin "Gil," but not for long. They're divorcing.
Gil's mother suggested I should find a different stylist, but when I did, I had horrible results. I returned to Marietta and it took her several appointments to correct my color.
Some family members are now furious with me for getting my hair done by someone who is soon to be a relative's ex. I look at it as a business. I like what Marietta does for me. We never discuss the divorce. Family is now demanding an apology, and I don't think I owe one. I haven't been close to any of these people in years.
Must I say I'm sorry to distant family and discontinue Marietta's services? Or should I say nothing and continue my professional relationship with her? My roots are beginning to show again, so please answer quickly. -- SNIPPED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR SNIPPED: Tell Gil's mother to stay out of your hair. You tried leaving Marietta; it was a disaster -- and you plan on using her until the day you curl up and dye.
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I hate when relatives do this. When my cousin divorced her husband of 20 years she expected us to pretend he no longer existed. He and my dh were (and still are friends) before she even met him. No! We won't pretend he's dead just because you found a new boyfriend.
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I wouldn't anything to the relative, it's really none of their business.
And if they say anything to you, tell them that.
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I was good friends with my cousin's wife. In fact, better friends with her than him. When they divorced, i maintained my my friendship with her via Facebook, calling, etc. SHe lives several states away so we aren't really ever going to see each other in person. But, we chat and she has a great sense of humor. But, it isn't anyone's biz if i talk to her or not. Now, of course, i don't tell her anything that is going on with my cousin or talk about him either.
