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DEAR ABBY: I am a 29-year-old single mother of two small children. My 5-year-old son was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes.

 

I’m the only one in my family who has been trained in his care, so I understand the importance of a healthy diet, proper insulin dosage, checking his blood sugar, etc., and that unless his diabetes is properly managed, it could lead to serious health issues — even death.

 

I have explained these things to my mother and attempted to train her several times, yet she continues to do things she shouldn’t be doing. She stops by my house almost every night with “treats” like candy, ice cream, chocolate bars, doughnuts, etc.

 

When I get upset about it, she’ll casually reply, “Oh, whatever. If you dose him for the carbs in it, he’s fine,” which is not the case. Yes, he can have a treat now and then, but overall, he needs to stay away from that stuff.

 

It is extremely frustrating that she refuses to listen to me and continues to disrespect my wishes. I don’t know what else to do. We have fought repeatedly over this, and she keeps telling me I’m “overreacting.”

 

I’m terrified my son will have permanent damage because of this. How do I get her to stop and listen to me? — FRUSTRATED IN WISCONSIN

 

DEAR FRUSTRATED: You have allowed your son’s medical condition to become a power struggle between you and your mother.

 

Schedule an appointment with your son’s pediatrician so your mother can have the facts of life explained to her. If that doesn’t help her to accept reality, then understand that she can’t be trusted.

 

Do not allow her to drop by with goodies, and supervise any contact he has with her. It is your job to protect your little boy, even from your obtuse mother, if necessary.



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My answer would be simple - I am his mother, I asked you to stop. If you do it again, you are not welcome in my home and you won't see your grandsons again.



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have her come in. Walk the treats to the trash can. Toss. Turn to her and say, get out.

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The grandmother is a idiot diabetes isn't a new disease where one would be acting out of ignorance. I agree with what Lawyer lady said. I know a child who was so allergic to any kind of wheat product, the grandma didn't believe it so she fed him pancakes for breakfast and he ended up in the hospital.

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Yep. Bi.tch get out!

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Yup. Throw the treats out then kick her out.

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Lindley wrote:

The grandmother is a idiot diabetes isn't a new disease where one would be acting out of ignorance. I agree with what Lawyer lady said. I know a child who was so allergic to any kind of wheat product, the grandma didn't believe it so she fed him pancakes for breakfast and he ended up in the hospital.

Why do people do that?  So odd. 



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The grandmother must have a screw loose. Obviously cannot be trusted alone with the kids.

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TrudyML wrote:
Lindley wrote:

The grandmother is a idiot diabetes isn't a new disease where one would be acting out of ignorance. I agree with what Lawyer lady said. I know a child who was so allergic to any kind of wheat product, the grandma didn't believe it so she fed him pancakes for breakfast and he ended up in the hospital.

Why do people do that?  So odd. 

  I think sometimes  they think young parents  are overly cautious  and since most likely  never heard of wheat allergy poo pood the parents  concerns  and think they are treating  their grandchild.    My Dil is strict  in what my grandson  eats and I respect  that.  I do spoil  him with Ritz crackers  which is ok with my dil. She considers that is a at Mimis treat.  



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This grandmother could be my in-laws. And we all know how that ended.

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I don't think the GM understands how serious this could be. She needs to see it for her self.

But I doubt she will ever change.

So. Limited visits and never leave her alone with the kids.



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It's like Lindley said, diabetes is nothing new. Of course I would put my child's safety over my relationship with my mother, but it's a real shame it has to come to that.

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When my son was young he was allergic to blue dyes. I told my mom repeatedly not to give it to him. One day she gave him a blue gatorade. He promptly threw up all over her new truck.

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This is probably a grandmother that is not going to hear anything she does not want to. Anyway, she has a lot of experience and she knows what is what. I am guessing that is her way of thinking. The only thing to do is supervise her visits or just not let her come over......

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The parents make the decisions. Doesn't matter if grandma thinks it is dumb, over reacting etc. However, she is a pretty stupid woman if she doesnt' understand how serious Type 1 Diabetes is in a child. It is a ravaging disease and if it is poorly controlled the child will suffer severe consequences. She needs to go some Diabetes education classes and learn something. Sheesh.

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Lawyerlady wrote:

My answer would be simple - I am his mother, I asked you to stop. If you do it again, you are not welcome in my home and you won't see your grandsons again.

 This. The reason doesn't matter. Mom said no, grandma needs to respect that. 

 

No way would I go through the trouble of taking her to the Pediatrician to get the doctor to explain it.



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I wouldn't bother with the pediatrician either. She'd just call them educated idiots and think she knows more. I even tried sending them copies of medical reports. They didn't care. I was an over-reactor helicopter mom who wanted to control them.

She just needs to limit the exposure.

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