DEAR ABBY: My husband, Tom, and I have three kids: One is in college, the next is in grade school and the youngest is a baby. I'm a full-time medical student, and he's a professional athlete.
From the outside, it would seem like we have a perfect life. In reality, Tom does his own thing. He attends parties, goes to exciting social events and hobnobs with the rich and famous. I am left at home to manage all of our day-to-day responsibilities and socially restricted to family functions or kid sports.
I would like to be included in the invitations and attend some of the fun activities with my husband, but when I ask him if I can go, he says they are "work-related." So I end up staying home to care for our kids. He thinks I should be happy with this and says I don't understand his business responsibilities.
I'd really like the chance to interact with other adults with my husband, but I can't seem to get him to appreciate the importance of including me. If I make a big deal about it, he opts not to attend the event at all. I'm slightly suspicious of his behavior and offended. He's kind to me, a good provider and cares for our kids, but how can I get him to understand it's important for both of us to have fun together with other adults? -- SPORTS WIFE IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR SPORTS WIFE: A wife is supposed to be more than a baby machine, housekeeper and nanny. She's supposed to be her husband's partner. While I understand there may be some events the athletes attend without spouses, it would be interesting to know whether the other athletes' wives are being treated the way you are. Surely you know some of them. Talk to the ones you are closest with. Your husband may not have been entirely honest about why he insists on flying solo, so make it your business to do some checking.
Wow, what kind of lousy timing for kids. College, grade school, baby. Almost seems like he is trying to keep her at home and taking care of the kids....
She should start with talking to him, then they need counseling.
But what if nothing changes?
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She's not a stupid woman, she is in medical school. That's not easy. She knows what is going on and has put up with it for a while now. How does she stay married? By focusing on her kids and school, and networking with adults through those connections, make new friends, and once she has proof he is cheating, and she has made herself financially and emotionally secure on her own - she can make that choice. No one need put their life at risk, and a serial cheater could be bringing home all sorts of diseases.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
So for now, she just sticks it out, hope he doesn't bring home an STD? She's unhappy. Her kids are being taught that this is ok behavior. But, she is choosing to stay married because God forbid she call him on his crap and demand change.
So what if her kids Grow up thinking it's ok to treat a woman that way? So what if she ends up with any number of diseases? So what if she becomes more and more hurt, and lonely, and depressed?
I mean, it's better for those kids for mom and dad to stay together cause that's a super healthy and stable homelife!
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My husband was gone a lot when our business was in the early stages. Golfing with clients, dinner with clients, business trips, ball games. I stayed home with the kids, I knew he wasn't cheating and it helped build our business a lot. Sometimes vendors will purchase tickets to certain events for their clients and take them.
So for now, she just sticks it out, hope he doesn't bring home an STD? She's unhappy. Her kids are being taught that this is ok behavior. But, she is choosing to stay married because God forbid she call him on his crap and demand change.
So what if her kids Grow up thinking it's ok to treat a woman that way? So what if she ends up with any number of diseases? So what if she becomes more and more hurt, and lonely, and depressed?
I mean, it's better for those kids for mom and dad to stay together cause that's a super healthy and stable homelife!
Until she has proof he is cheating, why would she end her marriage? She is in school. How is she supposed to support everyone? And she doesn't say he treats her badly at home, so how is he "treating" her in front of the kids?
She has had 3 children spaced basically a decade a part each and been married for a long time. You don't just throw everything away because of one issue. Marriage is not disposable, even if you happen to think it is.
And she could stop fvcking him.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Like a maid, a nanny, and not taking her with him.
The kids are learning that it's ok for a man to go out and do whatever, whenever, and the woman is no more than the maid a nanny.
They are teaching it is ok to disrespect the woman.
They are supposed to be equals in the marriage. They are not.
But, she's raising the kids, taking care of the house, going to school, and the only married activity they seem to share is sex.
So, tell me, other than sex, how is not already a single parent?
Oh, right, it's that piece of paper and the ability to say she is married.
Because, it doesn't seem like she is happy in her marriage. It doesn't seem like he is caring for her the way a man should.
And while I do not believe marriage is disposable, thank you for that condescending bull****, by the way, I do believe that it isn't always the best thing for everyone involved.
She is being treated like crap, and doing it all by herself. But by all means, stay in that marriage and keep doing alone, better doing that than maybe teaching your kids that isn't how to treat your spouse, or even find someone who would love and treat you like you should be treated.
I mean, LL says it's selfish to be anything other than married.
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She never had said she was unhappy with her marriage just that she would like to be asked to go to some events. Even though like her I was the one who mostly took care of the home my children were very aware that we both worked hard and were firm in being committed. There were times I felt like throwing in the towel but I didn’t and I’m so glad I didn’t.
My mother was a product of a broken home as well as my nephews and they worked harder on their marriages then anyone I know because they didn’t/don’t want their kids to have broken homes. I remember the pain and hurt those two boys had. I understand if there is abuse of either spouse or child and cheating then they should leave them.
-- Edited by Lindley on Saturday 31st of March 2018 02:13:54 PM
Like a maid, a nanny, and not taking her with him.
The kids are learning that it's ok for a man to go out and do whatever, whenever, and the woman is no more than the maid a nanny.
They are teaching it is ok to disrespect the woman.
They are supposed to be equals in the marriage. They are not.
But, she's raising the kids, taking care of the house, going to school, and the only married activity they seem to share is sex.
So, tell me, other than sex, how is not already a single parent?
Oh, right, it's that piece of paper and the ability to say she is married.
Because, it doesn't seem like she is happy in her marriage. It doesn't seem like he is caring for her the way a man should.
And while I do not believe marriage is disposable, thank you for that condescending bull****, by the way, I do believe that it isn't always the best thing for everyone involved.
She is being treated like crap, and doing it all by herself. But by all means, stay in that marriage and keep doing alone, better doing that than maybe teaching your kids that isn't how to treat your spouse, or even find someone who would love and treat you like you should be treated.
I mean, LL says it's selfish to be anything other than married.
LL says it's selfish to throw away your marriage when you have children just because you want to. Your children are more important than that. You seem to have a mental block over the selfishness of just divorcing because you think the grass is greener elsewhere. Just because divorce was best for you does not mean it is best for everyone. AGAIN - since you didn't answer the last time, don't you think it would have been better if your husband wasn't a selfish, cheating ass, and actually cherished his wife and was a good father to his kids?
You are the one who makes everything about you. Now answer the question, flan.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Like a maid, a nanny, and not taking her with him.
The kids are learning that it's ok for a man to go out and do whatever, whenever, and the woman is no more than the maid a nanny.
They are teaching it is ok to disrespect the woman.
They are supposed to be equals in the marriage. They are not.
But, she's raising the kids, taking care of the house, going to school, and the only married activity they seem to share is sex.
So, tell me, other than sex, how is not already a single parent?
Oh, right, it's that piece of paper and the ability to say she is married.
Because, it doesn't seem like she is happy in her marriage. It doesn't seem like he is caring for her the way a man should.
And while I do not believe marriage is disposable, thank you for that condescending bull****, by the way, I do believe that it isn't always the best thing for everyone involved.
She is being treated like crap, and doing it all by herself. But by all means, stay in that marriage and keep doing alone, better doing that than maybe teaching your kids that isn't how to treat your spouse, or even find someone who would love and treat you like you should be treated.
I mean, LL says it's selfish to be anything other than married.
LL says it's selfish to throw away your marriage when you have children just because you want to. Your children are more important than that. You seem to have a mental block over the selfishness of just divorcing because you think the grass is greener elsewhere. Just because divorce was best for you does not mean it is best for everyone. AGAIN - since you didn't answer the last time, don't you think it would have been better if your husband wasn't a selfish, cheating ass, and actually cherished his wife and was a good father to his kids?
You are the one who makes everything about you. Now answer the question, flan.
I didn't know there was a question!
Yes. IF!
IF is the big, big, BIG difference.
BUT!
THAT'S WHAT I HAVE BEEN SAYING!!!!
YOU DON'T KNOW THE STORY OF ANYONE'S MARRIAGE BUT THOSE TWO INVOLVED!
IF IS WHAT PEOPLE ON THE OUTSIDE USE TO JUDGE THOSE ON THE INSIDE!
WHEN TWO PEOPLE ARE DIVORCING, OR DIVORCED, YOU DON'T GET TO CALL THEM SELFISH BECAUSE YOU DON'T THINK THEY WANTED TO STAY MARRIED.
YOU CALLED ME SELFISH WITH YOUR "IF TWO PEOPLE CARE ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN " BULL****!!
YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN ANYONE'S MARRIAGE ENOUGH TO CALL ANYONE SELFISH!
Is that clear enough? Do you understand now?
Just because YOU think it's selfish, shows YOU have no possible idea WHAT THE HELL you are talking about!
IF you would actually read, you would see I said I do NOT think divorce should be the first option, EVER!
But what do I know? I'm just one who selfishly took 3 damn years to actually go through with a divorce. I must have so damn selfish at that point to want my kids, and myself, out of that limbo. Who knows? Maybe if I wasn't so selfish after the STD, I could have gotten AIDS!
When you decide two people with children divorcing are selfish, simply because on the outside you have no miniscule idea of what is happening behind closed doors, you are offensive to everyone who has divorced.
When it comes to divorce, it's a big steaming pile of mind your own damn business.
Now, is that an answer enough for you?
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And Lily, a woman going to medical school is not just a maid and nanny. Or are you saying that's all SAHMs are?
A woman whose husband DOESN'T TAKE HER TO ANY OF HIS FUNCTIONS.
Tell me, if your husband never did anything with you but **** you, would you be anything more to him than the whore who raises his kids, cleans his house, and cooks his food? No.
How long would you put up with that?
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Well, in reality, he has probably been like this since they were dating and since BEFORE they had kids. Or, is she just figuring this out now? Come on.
Doesn't sound like either of them are that much into the kids. Medical school, professional athlete, parties, studying , when is there any time for the kids?
And Lily, a woman going to medical school is not just a maid and nanny. Or are you saying that's all SAHMs are?
A woman whose husband DOESN'T TAKE HER TO ANY OF HIS FUNCTIONS.
Tell me, if your husband never did anything with you but **** you, would you be anything more to him than the whore who raises his kids, cleans his house, and cooks his food? No.
How long would you put up with that?
Well, it depends. I mean, he could be playing around. Or maybe she has let herself go into a fat slob with bad teeth and he doesn't want to take her out. Maybe she's uncouth in public, or dresses inappropriately. While our first instinct is that he's a cheating ass, she could just be terrible company in public.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Like a maid, a nanny, and not taking her with him.
The kids are learning that it's ok for a man to go out and do whatever, whenever, and the woman is no more than the maid a nanny.
They are teaching it is ok to disrespect the woman.
They are supposed to be equals in the marriage. They are not.
But, she's raising the kids, taking care of the house, going to school, and the only married activity they seem to share is sex.
So, tell me, other than sex, how is not already a single parent?
Oh, right, it's that piece of paper and the ability to say she is married.
Because, it doesn't seem like she is happy in her marriage. It doesn't seem like he is caring for her the way a man should.
And while I do not believe marriage is disposable, thank you for that condescending bull****, by the way, I do believe that it isn't always the best thing for everyone involved.
She is being treated like crap, and doing it all by herself. But by all means, stay in that marriage and keep doing alone, better doing that than maybe teaching your kids that isn't how to treat your spouse, or even find someone who would love and treat you like you should be treated.
I mean, LL says it's selfish to be anything other than married.
LL says it's selfish to throw away your marriage when you have children just because you want to. Your children are more important than that. You seem to have a mental block over the selfishness of just divorcing because you think the grass is greener elsewhere. Just because divorce was best for you does not mean it is best for everyone. AGAIN - since you didn't answer the last time, don't you think it would have been better if your husband wasn't a selfish, cheating ass, and actually cherished his wife and was a good father to his kids?
You are the one who makes everything about you. Now answer the question, flan.
I didn't know there was a question!
Yes. IF!
IF is the big, big, BIG difference.
BUT!
THAT'S WHAT I HAVE BEEN SAYING!!!!
YOU DON'T KNOW THE STORY OF ANYONE'S MARRIAGE BUT THOSE TWO INVOLVED!
IF IS WHAT PEOPLE ON THE OUTSIDE USE TO JUDGE THOSE ON THE INSIDE!
WHEN TWO PEOPLE ARE DIVORCING, OR DIVORCED, YOU DON'T GET TO CALL THEM SELFISH BECAUSE YOU DON'T THINK THEY WANTED TO STAY MARRIED.
YOU CALLED ME SELFISH WITH YOUR "IF TWO PEOPLE CARE ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN " BULL****!!
YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN ANYONE'S MARRIAGE ENOUGH TO CALL ANYONE SELFISH!
Is that clear enough? Do you understand now?
Just because YOU think it's selfish, shows YOU have no possible idea WHAT THE HELL you are talking about!
IF you would actually read, you would see I said I do NOT think divorce should be the first option, EVER!
But what do I know? I'm just one who selfishly took 3 damn years to actually go through with a divorce. I must have so damn selfish at that point to want my kids, and myself, out of that limbo. Who knows? Maybe if I wasn't so selfish after the STD, I could have gotten AIDS!
When you decide two people with children divorcing are selfish, simply because on the outside you have no miniscule idea of what is happening behind closed doors, you are offensive to everyone who has divorced.
When it comes to divorce, it's a big steaming pile of mind your own damn business.
Now, is that an answer enough for you?
And you are not hearing me. Unless one spouse is a serial cheater or abusive, divorce when you have children is ALWAYS selfish. No matter how much you try to justify it. Making the home miserable by fighting is selfish. Having children means you don't get to act like one, anymore. It means you SACRIFICE for the betterment of your children. It means you find a way to not be miserable or you pretend. It's that simple. Busting up your children's home because your spouse gets on your nerves is SELFISH.
And since your husband was a serial cheater, I AM NOT FVCKING TALKING ABOUT YOU!!!!
-- Edited by Lawyerlady on Sunday 1st of April 2018 11:41:03 PM
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Not all companies include spouses to functions. The company my husband worked for when we were first married didn't include spouses to their Christmas parties neither did where I worked.
Not all companies include spouses to functions. The company my husband worked for when we were first married didn't include spouses to their Christmas parties neither did where I worked.
Spouses are not invited to our Christmas party.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
I remember my grandfather. He divorced my grandmother to marry a younger woman. Then, his younger wife had a child, got fat, stopped bathing and lost her teeth. She was no longer the hot babe he left my grandmother for. He left her, too. He didn't divorce her, but he went and lived with his sister and her husband. Shallow bastard. His own youngest daughter wouldn't attend his funeral. But, lots of men are shallow. But, then again, I wouldn't want to live with a fat, smelly, toothless slob, either. So, there's that.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
And Lily, a woman going to medical school is not just a maid and nanny. Or are you saying that's all SAHMs are?
A woman whose husband DOESN'T TAKE HER TO ANY OF HIS FUNCTIONS.
Tell me, if your husband never did anything with you but **** you, would you be anything more to him than the whore who raises his kids, cleans his house, and cooks his food? No.
How long would you put up with that?
Well, it depends. I mean, he could be playing around. Or maybe she has let herself go into a fat slob with bad teeth and he doesn't want to take her out. Maybe she's uncouth in public, or dresses inappropriately. While our first instinct is that he's a cheating ass, she could just be terrible company in public.
Now who is not answering the question?
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I remember my grandfather. He divorced my grandmother to marry a younger woman. Then, his younger wife had a child, got fat, stopped bathing and lost her teeth. She was no longer the hot babe he left my grandmother for. He left her, too. He didn't divorce her, but he went and lived with his sister and her husband. Shallow bastard. His own youngest daughter wouldn't attend his funeral. But, lots of men are shallow. But, then again, I wouldn't want to live with a fat, smelly, toothless slob, either. So, there's that.
How very selfish of you! You said the children should come first!
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Yeah, LL'S point is it's selfish to divorce unless the other is a chronic cheater or abusive.
Just because they are shallow or change in appearance is no reason to divorce.
So what if they become a completely different person from what you married? It's selfish to divorce.
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Lily, someone is being selfish, the spouse who is physically and emotionally abusive, a cheater,or stopped caring about their partner no matter what someone in the relationship is being selfish and I'm not saying both parties but at least one of them is being selfish. Yes one should take their children out of a abusive situation and themselves too, but yes some of the reasons you brought up is selfish.
Yeah, LL'S point is it's selfish to divorce unless the other is a chronic cheater or abusive.
Just because they are shallow or change in appearance is no reason to divorce.
So what if they become a completely different person from what you married? It's selfish to divorce.
Yes. It is. Thank you for finally getting it. Marriage is a vow for life - for better or worse, richer or poorer, through sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do you part.
Or, we could re-write those vows, "I take thee until you irritate the **** out of me, I fall for someone else, you spend all our money, or I'm just unhappy, whether it affects other people or not."
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
I remember my grandfather. He divorced my grandmother to marry a younger woman. Then, his younger wife had a child, got fat, stopped bathing and lost her teeth. She was no longer the hot babe he left my grandmother for. He left her, too. He didn't divorce her, but he went and lived with his sister and her husband. Shallow bastard. His own youngest daughter wouldn't attend his funeral. But, lots of men are shallow. But, then again, I wouldn't want to live with a fat, smelly, toothless slob, either. So, there's that.
Are you saying you'd divorce if your husband if he became fat, lost his teeth, and slacked in his hygiene?
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Yeah, LL'S point is it's selfish to divorce unless the other is a chronic cheater or abusive.
Just because they are shallow or change in appearance is no reason to divorce.
So what if they become a completely different person from what you married? It's selfish to divorce.
Yes. It is. Thank you for finally getting it. Marriage is a vow for life - for better or worse, richer or poorer, through sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do you part.
Or, we could re-write those vows, "I take thee until you irritate the **** out of me, I fall for someone else, you spend all our money, or I'm just unhappy, whether it affects other people or not."
Oh. I got it. You think you have a right to judge another's marriage, or divorce.
By the way, it's you who haven't answered the question this time.
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Tell me, if your husband never did anything with you but **** you, would you be anything more to him than the whore who raises his kids, cleans his house, and cooks his food? No.
How long would you put up with that?
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Tell me, if your husband never did anything with you but **** you, would you be anything more to him than the whore who raises his kids, cleans his house, and cooks his food? No.
How long would you put up with that?
One thing a wife isn't a whore and there are many ways a wife can make her point. Even so the husband is being selfish so divorce is still caused by a spouse being selfish.....
We all including our spouse can be selfish in some way or another and it takes effort respect and goals. You have dry spells, sickness, death of parents , problems with kids and other kinds of struggles. My husband is a owner of a company and is away from home a lot, I worked, took care of the home and kids. I never felt like what you would call a whore. He was trying to grow a business. I could have quit, filed for divorce because I felt stuck at home, but then I would have missed the good times..
-- Edited by Lindley on Monday 2nd of April 2018 08:35:02 PM
Getting fat and lacking hygiene and not taking care of your teeth is selfish
-- Edited by Lady Gaga Snerd on Monday 2nd of April 2018 08:00:25 PM
And is a path to abusiveness. My first ex was like this but I believe he did so to make me embarrassed to go out in public so I would give up seeing the family and friends. Much deeper motivations than bad hygiene and such.
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LL said if a person with kids divorces, they are selfish.
Then she attempted to back track with the caveat of abuse or cheating.
However, she still said anyone with kids divorcing is selfish.
But then she turned around and said if her spouse got fat, lost teeth, and developed body odor, she wouldn't want to stay with them. So is it selfish to divorce them? Because she said anyone with kids divorcing is selfish.
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Topics like this is hard to explain on a message board, you can't hear the voice tones or see the facial expressions and to really take the time to explain in detail of what we want to say. I know I have a hard time trying to explain what and why I believe something.
I think no one here blames someone who left a abusive and dangerous situation as they should to not only protect themselves but their children as well. When we were saying it is selfish, it doesn't mean one spouse didn't try their hardest and tried to be the best wife or husband they could be, but the other spouse wouldn't try nor want to because they only cared about themselves. They don't care about their children enough to work on being a better spouse or parent.
Lily, I think you are taking this thread, too personally.
I'm sure you would agree, that a two parent household, would be best, for the children.
It's very sad, when that doesn't happen.
Abuse. Cheating. Those are deal breakers. Better to split up. For the sake of the children, and the wronged spouse.
Weight gain, or loss of teeth, well, those things happen. Even with good health habits.
(Wayne has more caps in his mouth, than anyone I know. I, on the other hand, have never had a cap. It can be luck of the draw. I would never dump Wayne, because his teeth are soft, and fall apart.)
And, we both go up and down, with weight. After all these years, it's not a big deal.
It's all about love.
As long as we love each other, in spite of our imperfections, all is well.
No. I would not agree that a two parent house hold is always best.
Because even if the two decide to stay married for the kids, doesn't mean it's best for the kids.
See, two parents in the home doesn't automatically mean it's a wonderful home.
As I have said, if you can not understand that, it's good. It means you haven't had to live it.
But yes, it pisses me right off when an outsider declares those with children who divorce are selfish.
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So basically your saying that we should just get divorced because we are tired of our spouse and my needs aren't being met because I know longer desire them because they gained weight, loss of hair, not rich enough or boring., or they are not perfect.
What I have said over and over and over and over is that unless you are either the wife or the husband who are getting divorced, you don't have a right to judge if they should or shouldnt divorce, you don't get to call them selfish because you don't know what is going on in that relationship.
And, FWM, I did read your post.
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I remember my grandfather. He divorced my grandmother to marry a younger woman. Then, his younger wife had a child, got fat, stopped bathing and lost her teeth. She was no longer the hot babe he left my grandmother for. He left her, too. He didn't divorce her, but he went and lived with his sister and her husband. Shallow bastard. His own youngest daughter wouldn't attend his funeral. But, lots of men are shallow. But, then again, I wouldn't want to live with a fat, smelly, toothless slob, either. So, there's that.
Are you saying you'd divorce if your husband if he became fat, lost his teeth, and slacked in his hygiene?
Don't be silly. But I certainly wouldn't go out with him or fvck him anymore. Of course, that won't happen, because like Husker always insisted - I chose better than that.
And fat and no teeth - that's natural aging. Hygiene is a choice. Take a damn bath. Of course, I"m not a shy wife, I'd dump soapy water on him, or otherwise make sure that crap didn't happen. Some people are ok to let things just slide,and then give up. I love my husband, I wouldn't let him become that way.
-- Edited by Lawyerlady on Tuesday 3rd of April 2018 04:56:22 PM
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
she did make LL's point.
