TOTALLY GEEKED!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

RE: Don Jr To Divorce!

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Forever Sunshine wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
You dont talk about anyone but youself so what should i "infer" about that? Guess you must be orphaned and friendless. Gawd how ridiculous.

-- Edited by Lady Gaga Snerd on Monday 19th of March 2018 10:50:39 AM
That's actually not true at all. I talk about my grands all the time and friends I do things with. Perhaps maybe not on boards where you are because of how you then use information against others. So . . . It's never been a secret that I'm divorced and love it. I guess you weren't paying attention when I talked about raising my DS as a single parent in another thread here.
But you never talk about your DH. NEVER

-- Edited by Forever Sunshine on Monday 19th of March 2018 11:06:47 AM
Well, golly, I have Lilly monitoring how many hours it takes me to post and you too! I am quite flattered! lol My entire life isn't fodder for you dear.

Monitoring how many hours it takes for you to post? hahahahahah hahahah where the hell have I ever made any comment about how long it takes you to post anything. Frankly, I couldn't care less and if I never saw another post from you again, it would be the best day of my life. There's nothing for you to be flattered about! hahahaha

No, no one's life is fodder for anyone but then you often say some lives are fodder and relish going after then saying whatever you damn well please. I guess you can simply just pick and choose who you want to gossip about.

And still you missed the point of what lily and others have said. You are the one continuing to make it about you because you refuse to see the point made. I'm not surprised though!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

No i was making the thread about Don Jr. Then Lilly has to assume it's about her and off it goes off the rails! LOL!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Oooh quick, run to the OTHER board and start a thread!!! Oh yeah, you did. LOL. Wow.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
No i was making the thread about Don Jr. Then Lilly has to assume it's about her and off it goes off the rails! LOL!

WOW! I think you're the only one who thinks that. But, I'm not surprised. You really have missed the whole point. And why is Don, Jr's divorce fodder for you when yours isn't fodder for anyone else?

Lindley · Guru

Per topic, only Don Jr and his wife knows why, and I’m sorry to hear of it.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Wow. Are you really taking these discussions and making a thread on another board to trash a poster here? I hope that's not true, because that would be pretty crappy.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lindley wrote:
Per topic, only Don Jr and his wife knows why, and I’m sorry to hear of it.

So am I. Especially for their children.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I think too many people internalize these discussions. Just because you are divorced and it worked for you doesn't make it a great thing to do. Stop making everything so personally about you.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Wow. Are you really taking these discussions and making a thread on another board to trash a poster here? I hope that's not true, because that would be pretty crappy.

Actually the discussion was taken to another board but no poster's name was mentioned at all. Unfortunately, a poster here then went to that board and immediately started in with insults. lol I think the one calling a person names on another board because she can't handle the discussion here and immediately internalized it as a slam to her needs to grow up and stop being so childish.

I've read this thread and have commented that in no way do I see anything that intimates Lily was making it about her at all. She made very valid points to the discussion. It's not her fault if it goes over the heads of a few and they internalize it.

-- Edited by Forever Sunshine on Monday 19th of March 2018 01:49:43 PM

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

What a bummer, i missed the EDIT! lol

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
What a bummer, i missed the EDIT! lol

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

This is quite hilarious since Frick and Frack (FS and Lilly) were quite outspoken about Flan's marriage!!!

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Nuclear? LMFAO No one went nuclear over flan's affair with a married man. And how is that the same as Don, Jr.'s getting a divorce?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yer supposed to SHUT YER DAMN MOUTH per your sidekick's request, lol.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Forever Sunshine wrote:
Nuclear? LMFAO No one went nuclear over flan's affair with a married man. And how is that the same as Don, Jr.'s getting a divorce?

But, oh yeah, you can go apeschit on a poster's marriage but we can blather on about some celeb's marriage? OKAY DOKEY!

Forever Sunshine · Guru

You really are unstable, snicks/snerds/lgs. I mean really! I suggest you go do something else, calm down and come back and re-read the thread. No one made it about herself except you. And you're continuing to do so by your ridiculous comments that just keep coming.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lol. Gonna ignore my point where I just called you out. OK. Carry on, lol.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Outspoken was the adjective used on this board, not nuclear. Do we have toxic waste seeping in under our geeky doors?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

She can't keep her boards straight. She likes to ramp it up with a lot of F Us on the other board, lol.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Forever Sunshine wrote:
Nuclear? LMFAO No one went nuclear over flan's affair with a married man. And how is that the same as Don, Jr.'s getting a divorce?
But, oh yeah, you can go apeschit on a poster's marriage but we can blather on about some celeb's marriage? OKAY DOKEY!

You need to check yourself, sweetheart! I never went ape**** on a poster's marriage. I expressed how wrong it was to have an affair with a married man! WTF? You really are unstable.

You don't have a ****ing clue what's going on in Don Jr's marriage or why any of this is happening. You don't want your life or marriage to be fodder yet you're more than willing to speculate and gossip about his family and marriage. You need to find your boundaries and stick to them.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
She can't keep her boards straight. She likes to ramp it up with a lot of F Us on the other board, lol.

Wow! You truly are a **** stirrer. Are you off your meds again?

Forever Sunshine · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Outspoken was the adjective used on this board, not nuclear. Do we have toxic waste seeping in under our geeky doors?

Oh you can have your toxic waste. She's all yours!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Forever Sunshine wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
She can't keep her boards straight. She likes to ramp it up with a lot of F Us on the other board, lol.
Wow! You truly are a **** stirrer. Are you off your meds again?

I don't take meds but if I did, not sure why you would attack some one for that either. lol. Oh, wait...... tell me to go "F MYSELF" which your standard line elsewhere!!!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Y'all need to retreat to your corners. If another board let's you talk sh!t to each other like that, do it over there.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I shall move on!!

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

What just happened here? confuse

FNW · Guru

Wait, did Don Jr. cheat?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Not that they have said. The divorce does not allege any wrongdoing at all.

Some are speculating that she doesn't want to be in the Trump family any more after an Anthrax scare. She opened an envelope addressed to Don, Jr. that had a mysterious white powder in it and was rushed to the hospital.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

FNW wrote:
Wait, did Don Jr. cheat?

No, he is a cheapskate and has the household on a tight budget.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

So maybe he should quit being so selfish!! lol

Ohfour · Hooker

Lawyerlady wrote:
In a statement obtained Thursday night, the couple said: "After 12 years of marriage, we have decided to go our separate ways. We will always have tremendous respect for each other and our families. We have five beautiful children together and they remain our top priority. We ask for your privacy during this time.”

If your kids were your top priority, you wouldn't be divorcing. Obviously, separating is your top priority.

I'm going to have to disagree on this one. I divorced BECAUSE of my kids. They did not need to grow up in such a toxic environent.

Lindley · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
In a statement obtained Thursday night, the couple said: "After 12 years of marriage, we have decided to go our separate ways. We will always have tremendous respect for each other and our families. We have five beautiful children together and they remain our top priority. We ask for your privacy during this time.”

If your kids were your top priority, you wouldn't be divorcing. Obviously, separating is your top priority.
I'm going to have to disagree on this one. I divorced BECAUSE of my kids. They did not need to grow up in such a toxic environent.

Here is a difference between divorcing for selfish reasons and reasons to protect your children.

Forever Sunshine · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
In a statement obtained Thursday night, the couple said: "After 12 years of marriage, we have decided to go our separate ways. We will always have tremendous respect for each other and our families. We have five beautiful children together and they remain our top priority. We ask for your privacy during this time.”

If your kids were your top priority, you wouldn't be divorcing. Obviously, separating is your top priority.
I'm going to have to disagree on this one. I divorced BECAUSE of my kids. They did not need to grow up in such a toxic environent.

THANK YOU! I couldn't agree more.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Forever Sunshine wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
In a statement obtained Thursday night, the couple said: "After 12 years of marriage, we have decided to go our separate ways. We will always have tremendous respect for each other and our families. We have five beautiful children together and they remain our top priority. We ask for your privacy during this time.”

If your kids were your top priority, you wouldn't be divorcing. Obviously, separating is your top priority.
I'm going to have to disagree on this one. I divorced BECAUSE of my kids. They did not need to grow up in such a toxic environent.
THANK YOU! I couldn't agree more.

That is the whole point of the discussion. Parents should be able to NOT be toxic, usually one can but when one of the parents can't that parent is an azz.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Here's a question.

You ever know someone who got on your last nerve? At work or just a friend of a friend?

You did everything in your power to be civil, even pleasant. You were socially acceptably nice.

But you couldn't stand being around them. You smiled, you played nice, you put on a good front.

But you have another coworker or friend recognize that it's just an act.

Now. Imagine you have to share a home with that person. A bed. You shared holidays and special occasions. You keep the pleasant smile. You remain civil. You put on a good act.

How soon before you begin to resent that person? The situation? Maybe even the reason you have chosen to stay in that relationship.

Children are not stupid. They pick up on way more than you think.

How long before the kids start to realize mom and dad are not getting along? That they are pleasant but not real?

No matter how much you fake it, those kids are going to figure it out.

Do you live a lie? Do you constantly pretend?

Being toxic isn't just yelling and screaming. Being toxic can be that icy shoulder or that constant on edge feeling that hangs in the air.

If you've ever been in a room with two people and there is a tention, you've felt what toxic is.

It can be that simple.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Forever Sunshine wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
In a statement obtained Thursday night, the couple said: "After 12 years of marriage, we have decided to go our separate ways. We will always have tremendous respect for each other and our families. We have five beautiful children together and they remain our top priority. We ask for your privacy during this time.”

If your kids were your top priority, you wouldn't be divorcing. Obviously, separating is your top priority.
I'm going to have to disagree on this one. I divorced BECAUSE of my kids. They did not need to grow up in such a toxic environent.
THANK YOU! I couldn't agree more.
That is the whole point of the discussion. Parents should be able to NOT be toxic, usually one can but when one of the parents can't that parent is an azz.

Exactly. And if you loved each other enough to commit your lives to one another, then they should never be "getting on your last nerve". This isn't a co-worker you got stuck with or a friend you made on the PTO. This is a person you took a vow to love, honor and cherish for all the rest of your days. People you love, honor and cherish don't get on your last nerve. Now, they may become complete azzwipe cheats or abusers, and you can't help that, but just deciding you don't like someone anymore is not the same thing.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Should, could, would.

It's clear you really don't know what you are talking about.

And that's ok.

I pray you never gain that understanding.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well do you think they could have figured that out before having 5 kids? Sheesh.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

lilyofcourse wrote:
Should, could, would.

It's clear you really don't know what you are talking about.

And that's ok.

I pray you never gain that understanding.

Lily why are you totally disregarding the difference stated about two people committed to make it work regardless of the situation versus a partner who is toxic?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I'm not disregarding it.

I'm saying that labeling a person selfish for divorcing is wrong, especially when you are not in that marriage.

What should be, isn't what is.

If both are committed, great. However, in most divorces, that simply is not the case.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Some folks like to make every thread about them. And, apparently they are allowed to comment, but others, not so much! lol

Lindley · Guru

I understand leaving someone who is abusive, cruel and a constant cheater, but the I find them irritating etc.. is selfish especially if you have kids involved. I've seen plenty of kids who went from being happy to very unhappy due to parents putting their own happiness ahead of their children's.

Yes I do know what your talking about, but marriage is not all moonlight and roses and it was a promise we both made to our creator and both of us went into our marriage with the attitude of divorce isn't a option.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

No. It doesnt seem like I am stating my point clearly.

It isn't about being annoying.

It's when you desiderate to stay together, but resentment builds.

I just don't know how else to say it.

If you are not one of the two people in the marriage, you can't possibly know all there is to know, and you can't call them selfish because you don't know what is going on behind closed doors.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
Should, could, would.

It's clear you really don't know what you are talking about.

And that's ok.

I pray you never gain that understanding.

Yes, people with a successful marriage know nothing about making it work. evileye I mean, my husband has never gotten on my nerves, never pissed me off. We've never had to work through difficult times. In fact, our marriage is soooo perfect that we should run seminars on how to be the perfect person and spouse. We've never had disagreements about money, our sexual drives are identical, and we always agree on how best to discipline the kids. I mean, being perfect is obviously the only way to stay married. (That's sarcasm, in case you can't tell).

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

lilyofcourse wrote:
No. It doesnt seem like I am stating my point clearly.

It isn't about being annoying.

It's when you desiderate to stay together, but resentment builds.

I just don't know how else to say it.

If you are not one of the two people in the marriage, you can't possibly know all there is to know, and you can't call them selfish because you don't know what is going on behind closed doors.

Don't let it. It's a choice you have to make every damn day to love your spouse, forgive them, cherish them.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

If you are going to let resentment build over petty life stuff enough to ruin your marriage and make your children victims of divorce, you are being selfish. Life is a pain in the ass. My husband still can't load a damn dishwasher correctly or fold a towel in thirds after 18 years of showing him how. It's annoying. I get over it. I don't have the same sex drive as my husband. He still loves me.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

No. It's not about knowing how to stay ****ing married! It's about understanding that it isn't just a damn choice that's made unilaterally.

And, yes, resentment can, and does, grow.

Like I said, you don't know what the hell your talking about! Calling another person selfish for divorcing if a ****ing ****ty thing to do.

You don't have a damn, ****ing, clue what the hell you are talking about!

Divorce isn't selfish. 99% of the time it's eviscerating.

Something you DON'T get.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

What's wrong with taking meds?

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

You know what?
I don't give a f**king dam about
Don Jr and his life. We didn't
elect him to anything - he just
happens to be the son of the man
we elected to run our country for
the next four years.