DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend cheated on me the whole time I was pregnant last year. He lived in Florida, and I lived in Missouri. He didn't make it back for our son's birth like he promised.
Now that he's back, he stays out all night. He won't get a job to help support our family. He lies in bed all day, gets so drunk he can't drive and doesn't help out around the house, either. It's obvious that I should let him go. I'm 11 years older than he is, and he obviously isn't ready to grow up, even though he's 30.
I love him, but I'm tired of being treated this way. How can I get over this? -- CAN'T LET GO IN KANSAS CITY
DEAR CAN'T LET GO: You say you are tired of being treated that way? Congratulations on your burst of clarity. It has finally dawned on you that you have been enabling a lazy, ungrateful, irresponsible freeloader who has no respect for you or his child.
This isn't "love." You should have realized you would be raising two children when he didn't care enough to show up for the birth of the baby. Do what you know you must: Kick him out and move on.
So, a 41 year old woman got pregnant by a man that wasn't living in the same state, and then allowed him to move in after he cheated on her through her entire pregnancy, and now, in addition to caring for an infant, is supporting a giant man-child that is using her and not being of any assistance in raising or supporting their child.
Is physically hurts to know there are woman this stupid out there.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Some women will do anything for a man and think if they love them enough that their boyfriend will change their ways and live happily ever after. Most likely the letter writer hasn't had very much attention from men and has pretty low self esteem herself.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I find it hard to believe the sex is so great when he seems like such a selfish man-child. Some women just can't be alone so a jerk is better than nothing. I know two women just like this.
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I find it hard to believe the sex is so great when he seems like such a selfish man-child. Some women just can't be alone so a jerk is better than nothing. I know two women just like this.
Unfortunately, many women equate sex with love. And, many women don't have a clue what good, satisfying sex really is.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
if this is true, it is a sad state of affairs--guess she wanted to have a child with a bum--congratulations--feel sorry for the kid--more than likely, we'll end-up supporting them all
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" the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. "--edmund burke
