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DEAR ABBY: Recently I was listening to a couple talking about who and who not to invite to a wedding because seating was limited.

 

I'm wondering whether there would be anything wrong with sending out a letter stating that although they would like to invite everyone, seating is limited. Explain that, of course, immediate family (parents, siblings and their spouses) would be invited without exception. However, the remaining seating would be on a "lottery" basis. If people accept the invitation, they would be in the lottery and then notified of the results.

 

Is this acceptable? I think it would solve a lot of problems. Just wondering. -- JUST A THOUGHT IN OHIO

 

DEAR JUST A THOUGHT: If I were you, I would forget this concept. Depending upon the size of the guest list, I strongly suspect it would offend anyone who didn't "win" the lottery.



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I wouldn't want to go to anyone's wedding THAT bad. I would most definitely decline the invitation.

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People have a very high opinion of their own nuptials, don't they? That they are so important, being able to attend is like a prize!

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It's the surest way of solving their problem though. I doubt anyone who was asked to go into a lottery would attend!

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Just when you thought people couldn't get any stupider...

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Ohfour wrote:

Just when you thought people couldn't get any stupider...

 Where is your wallet?  



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Probably in some parking lot in the middle of the ghetto. But thats ok! I'll find it later. I mean its SOMEWHERE...

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Ohfour wrote:

Probably in some parking lot in the middle of the ghetto. But thats ok! I'll find it later. I mean its SOMEWHERE...

 



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We have a super chatty dental hygienist too but it works out because DH and I always get our teeth cleaned at the same time. When it's our time to go back she chats with DH while she's cleaning my teeth and with me when she's cleaning his. Works out well.

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Well, at least the letter writer is trying to be creative. :chuckle:

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Oh my. You just can't fix stupid!

Invite those whom you want to attend. If
you can't afford all those whom you want
to invite, pare down all the unnecessary
frills and extras. What's more important?
Your friends being with you on this extra
special day, or having fewer people there
with lots of extra frou-frous?



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Apparently, the venue won't fit all the people. So, you keep it simple. You limit is to immediate family and close friends only. It's not rocket science.

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This DOES bring to mind what happened to me tho. We had a small affair and invited about 75 people. Most of them were relatives. If I had known 90% of my relatives were not going to go, I would have invited friends. It is a conundrum. I should have done what the airlines did, and I should have overbooked. ;)

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This DOES bring to mind what happened to me tho. We had a small affair and invited about 75 people. Most of them were relatives. If I had known 90% of my relatives were not going to go, I would have invited friends. It is a conundrum. I should have done what the airlines did, and I should have overbooked. ;)

 What you do in this situation is five weeks prior to the wedding after getting negative RSVPs then you invite friends.  Never put someone in the position to feel they are "B" list.



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Cheerios4606 wrote:

This DOES bring to mind what happened to me tho. We had a small affair and invited about 75 people. Most of them were relatives. If I had known 90% of my relatives were not going to go, I would have invited friends. It is a conundrum. I should have done what the airlines did, and I should have overbooked. ;)

 What you do in this situation is five weeks prior to the wedding after getting negative RSVPs then you invite friends.  Never put someone in the position to feel they are "B" list.

 Yep, that's a terrible feeling.



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EXACTLY! I certainly didnt want to anyone feel like they were on the B list. Meanwhile I had budgeted and was hoping for 75 people, but in the end only 50 showed. The budget for those extra 15 folks went unused. I was not happy.

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we got an invite recently from an old school friend of mine--in lieu of a gift, we were requested to make a donation to planned parenthood--could not fvcking believe it--on an elegant, three-part invitation, they were soliciting a donation for planned parenthood--we won't be going, of course, and certainly not donating any $$$ to an organization of that sort--whether you agree with pp or not, why in god's name would you put it on YOUR WEDDING INVITATION?--my lady asked " just exactly who in the hell ARE these people? "

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I don't blame you burns, If for some reason I had to go I would just go ahead and donate to a charity of my choice rather then donate to something I don't believe in.

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burns07 wrote:


we got an invite recently from an old school friend of mine--in lieu of a gift, we were requested to make a donation to planned parenthood--could not fvcking believe it--on an elegant, three-part invitation, they were soliciting a donation for planned parenthood--we won't be going, of course, and certainly not donating any $$$ to an organization of that sort--whether you agree with pp or not, why in god's name would you put it on YOUR WEDDING INVITATION?--my lady asked " just exactly who in the hell ARE these people? "

 WOW



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Can you get anymore tacky? I wouldn't go if I "won" this lottery! How insulting.



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Wow. How about donating to the local crisis pregnancy center in their name. UGH!

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Yeah no. I would hope to NOT get an invitation. Oy

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burns07 wrote:


we got an invite recently from an old school friend of mine--in lieu of a gift, we were requested to make a donation to planned parenthood--could not fvcking believe it--on an elegant, three-part invitation, they were soliciting a donation for planned parenthood--we won't be going, of course, and certainly not donating any $$$ to an organization of that sort--whether you agree with pp or not, why in god's name would you put it on YOUR WEDDING INVITATION?--my lady asked " just exactly who in the hell ARE these people? "

 Ah, man.  This would make me want to do something like donate Mother's Teresa's charity in their name.  



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Tacky, burns. But I'm someone who feels it's tacky to put on an obituary, "in lieu of flowers, donate to___". Who says I'm sending flowers?

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