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DEAR ABBY: My daughter is graduating from high school in May. She has been accepted to a prestigious university, entirely due to her own hard work and dedication.

My father-in-law recently informed us that his new wife had selected our daughter's graduation present, and they are excited to give it to her. They chose a pink luggage set. My husband and I are mystified about why they decided this would be the perfect gift for our daughter. We know she will be embarrassed -- but gracious -- if she receives this gift in front of our family and friends on graduation day. We would like to spare her the awkwardness and having to return an inappropriate gift.

Abby, would it be rude of us to strongly encourage them to rethink their gift? How do we broach the subject so we don't cause hurt feelings or a rift? We are grateful for their generosity, but we know the gift won't suit our grad. -- MYSTIFIED MOTHER

DEAR MOTHER: I do not advise your becoming involved with this. Warn your daughter in advance what the gift will be so she isn't caught flat-footed on graduation day. If she chooses to exchange the luggage for something she feels will be more appropriate, she should do so. Luggage that stands out like a sore thumb may be easier to spot on an airport carousel, but it can also be more vulnerable to theft than something that blends in.

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Sorry. Only the gift giver has a choice in what they give you. Talk about entitled...

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How do they "know" she will be embarrassed. Maybe she will be delighted. Either way, butt out.

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Why in the world would the daughter be "embarrassed"? That's ridiculous. It's not like they are giving her a vibrator or something. It's luggage. And the more colorful, the easier to spot on a luggage carousel.

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Luggage is a nice gift. A college student may not have room to store a complete set. That's the only problem I can think of with this gift.

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I too think luggage is a great gift for a college student. My daughter traveled a lot with her college friends and a luggage set would have come in handy.

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They could give her a rock and it shouldn't matter. Only the gift GIVER gets to choose.

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My guess is DIL does not like step MIL and wants to passively aggressively insult her.

I would love a pink set of luggage. I'm in the market for a new set, I'll have to see if I can find them.

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I would LOVE to have A PINK LUGGAGE SET! What is wrong with people?!

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I really hate it when people complain about gifts. My friends daughter complains about gifts she gets at those white elephant exchange things every Christmas - she is never happy and she pouts and the mom always sympathizes with her. It gets annoying.

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Pink luggage is very popular right now.

I want a set with a flamingo on them!

And luggage can be an awesome storage system when not traveling.

My nephew puts his winter gear in his during the summer, summer gear in during the winter.



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Cheerios4606 wrote:

I would LOVE to have A PINK LUGGAGE SET! What is wrong with people?!

 Hahaha, that was my thought, Cheerios!!  Among other things, SO easy to find on the luggage mover at the airport...



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Or maybe the parents know their daughter hates pink? Simple as that...

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I don't get it. I think luggage is a great gift.. if it's the color, she can exchange it for something more neutral. But even that isn't a big enough reason to write to Abby about.

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And it seems obvious to me that the giver should want to please the recipient.

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I mean, the LW calls it an inappropriate gift?? What's inappropriate about it?

Maybe were they thinking daughter deserves something more grand to go along with the 'prestigious' college acceptance, like a car or something?

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flan327 wrote:

And it seems obvious to me that the giver should want to please the recipient.

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Yeah, you probably don't want to go there...just sayin...



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A few years back I bought my daughter pink luggage with brown polka dots as a graduation gift. She loves it still to this day.  biggrin



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flan327 wrote:

And it seems obvious to me that the giver should want to please the recipient.

flan

 It seems obvious to me that the recipient shouldn't be an ungrateful bitch.



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Why in the world would the daughter be "embarrassed"? That's ridiculous. It's not like they are giving her a vibrator or something. It's luggage. And the more colorful, the easier to spot on a luggage carousel.            

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I was raised to appreciate a gift that was given to me. I think the mother attitude has more to do that the stepmother picked it out then anything else. If the daughter doesn't like the color I'm sure there wouldn't be any problem with exchanging it for a color she does like.

I would have loved it if someone bought my dd a luggage set. She used mine alot.

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Tinydancer wrote:
flan327 wrote:

And it seems obvious to me that the giver should want to please the recipient.

flan

 It seems obvious to me that the recipient shouldn't be an ungrateful bitch.

 The RECIPIENT hasn't even RECEIVED the gift yet.

And she's NOT a "bitch."

flan

 



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flan327 wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
flan327 wrote:

And it seems obvious to me that the giver should want to please the recipient.

flan

 It seems obvious to me that the recipient shouldn't be an ungrateful bitch.

 The RECIPIENT hasn't even RECEIVED the gift yet.

And she's NOT a "bitch."

flan

 

Oh, yes she is.  If opening luggage would embarrass her, she's a total bitch... 



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flan327 wrote:
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flan327 wrote:

And it seems obvious to me that the giver should want to please the recipient.

flan

 It seems obvious to me that the recipient shouldn't be an ungrateful bitch.

 The RECIPIENT hasn't even RECEIVED the gift yet.

And she's NOT a "bitch."

flan

 

 OK. The parents of the recipient should not be ungrateful bitches and yes if you're telling someone what they can or can't give as a gift you're a BITCH.



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flan327 wrote:

Or maybe the parents know their daughter hates pink? Simple as that...

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 Maybe they think they know.  Doesnt make it so.  Maybe her tastes have changed.



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Oh, FFS.

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These are too cute!

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But these are cool, too!

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She might be some sort of little goth freak with a Mohawk and black lipstick. They may be trying to get her to grow up a little...

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She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

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Tinydancer wrote:

She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

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flan327 wrote:
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She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

flan

 Whatever color I get because unless the giver specifically asks me what I want they give what they give and I appreciate the thought not tell them it's not what I wanted. Again the parents DON"T get to dictate the gift and they're bitches for expecting the giver to give something else when they weren't freaking asked.



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flan327 wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:

She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

flan

Black.  Black goes with everything...biggrin 



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Ohfour wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:

She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

flan

Black.  Black goes with everything...biggrin 

 I like red scarves. 



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Southern_Belle wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
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Tinydancer wrote:

She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

flan

Black.  Black goes with everything...biggrin 

 I like red scarves. 

Tough titties.  You're getting a black one.   



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Ohfour wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:

She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

flan

Black.  Black goes with everything...biggrin 

Yes it does!  Or perhaps I lighten things up with a grey! 



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I want a martini glass on my pink luggage.

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Awesome!

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Oh. I. Want.

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Ohfour wrote:
Southern_Belle wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:

She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

flan

Black.  Black goes with everything...biggrin 

 I like red scarves. 

Tough titties.  You're getting a black one.   

 Fine, be sure to hand me the receipt so I can return it!



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LOL! This is hilarious!

WE gave both out two older kids luggage for graduation gifts. Both black!

Then I helped them pack...

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We gave DD luggage when she graduated. I don't even remember the style or the color. It's a perfectly normal gift.

Again, not sure what's so embarrassing about luggage...confuseconfuseconfuse



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flan327 wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:

She could be an abducted alien and already has lots of luggage. The recipient of a gift does not get to dictate what the gift is.

 AGAIN:

If I am spending my hard-earned money on a gift, why would I NOT want to PLEASE the recipient?

My favorite color is purple...yours is orange. If I am buying you a scarf, WHAT COLOR do I choose?

flan

 They likely think it IS going to please her.  But momma wants to disabuse them of that notion and tell them the gift they lovingly chose will not be wanted or appreciated. 



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here is my preference AND it is GREEN... AND it has a ZOMBIE!!!!

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Cheerios4606 wrote:

here is my preference AND it is GREEN... AND it has a ZOMBIE!!!!

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 I like it!

Now if you could find one with a plant.



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I will stick with black, but if anyone is inclined you can send your own photo and have it on luggage.

www.bagsoflove.com/products/personalized-suitcase

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one with a plant? As in... plants vs. zombies??!!!!!!!  :swoon:

 

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Cheerios4606 wrote:

one with a plant? As in... plants vs. zombies??!!!!!!!  :swoon:

 

BIOLX0QCJPVZ.JPG    And this might do the trick....   FORUDESIGNS-Printing-font-b-Flower-b-fon

 Yeah! 



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one of my siblings is a pediatrician--when she was going on her first tour abroad, we got one of those carry/roll ons for her--white abs exterior and we had it emblazoned in military style block lettering(in red)" human tissue "

she's taken it all over the world the last twenty years or so and has never had it stolen or lost




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I want one!

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