TOTALLY GEEKED!

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Much needed VENT thread

Forever Sunshine · Guru

For the first time in my life I've just had a baked potato literally explode in my oven. I even forked it before putting it in there. I have baked potato in every corner of the oven! ARGH! hahahaha

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

I bet it had a pocket of moisture from an
insect burrowing into it that you couldn't
see from the outside.

Regular oven, or microwave?

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Regular oven! I don't own an microwave any more. I really was a bit taken back. It's never happened to me before. hahaha When I went in to clean up the mess, it was totally dried out and hard like chips would be.

-- Edited by Forever Sunshine on Monday 1st of January 2018 05:23:02 PM

Vette · Owl drink to that!

I am so sick of DH's mom disrespecting me. Maybe this doesn't seen like a big deal but to me it is. She refuses to spell my name correctly. And she spells it different every time we get something in the mail! I'm sorry, but the first thing you should learn about someone is how to spell their name.

I've been with her son for going on six years now. She gets a Christmas card every year. I know she is doing it on purpose because I've corrected her many times. I'm going to start sending her cards labeled Katherine with a "C".

Forever Sunshine · Guru

I'm sorry, vette! I think you should spell it Cathryn. Really mutilate her name big time!

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Forever Sunshine wrote:
I'm sorry, vette! I think you should spell it Cathryn. Really mutilate her name big time!

Gosh Vette, that really stinks.

I vote for, "Yo, Bitch"! wink

(Okay, I'm kidding. But it would probably feel good!) biggrin

Forever Sunshine · Guru

That would be so much better, FWM! If only . . .

Divine Geek · Guru

Vette wrote:
I am so sick of DH's mom disrespecting me. Maybe this doesn't seen like a big deal but to me it is. She refuses to spell my name correctly. And she spells it different every time we get something in the mail! I'm sorry, but the first thing you should learn about someone is how to spell their name.

I've been with her son for going on six years now. She gets a Christmas card every year. I know she is doing it on purpose because I've corrected her many times. I'm going to start sending her cards labeled Katherine with a "C".

Aww, I'm sorry. I have an aunt who still gets my name wrong, she spells it wrong and has used every somewhat close variation over the years. Until I was 10, she just referred to me as "the {last name} baby". I really wish I was making that up

FNW · Guru

My sMIL misspelled my son's middle name on a needlepoint she made. I thought it was just a mistake, but as time went on and she insulted both my boys, I realize it wasn't an accident.

You aren't wrong to be upset, vette. May I ask what your DH thinks/says about it?

Divine Geek · Guru

My Christmas bonus at work also had my name spelled wrong on the envelope. I asked my boss how long I had to work there before they spell my name right. She looks at the envelope and goes, oh for christs sake!

However, I later found out the reason, and I'm not irked about that one. Turns out the HR clerk that addressed has a daughter with the same name as mine, but spelled the other way. So out of habit she spelled it the way she spells her daughters name. That I don't get upset about.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

He doesn't think it's a big deal, but he also hates confrontation of any kind

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

My Aunt has spelled my name wrong for 52 years. I gave up.

FNW · Guru

Vette wrote:
He doesn't think it's a big deal, but he also hates confrontation of any kind

We could be married to the same man. I feel your pain.

My advice: Misspell her name.

But seriously, don't let on to her that it bothers you. If she doesn't think she is getting under your skin, she'll stop. But be forewarned, she will move on to another tactic, if her actions are intentional. It would be a good way to find out either way.

-- Edited by FNW on Tuesday 2nd of January 2018 10:38:14 AM

Lindley · Guru

I personally would just ignore it. If she is being passive aggressive by even misspelling her name back shows her you noticed and that it bugs you. Being sweet, thank her and go on like nothing happened will bug her more then anything. My sil is that way and ignoring her behavior bugs her more then anything.

chef · Guru

Lindley wrote:
I personally would just ignore it. If she is being passive aggressive by even misspelling her name back shows her you noticed and that it bugs you. Being sweet, thank her and go on like nothing happened will bug her more then anything. My sil is that way and ignoring her behavior bugs her more then anything.

I agree with ignoring it. Admittedly, this is easy for me to say because I don't care how people spell my name. I make sure it's correct when it matters - such as on my taxes - but otherwise don't care. My name has quite a few spellings and variations - probably part of why I don't bother to care if someone misspells it. DH is the opposite. It angers him when his name is misspelled.

I might play with her a bit and make sure I spell my name the way she does when I send her correspondence. Example: If she spells it Laurynn even though it's Lauren, I will spell it Laurynn too.

FNW · Guru

chef wrote:
Lindley wrote:
I personally would just ignore it. If she is being passive aggressive by even misspelling her name back shows her you noticed and that it bugs you. Being sweet, thank her and go on like nothing happened will bug her more then anything. My sil is that way and ignoring her behavior bugs her more then anything.
I agree with ignoring it. Admittedly, this is easy for me to say because I don't care how people spell my name. I make sure it's correct when it matters - such as on my taxes - but otherwise don't care. My name has quite a few spellings and variations - probably part of why I don't bother to care if someone misspells it. DH is the opposite. It angers him when his name is misspelled.

I might play with her a bit and make sure I spell my name the way she does when I send her correspondence. Example: If she spells it Laurynn even though it's Lauren, I will spell it Laurynn too.

OMG, YES!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Vette, maybe you should ask her if she has talked to her doctor about her moments of confusion and memory loss. You are worried about her because she can't seem to remember something so simple. biggrin

Vette · Owl drink to that!

You guys are too funny :)

Okay this isn't a vent per se, but I just feel terrible for my brother. His fiancee just broke up with him for the second time, this was round two. I know he really loves her and tried really hard, I hope he can move on okay. I like her a lot too, I'm sad for both of them.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Vette wrote:
You guys are too funny :)

Okay this isn't a vent per se, but I just feel terrible for my brother. His fiancee just broke up with him for the second time, this was round two. I know he really loves her and tried really hard, I hope he can move on okay. I like her a lot too, I'm sad for both of them.

Do you know why she keeps breaking it off?

Vette · Owl drink to that!

I guess she didn't like their sex life... which, I'll admit I didn't want him to go into detail! But I mean, talk about a blow to a man's self esteem!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Vette wrote:
I am so sick of DH's mom disrespecting me. Maybe this doesn't seen like a big deal but to me it is. She refuses to spell my name correctly. And she spells it different every time we get something in the mail! I'm sorry, but the first thing you should learn about someone is how to spell their name.

I've been with her son for going on six years now. She gets a Christmas card every year. I know she is doing it on purpose because I've corrected her many times. I'm going to start sending her cards labeled Katherine with a "C".

That is really something your DH should address with his mom. He knows it bothers you and each person needs to manage their own parents. If your parent was disrespecting your spouse, you would have to call that out and vice versa.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Vette wrote:
You guys are too funny :)

Okay this isn't a vent per se, but I just feel terrible for my brother. His fiancee just broke up with him for the second time, this was round two. I know he really loves her and tried really hard, I hope he can move on okay. I like her a lot too, I'm sad for both of them.

If he was smart, he would just walk away. If she can break up repeatedly now, it's not really going to work for whatever reason. Nothing he does is going to ever be good enough in her eyes. He deserves to have someone who is going to love him for who he is.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

OK that was my Dr Laura advice for the day! Lol

FNW · Guru

Well, when it comes to sex, it takes two. It might not be mine blowing for him either. At any rate, good riddance to her. Let him find someone who appreciates his manhood. And who is emotionally connected to him. She doesn't appear to be. I wish him well and hope he gets through this soon.

I do agree that DH should talk to his mother about the misspelling. But at the same time, he knows her better than any of us, and he probably knows 1) it won't do any good or 2) it would only fuel the fire. Letting him take the lead when it comes to his relationship with his family. Let him make arrangements to get together, etc. Take a backseat on this one. Focus on your marriage.

I remember playing the game "aggravation" with my grandparents and great grandmother. Great grandma (grandfather's mother) had no problem bumping grandma's marbles. But when it came to her son, she would always claim, "oh, I didn't see that." Grandma, mom, & I would look at each other and get the giggles so hard we'd end up with the hiccups. My point: Great grandma favored her son and her DIL, not so much. Try to laugh about it. After all, he chose you.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Wait, wait, wait . . . so DH has to do the go between his mom and wife? I'm sorry and this probably won't sit well but why can't wife confront MIL? She's not helpless. Since when do we need a man to do our bidding for us?

Wait, wait, wait . . . so the brother's fiance broke off the engagement because the sex wasn't good? Seriously? How old are they? Sounds pretty damn shallow on her part and this is the second time it's been broken off? Yeah, he needs to run far and fast from her.

Divine Geek · Guru

Forever Sunshine wrote:
Wait, wait, wait . . . so DH has to do the go between his mom and wife? I'm sorry and this probably won't sit well but why can't wife confront MIL? She's not helpless. Since when do we need a man to do our bidding for us?

Wait, wait, wait . . . so the brother's fiance broke off the engagement because the sex wasn't good? Seriously? How old are they? Sounds pretty damn shallow on her part and this is the second time it's been broken off? Yeah, he needs to run far and fast from her.

It has nothing to do with ”a man to do our bidding”. It is long standing advice from multiple sources I have read to allow the partner to have the direct dealings with their family. Which means, if the husband is having an issue with an in-law, the wife should handle it.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

I guess we'll have to agree to disagree, DG. I certainly wouldn't want my partner to handle a problem I was having with a family member of his when I'm quite capable of dealing with it myself.

Divine Geek · Guru

Forever Sunshine wrote:
I guess we'll have to agree to disagree, DG. I certainly wouldn't want my partner to handle a problem I was having with a family member of his when I'm quite capable of dealing with it myself.

If I already have a strained relationship with his family, yes, I would ask for assistance is the matter. that’s not just for in-laws though. If I am having an issue with someone that has demonstrated resistance in the past, I will involve a third party that can help bridge that gap.

-- Edited by Divine Geek on Wednesday 3rd of January 2018 11:43:37 AM

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Forever Sunshine wrote:
Wait, wait, wait . . . so DH has to do the go between his mom and wife? I'm sorry and this probably won't sit well but why can't wife confront MIL? She's not helpless. Since when do we need a man to do our bidding for us?

Wait, wait, wait . . . so the brother's fiance broke off the engagement because the sex wasn't good? Seriously? How old are they? Sounds pretty damn shallow on her part and this is the second time it's been broken off? Yeah, he needs to run far and fast from her.

Yes, in my opinion, the adult child of the parents IS the go between. If my parents were mistreating my spouse, then that would be MY job to make sure my parents understand that it is unacceptable and vice versa.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

It's not a question of who is capable. It is simply the responsibility of the spouse to manage their own parents. And, if a man or women is not willing to address mistreatment by their own parents, then that should be a deal breaker.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

I have to disagree yet again. It's not the sole responsibility of one to "manage their own parent(s)" in order to defend a spouse unless the spouse is incapacitated in some manner. Again, it's my opinion and we'll all just have to agree to disagree.

FNW · Guru

I do think it is the responsibility of the spouse to protect their spouse against anyone who "puts asunder".

Lindley · Guru

Forever Sunshine wrote:
I have to disagree yet again. It's not the sole responsibility of one to "manage their own parent(s)" in order to defend a spouse unless the spouse is incapacitated in some manner. Again, it's my opinion and we'll all just have to agree to disagree.

Maybe but when the child of the parents let them know their behavior wouldn’t be tolerated it would most likely have more affect then if it was just the DIL or sil.

FNW · Guru

It also shows a united front.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Lindley wrote:
Forever Sunshine wrote:
I have to disagree yet again. It's not the sole responsibility of one to "manage their own parent(s)" in order to defend a spouse unless the spouse is incapacitated in some manner. Again, it's my opinion and we'll all just have to agree to disagree.
Maybe but when the child of the parents let them know their behavior wouldn’t be tolerated it would most likely have more affect then if it was just the DIL or sil.

That may be but for me, if my DIL has an issue with me, I expect her to come to me herself to discuss it. It certainly shows a level of maturity and respect from her to me and earns my respect of her back. If my son has to come to her defense or rescue because of an issue between she and I, I've lost respect for her far more than whatever the issue was between us.

-- Edited by Forever Sunshine on Wednesday 3rd of January 2018 01:52:48 PM

Divine Geek · Guru

I really have to go to the bathroom. But the receptionist went to the post office and we are waiting on some important visitors. I know as soon as I leave my desk, they will come. Sigh. They better hurry up!

FNW · Guru

Here you go!

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

How do you guys come up with these things ? ! ?

Ohfour · Hooker

I like the little wall urinals for potty training little boys...

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Divine Geek · Guru

The receptionist finally got back. It took her almost 2 hours to do the post office run. About 3 times what it should take.

I made sure to point out she was still gone to her boss. Because I’m nice like that wink

-- Edited by Divine Geek on Wednesday 3rd of January 2018 04:39:00 PM

Forever Sunshine · Guru

That is some hot pink for that road trip potty! And, that little guy in the urinal pic has some pretty good aim. Love that his other hand looks like it's picking his butt. It's in their DNA to be "guys" from the get-go!

Ohfour · Hooker

Aaannnd...the pipes under the parking lot froze and ruptured, now our first floor is flooded. And we can't use the restroom. Looks like I may be working from home tomorrow...

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Ohfour wrote:
Aaannnd...the pipes under the parking lot froze and ruptured, now our first floor is flooded. And we can't use the restroom. Looks like I may be working from home tomorrow...

Oh4 needs a Road Trip Potty! Stat!

biggrin

I think working from home would be best. wink

FNW · Guru

Mom put two of these (one for each car) in our Christmas basket

Ohfour · Hooker

G took me to lunch to our favorite Chinese Buffet. It's called Oriental Buffet (some people think that's racist evidently, but the owners/staff/customers obviously do not), but they had Christian Music BLARING. I go to lunch to get AWAY from Christian Music, not to have to listen to it! LOL!
I knew every song though!

FNW · Guru

I understand that Dollywood removed "Dixie" from "Dixie Stampede" name because it was offensive. Dolly, stand your ground!

Vette · Owl drink to that!

A lot of Asian joints I go to play Christian music. I love it!

-- Edited by Vette on Wednesday 10th of January 2018 04:43:46 PM

Divine Geek · Guru

Vette wrote:
A lot of Asian joints I go to play Christian music. I love it!

-- Edited by Vette on Wednesday 10th of January 2018 04:43:46 PM

The Chinese buffet I go to has Christmas music playing most of the time lol

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

I need one more gift for The Boy. His cards will arrive late. I am so behind the game! I feel badly. And he is sick.