TOTALLY GEEKED!

I'm sorry, one of our favorite thing to do was ride in the bed of the truck.

We routinely rode in the back.

Once, all my cousins and I, rode in the back of our pawpaw's truck all the way to Pigeon Forge and back. I, the oldest, was maybe 10, and my youngest cousin was maybe 3.

We had a blast.

We also drove in pawpaw's lap, drove the tractors, carried .22s while playing in the fields or woods, rode horses and cows, and went swimming in rivers.

Take away custody because they rode in the bed of a truck with a grown up? 

Please.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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I'm still wondering why an 8 year old has a nanny.

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 Because 8 years old is not old enough to take care of himself or legally be left alone.  

Forever Sunshine wrote:

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I have no issue with the riding in the back of the truck. Been there done that. However, it was never filled with water and balls. Nor done as a stunt for 15 minutes of fame.

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 Looked like a lot of fun to me.

It is not abuse, neglect or child endangerment. The kid is more likely to get killed or injured in a car accident, WITH all the safety gear.

The water was thickened by the jell balls. It looked like thick jello and it did not slosh out of the pickup bed. It rocked and rolled, but did not slosh.

Thousands of people are doing stuff for their 15 minutes of fame, so?

Let the kid have fun and share it if he and his family so desire. I don't have a problem with this clip.

A house full of teens needed a nanny???

My God what a snowflake world we live in.

It amazes me how much coddling goes on now.

Lawyerlady wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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A house full of teens needed a nanny???

My God what a snowflake world we live in.

It amazes me how much coddling goes on now.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 7th of July 2017 01:11:36 PM

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 If you don't live in a podunk little town - they need someone to get them to their activities when mom and dad are at work - or they don't get to do them.  

The dad was especially excited he wouldn't have to teach me to drive a stick shift since I already knew how.  My job would basically have been chauffeur, housesitter, and cook.  

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 A teen can't ride a bike, walk, or if they live in a city, take public transit?

As a teen, if you can't get yourself there, do you need to do the activity? 

Cooking and housesitting in a house with 3 teens? 

They can't cook for themselves?  Can't keep the house from burning down? 

That's a crying shame. Poor parenting.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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A house full of teens needed a nanny???

My God what a snowflake world we live in.

It amazes me how much coddling goes on now.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 7th of July 2017 01:11:36 PM

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 If you don't live in a podunk little town - they need someone to get them to their activities when mom and dad are at work - or they don't get to do them.  

The dad was especially excited he wouldn't have to teach me to drive a stick shift since I already knew how.  My job would basically have been chauffeur, housesitter, and cook.  

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 A teen can't ride a bike, walk, or if they live in a city, take public transit?

As a teen, if you can't get yourself there, do you need to do the activity? 

Cooking and housesitting in a house with 3 teens? 

They can't cook for themselves?  Can't keep the house from burning down? 

That's a crying shame. Poor parenting.

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Not here.  

The baseball fields are about 10 miles from my house.  And there is no public transportation, so I paid to have my kids driven around. 

So you think kids should not play sports if they can't get there  by themselves?  Really?  What about away games?  During the summer, my kids had games in the early afternoon.  How the heck are they supposed to get 30 miles away riding a bike?  Ridiculous.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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And FYI - my 13 year old babysits, but she doesn't yet drive. We have no public transportation, and no way for her to get anywhere unless I take her or someone else does. So far, it's been fine, but if I feel the need to hire someone to drive her places, it's my damn money and none of your damn business how I choose to spend it, or how anyone else chooses to make their life easier if they can afford it.

Sounds like jealousy more than anything.

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 Where on earth do you get that I'm jealous? 

Of what? 

 

You said you once interviewed for a job as a nanny for teenagers. 

Then you say your 13 year old babysits.

So does the babysitter need a sitter?

I've said repeatedly that there is a huge difference between a babysitter and needing a ride.

Why are YOU making this personal?

 

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A nanny is not just a babysitter when it comes to older kids.  They are more like household managers.  It's not about babysitting, it's about making life easier and getting things done.  

The family I interviewed for had to travel a lot for work, and wanted someone in the house other than teenagers. They also wanted someone there dependable to drive their kids to school and pick them up and get them where they needed to go.

You, as a rule, have a hard time understanding that most people don't live like you do.  They don't get to be home, and they don't have mom and dad to help them when they can't be.  

Calling people special snowflakes b/c they have the ability to hire someone to make their lives easier is not very nice. 

Lawyerlady wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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A house full of teens needed a nanny???

My God what a snowflake world we live in.

It amazes me how much coddling goes on now.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 7th of July 2017 01:11:36 PM

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 If you don't live in a podunk little town - they need someone to get them to their activities when mom and dad are at work - or they don't get to do them.  

The dad was especially excited he wouldn't have to teach me to drive a stick shift since I already knew how.  My job would basically have been chauffeur, housesitter, and cook.  

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 That and there are laws depending on where you live as to how old a kid has to be to stay home by themselves. They are VSS' and neither are the parents.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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There you go, personal little digs.

Why?

Why do you feel the need to make those little digs?

But you call me jealous.

Interesting.

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 You seem to have no trouble making digs about other people's lifestyles.  

And yes, if you think having someone help makes people VSS, then you sound jealous. 

lilyofcourse wrote:

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Uh huh.

I don't know where I took a dig at anyone here.

I said there is a difference between needing a ride and needing a babysitter.

If a teenager needs someone to cook for them, clean up after them, and monitor their actions, then yes, the parent has failed.

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 Bull.  You talk like anyone that lives differently than you is somehow stupid.  Very special snowflakes, remember?  Nice backpedal.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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Yes, everyone can read what I posted.

I stand by what I said.

If you have a teen who needs a babysitter, you failed at your job.

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 And you have missed the point entirely.  

No. You said teens needed a babysitter to cook for them and take care of them.

I said there is a difference between needing a ride and needing a babysitter.

Your problem.

If a teen can't cook for themselves or take care of themselves while mom and dad are at work, then yes. Mom and dad have not done their job.

I was working at 14. Worked until I physically could not, and now, I still do what I can around here. 

I raised 3 kids, paid my bills, and still taught my kids to be independent. 

Yes, when the kids were little, mom would help while I worked. Which means after I made dinner, helped them with homework, got their baths and put them to bed, she was here while I worked. They slept.

You want to try to put me down cause you think you know me, but you dont.

I was debt free at 30. I have only living expenses now.

My daughter is two months from being debt free and has her own place, my oldest son is saving to get his on place, and that just leaves my youngest, he is looking for a job and hopes to be on his own in a year.

So yes, I know a little something about raising kids. 

You want to try to take a stab at me? 

You want to look down on me?

I don't care.

My kids can cook, clean, and take care of themselves because this working single mother taught them how.

There is no excuse for a teenager not knowing how to cook and clean and take care of themselves.  

None.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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Ok. The information of the parents being out of town came AFTER about a dozen posts from LL's original post about the teens.

AFTER she took the personal jabs at me.

And I know, now there will be the "oh now you are back pedaling" comments.

But no. My original response, and continued responses, have been to LL's in which the ONLY information she offered and defended for about about a half dozen posts was that she interviewed for a job where parents wanted a nanny for teenagers. 

It was only AFTER I posted that teens shouldn't need a nanny that she started adding information to better bolster her position.

Her little digs, saying I'm jealous, attempting to put me in, what she considers,  "my place", is all making this a personal attack.

I haven't backed down from my original statement concerning LL's original post on the matter.

If a teen can not cook, clean, and generally take care of themselves, the parent has not done their job.

And I want it noted that I never once took a single swipe at LL. Because I never called into question her personal life at any point. 

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Yes, you did.  I WAS a nanny.  I am a parent who hires help when I need it.  And I have a teenager that I hire help for who is NOT a special snowflake.  

All around your comments were personally offensive.  

NAOW wrote:

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I bet those kids could cook and clean for themselves, but if mom & dad work out of town for a week or more at a time, there is nothing wrong with hiring someone to come in and take care of those tasks. Teens are still kids, and don't need a whole load of adult responsibility.

And I think it is really smart of them to have an adult there to make sure the place doesn't become a teen flop house.

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 Even on a daily basis.  My sister used to ditch school and her and her friends would hang out at the house all day while my mother was working.  So, what, my mother should have quit her job?